In order to save his daughter Hehe, who had leukemia, Fang Yinuo went to kneel for the doctor just to know the information of the person who refused to donate bone marrow.
After knowing that there is no hope, he wants to have a second child with his ex-husband, even if it does not matter if he destroys the two families of himself and his ex-husband.
In the barrage, it was said that Fang Yinuo's mother was too great, and she was willing to do anything in order to save the child, she was too difficult. However, I couldn't understand the logic of Fang Yinuo's maternal love, and even felt that she was a little selfish.
01.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's divorce is a grudge between adults, no matter whose problem it is, it has nothing to do with children. However, she projected her resentment towards Xiao Lu onto Hehe.
After the divorce, Fang Yinuo changed his daughter to Fang He, did not tell her who was his biological father, and did not let her ex-husband's family see his daughter for four years.
She felt that it was for the good of her daughter, and felt that Xiao Lu was not worthy to see her daughter because he had cheated on him, and it was he who had destroyed the family.
She hated Xiao Lu and couldn't get out of this hurt, but she pulled her daughter along. If Xiao Lu is the kind of person who has a tendency to domestic violence, it is understandable that meeting will hurt children. However, in addition to cheating, Xiao Lu did not have a tendency to domestic violence.
And from the time he secretly looks at his daughter and buys things for her, to the time when her daughter is sick and goes to the hospital to accompany her, it can be seen that he is a good father and likes his daughter very much.
Hehe is also eager to have his father company, and once Fang Yinuo took Hehe to the park to play. While playing with the slide, Hehe saw a little girl playing with her father, and she couldn't help but walk over and call out to her father!
The little girl, who immediately hugged her father, said to her: This is my father.
This scene, I saw my tears brushing and flowing!
This voice of father shows hehe's inner desire for his father. I don't know how Fang Yinuo feels in his heart?
Because they can't get out of the shadow of divorce, they forbid their daughters to meet with their fathers, can this also be called loving children? It's not love, it's selfishness.
Another time, after Hehe finished chemotherapy, he cried in pain. Confused and called his father, Xiao Lu next to him shook Hehe's hand and cried together. Both heartbroken and excited, this is the first time my daughter has called Daddy! Although, unconscious.
It can be seen how much Xiao Lu longs in his heart for Hehe to call him Daddy, not Uncle Xiao!
However, for the sake of his daughter, he can only be her uncle Xiao. Compared with Yinuo, I think Xiao Lu's love for Hehe is a little more.
True love is not about controlling you and making decisions for you in the name of being good for you. Loving a daughter, but depriving her of the right to know who her biological father is, is not called love, it is called control.
02.
Hehe's leukemia is getting worse and worse, and if you can't find a match, you are likely to lose your life.
At that time, the matching of relatives and friends did not meet, and the volunteers of the China Bone Marrow Bank were successfully matched, and because they wanted to get pregnant, they refused to donate.
Fang Yinuo decided to take a desperate risk, had a second child with Xiao Lu, and used umbilical cord blood to save Hehe.
She seemed uncomfortable and distressed when she made this decision, but if you think about it, you will see how selfish her decision is.
She wants to have a second child with Xiao Lu, whether it is a test tube or a real one, and she needs to destroy the two families. Because no one will be generous enough to tolerate their other half and have children with other people of the opposite sex.
Not only that, but Hehe will also be hurt. Because Hehe has always recognized Xie Tianhua as his own father.
When the father and mother divorce, the child must be very sad. And the marriage of Uncle Xiao that he likes to his mother means that Uncle Xiao has destroyed his family. She liked Uncle Shaw so much, and she certainly couldn't accept this ending.
Taking a step back, Hehe knew that Xiao Lu was her father, but Xie Tianhua was not. This sudden change, what do you think of the 5-year-old her heart?
You may say that this matter is not good to hide from Hehe. Then you underestimate the sensitivity of children too much, and sometimes they know everything.
Fang Yinuo's decision was too reckless and selfish, she only cared about saving Hehe, and did not consider the consequences at all.
Pursuing one's own interests is not selfishness, but harming the interests of others for one's own interests is selfishness.
Because of her decision, four people, two families will suffer the consequences. If the love for Hehe is based on hurting others, do you think that this heavy love, Hehe wants to accept?
03.
Xie Tianhua was determined not to divorce, even if she wanted to have a second child with Xiao Lu to save Hehe.
The first time I went out to open a house, the two people did not break through the bottom line. At the same time, she discovers that she is pregnant with Xie Tianhua's child. She had not yet given up having a second child with Xiao Lu, and she actually had the idea of beating up the child.
Hehe is her child, isn't this her child in the belly?
Fang Yinuo wanted to kill her and Xie Tianhua's children in order to follow Xiao Lu's children, even if the arrogant eldest sister Xie Dan knelt down for her and begged her to stay, she did not immediately nod her head.
Fang's mother is even more powerful to support her own daughter: the child is in my daughter's belly, she wants it, if she doesn't want it, she will beat it, and none of you can be the lord.
I very much disagree with Mother Fang's words. Could it be that the child is the mother alone? Dad, too, has the right to decide.
Although Xie Tianhua loves Fang Yinuo, she can't bully honest people, and everything has to be decided by herself.
There is nothing wrong with following your own ideas, but if following your ideas will hurt the interests of others, it is selfish. She wants to save Hehe, there is no mistake, everyone is also fully supportive, pay for it, contribute to it.
Xie's parents took the pension money to her, as a step-grandfather, step-grandmother, this really has nothing to say, how many grandparents can't do it.
Before that, the Xie family had always wanted a child, because there was Hehe, and there was no urging her. Now that there was finally the Xie family's child in his belly, Fang Yinuo moved his mind to beat it off.
In order to save one child, beat up another child and have another child with someone else. It seems that Fang Yinuo is the most difficult and painful, but this is unfair to the three children.
Even if Hehe is rescued, there will be more pressure in the future! One child was beaten because of himself, and the other was born because of himself, just for the sake of umbilical cord blood.
Is Fang Yinuo's maternal love still great? Isn't it selfish to sacrifice two children for the love of one child?
Even Xiao Lu said directly to her: You have already ruined a family, don't destroy a second one.
04.
In this world, no matter what form of love, whether it is maternal love or love between lovers! Remember, don't control, hurt, and sacrifice in the name of love!
Instead, learn to be perfect, to protect, to reconcile!
Always remember: love can fight for itself, but it cannot have no bottom line; it can tolerate everything, but it cannot reverse black and white!
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