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Watching "Dear Child", there is a very emotional point, that is, several families that appear in it really have their own problems, which are difficult to be perfect, but they also have merits.
In fact, the reality is also the same, no matter how good the family, there may be difficult people to get along with, there are people with bad personalities, including themselves.
Sometimes, if you meet the right road, you can get along harmoniously, and if you meet the wrong person, a good personality may become incomprehensible.
Let's say Xiao Lujia, this mother-in-law is actually quite good at heart, but the personality is a little scary, too big and grinning a little, playing trouble, smoking, mouthless, reckless and no sense of proportion.
When encountering a stubborn and gentle person like Fang Yinuo, it is easy to have conflicts.
But Dong Fan, who was married later by Xiao Lu, got along much better. Because Dong Fan is the kind of gentle and well-behaved type, you can unconditionally let this mother-in-law, anyway, do not carry with her, everywhere to tolerate acceptance and understanding is no problem.
Speaking of the little uncle Xiao Xu, in the eyes of people like Fang Yinuo," who has a "teacher's personality", that is, when he sees Xiao Xu, he can't help but preach, because this guy doesn't do his job, doesn't work, and chews on the old man, like a second-rate son. But he is actually kind in his heart, but unfortunately, his living habits are not good, and he is lazy and unmotivated.
However, in Dong Fan's place, she would not care about these things, or even if she wanted to manage, she would not use an educational tone, but would remind Xiao Xu like a friend, after all, the two people can still play games together, and communication will not be effortless.
However, the premise is also that Dong Fan loves Xiao Lu more, so he can fully tolerate his family. Fang Yinuo is not unloving Xiao Lu, but during the period of giving birth, he was hurt by some of his behaviors, coupled with anxiety such as taking a baby, resulting in a decrease in patience, which will easily stimulate family conflicts.
Another important reason is that the Fang Yinuo family also has a mother who is not easy to deal with, and the father is more calm, rational, gentle, and easy to get along with. However, this Fang mother belongs to the strong and capable type, with high requirements, paying attention to many, and the mouth is not sparing, which is easy to bring people a sense of oppression.
In comparison, Xiao Lu's mother is just a little annoying, but her temper is better.
However, although Fang Yinuo's mother was capable, Li Suo, and reliable in doing things, her temper was very strong, and Xiao Lu and his mother were obviously a little timid in front of Fang's mother.
Speaking of Xie Tianhua's family, he and his parents, as well as his brother-in-law, are all good-natured people, but they have a difficult sister, and the sister's family of three still lives together.
Fang Yinuo was also bold, or she was willing to enter his somewhat complicated family because she saw Xie Tianhua's sincerity and his sincerity to his daughter.
Because Fang Yinuo is not the kind of bully, letting this strong sister be nothing more than grateful for Xie Tianhua's love and consideration for their mother and daughter.
This man deserves her to endure the noise and strength of the big sister, and the sister's kind of way she can quarrel and fight at any time, and ordinary people really can't deal with it and can't stand it.
As far as these three families are concerned, none of them are really perfect, and no matter which family you live in, there are advantages and disadvantages.
This is also the truth of the world, it is difficult to be perfect, conditions, character, character, all aspects want to achieve their own requirements and needs, it is very difficult.
Many times you have to adapt, run in, and accept on your own.
But the point is still on the lover you choose, if you really love each other, and get along harmoniously, habits, three views, personality, all aspects are harmonious, then you can be less harsh on each other's family.
After all, most of your family members and relatives also have some problems, or your lover may not be suitable when getting along with your relatives.
Everyone can only tolerate, tolerate, understand, and be open-minded under the premise of loving and being loved. Otherwise, you will have to jump from time to time, and there will be no tranquility.
Others feel that when choosing a partner, they should also look at his family situation and understand how his family members are, because marriage is a union of two families.
There is nothing wrong with this, like the people in these families in the play, although they have their own problems, but in general, they are all good people, honest people, not unforgiving, nor personality danger.
If it is only a bad personality when getting along, in fact, it can still be solved by taking a step back and understanding each other. But if you feel that you can't tolerate it, have a strong sense of self, and don't want to compromise for your partner, it's not easy to do, because if you don't want to change and adjust, don't want to improve your mood or pattern, maybe no matter which family you change, there will probably be contradictions and conflicts.
Because people get too close to each other, there will be some friction and collision, in this process, both sides need to have love and gentleness, understanding and generosity, and even need self-confidence and wisdom, otherwise it is really useless to change people.
However, the premise is to remember that there is no "terrible danger" in the chosen family, because at least in the case of personal safety, people can live together. In addition, some differences and differences in personality can be resolved and dealt with.