Author | Oops Mom
The hit drama "Dear Child" has finally ushered in the grand finale.
Unlike the ending of the movie version and the realistic prototype, Hehe, who suffered from leukemia, finally had a successful operation and successfully entered the second grade.
Not only that, she also became an important emotional bond between her biological parents Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, who reorganized their families, and let everyone put aside all their grievances.
If the first half of the play allows the audience to see the very real side of the family of new parents: chaos, chaos, and chicken feathers.
Then the second half of the play shows more of the temptation and greatness of love:
In order to save Hehe, everyone expressed infinite kindness;
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, who have been divorced, are even determined to break the world and have another child, and use the umbilical cord blood of the newborn to save Hehe...
Even if stories like this do not often occur in reality, it is undeniable that many plots and stories in the play always bring reflection and inspiration to the audience.
In particular, these 3 educational truths are worth a good look at by all parents.
The most well-behaved child actually hated his parents the most
The reason why Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage will disintegrate is not unrelated to the intervention of zhu Zhu, a "third party".
This seemingly well-behaved, well-read girl, "knows three and does three." Taking advantage of Xiao Lu's drunkenness, she took the initiative to seduce and take photos as evidence.
In order to ascend to the throne, he did not hesitate to personally destroy his reputation and ran to the scene of the Hehe's first birthday feast.
However, looking at her original family, we know:
It's not so much that she's overwhelmed by love, it's that everything she does is to get revenge on her mother, the one who controlled her life to death.
Since childhood, she has lived under the control of her mother. Whatever you do, what you wear, do as your mother asks.
Small enough not to eat roadside things, not to wipe lipstick.
It is big enough to deal with anyone and what kind of man to marry in the future, all of which must be checked by the mother.
It is such a well-behaved girl who follows the rules and never dares to easily disobey her mother, and meets Xiao Lu, who is slightly better to her, and the "rebellion" in her heart is activated.
Countless times wanted to escape the hypocritical life, tore off the mask of falsehood, and finally "decided" to break with his mother.
I know that my mother cares most about face and hates "little three" the most. She is partial to the work, not afraid of other people's pointing, and does not take her mother's teachings to heart.
That crazy, stalking fight is no different from a child who has been suppressed by his parents for a long time and suddenly defected overnight.
And her voice complaint to her mother, saying that she had exhausted her grievances and resentments for many years.
In the traditional concept, whether a child is well-behaved or not is the criterion for judging whether he is good or not.
But how many children who are required to be obedient, sensible, and obedient will not develop according to their parents' scripts in the end, but desperately want to draw a line with their parents.
Firmly controlled in the cage of "well-behaved", they are too bitter and tired, and the only thing they can do is to flee.
So stop being self-righteous and ask your child to be obedient, and don't suppress him everywhere.
The best relationship with children is always based on respect and acceptance.
The biggest mistake of parents is "pet killing"
Speaking of the most surprising little character in the play, it is Xiao Lu's younger brother Xiao Xu.
Although in the ending, he changed his former wrongs, was willing to work steadily, and reconciled with his ex-girlfriend, but at first he was really a loser, an old man, and a mother who everyone hated.
When he was a child, he was weak, and his mother was very fond of him, giving priority to him no matter what he did, and doing everything.
Seeing that he was not doing his job and sleeping at home all day and playing games, his mother pulled down his face and "begged" his card friends to help introduce the work.
Always tell Xiao Lu to let him go and not to bother with him.
Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child for the Xiao family, and the mother was not worried about the granddaughter, but the baby's placenta, in order to supplement Xiao Xu's body.
Xiao Xu naturally enjoyed the help of his mother and brother, and could not see the problems on his body.
The eyes are low, it is not good to go to work to suspect this and that, but also steal the mother's pension, after the matter is exposed, resolutely do not admit mistakes.
Educator Sukhomlinsky said:
"For a family, parents are the roots and children are the flowers. Parents often 'see' their children's problems, but they don't know that this is actually their own problems 'blossoming' in their children. ”
Xiao Xu's laziness, willfulness and selfishness reflect precisely the educational level that his mother over-favors.
In reality, countless "loving mothers and many losers" fully illustrate:
Excessive pampering is not love, but "harm" with a high poison.
The real "good for you" should be to make sure that the child has clothes and food to eat, and to make sure that he grows up when he should be independent.
No amount of money can make up for the lack of parents' companionship with their children
I once heard the confession of a friend next to me:
When I first became a parent, I was very young, thinking that going out early to work harder and make more money could give my daughter a better life guarantee.
For more than ten years before my daughter went to junior high school, she lived with the elderly, and she only went back once or twice a year.
Later, when his health was not good, he went back to his hometown to recuperate, thinking of cultivating a good relationship with his daughter and making up for the time he had missed before.
As a result, the daughter did not kiss herself at all, and she was unwilling to say anything, but she wanted money to be diligent, and if she did not give it, she would collide. She said: "I really regret that when I should have accompanied her and educated her the most, I chose to work and gave up on her." ”
After listening, I can't help but sigh.
Yes, how many parents are used to ignoring this fact when raising their children:
No child will always be waiting for his parents where he is, and whether his parents are there or not, he will run and grow up day by day.
Once the ten-year validity period of accompanying children is missed, parents can only look at the child's back, and it is difficult to enter the child's life.
Lei Wen, the "good girlfriend" in the play, was abandoned by her rich father since she was a child and lacked her father's love for a long time.
The identity of a single child made her lose her vision of marriage early, and what was even more frightening was that she could not truly accept her father's late love.
Even if Dad took out her credit card and let her spend it at will, she was unmoved and pushed Dad out the door.
In fact, she doesn't want to be like a normal child, with mommy pain and daddy love.
It was only when she needed it most that her father's determination to leave, years of absence, completely ruined her sense of security. When Dad came back to make up for it and tried to repair the father-daughter relationship, all he got was guilt and disappointment.
The child's childhood lacks love and companionship, and life will always be missing such a piece, unable to make up, doomed to be unsatisfactory.
Take advantage of the opportunity to accompany your child now, please look at him more and feel his growth with your heart.
Not leaving the child, not missing every important moment in his life, is the greatest self-consciousness of parents.
Why is "Dear Child" so popular in parent circles?
In the final analysis, it is countless viewers who see all aspects of their lives in the play, or sour, or sweet, or bitter, or hot.
This is the truth of the world.
I hope that after reading all the changes in the world and tasting the tastes of life, we can truly understand what a good education is and strive to raise every dear child.
As Lan Hai, a family education expert, said:
"Because of the children, we come to learn, and it is not only the children who grow up in the end, but more importantly, the parents themselves."
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Author: Oh Mom, multi-platform contracted author, college education psychology teacher, willing to use their own heart and pen to open the children's spiritual world. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.