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Preface
Many people say that "Dear Child" is another tear-jerking blockbuster after "The World".
The physical changes during pregnancy, the pain of giving birth to a child, the toil in the confinement, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along with each other... Many women followed Fang Yinuo to recall their experiences before and after giving birth to children, and felt the same feelings.
However, after watching the third episode, I abandoned the show.
For seven whole days, I would rather have a drama and a word to write, than look at Fang Yinuo's weeping face again.
Because, too depressing.
So today I just saw Xiao Lu collapse and cry. But it was Xiao Lu's crying that made me suddenly cheerful, and I finally understood why I didn't want to see Fang Yinuo. Some women obviously haven't done anything wrong, but she just can't get happiness.
"You can't do anything right"
Because the little uncle Xiao Xu smoked in the house, it triggered a big war between the Fang family and the Xiao family.
Fang's mother accused Xiao's mother of not educating her children, making Xiao Xu accustomed to a lot of bad habits, only nibbling on the old, and now going to her brother and sister-in-law's house to eat and drink.
Xiao Xu said that his mother and brother had to look at the faces of their sister-in-law and sister-in-law every day, and they were particularly aggrieved.
Xiao's mother said that she was willing to raise her son and not care about the family; Fang Yinuo accused Xiao Xu of bumping into his mother...
When Fang Yinuo called out to Xiao Lu to say a word, the grievances in Xiao Lu's heart suddenly exploded, and he slapped himself fiercely, saying:
"I was wrong, I shouldn't have put you all together... Any of you is a little unhappy, I tell you, I am worried to death, because you are my family, I don't want you to be wronged, I feel sorry for you, but what about you? Did it hurt me? ”
Since the birth of his daughter Hehe, Xiao Lu has indeed not had a stable day. He worked during the day and dealt with housework at night, coaxing the big, coaxing the small, coaxing the small, coaxing the old, and physically and mentally exhausted.
But even so, Xiao Lu was an unreliable husband in Fang Yinuo's eyes, only with slime and doing nothing wrong.
Now, Xiao Lu did not argue, did not even speak loudly, he first laughed, then calmly narrated, and finally cried.
Fang Yinuo, who was still complaining about her husband's silence, said sorry and tried to wipe the tears from the corners of Xiao Lu's eyes, but Xiao Lu pushed her hand away, "I'm sorry for you, Fang Yinuo." ”
Xiao Lu's crying is not to complain, not to vent from grievances, but to be powerless, and it is a sense of failure from the heart.
The cracks spread silently.
Complaining will destroy the marriage
To put it fairly and justly, no matter how hard Xiao Lu is, he is not as good as Fang Yinuo, who has a child and sits in confinement. Whether it is a husband or a father, you can pick out a lot of his faults.
When Fang Yinuo was about to give birth, Xiao Lu went home to work; Ming Ming's mother-in-law took Hehe out for a walk and smoked, Xiao Lu told Fang Yinuo that he did not smoke; Fang Yinuo asked Xiao Lu to buy fish, and Xiao Lu foolishly couldn't tell whether it was crucian carp or carp.
However, did Xiao Lu really have Fang Yinuo say so badly?
When Fang Yinuo was about to give birth, Xiao Lu was originally guarding her, and it was Fang Yinuo who repeatedly said that it was okay, and it was not yet time to give birth to a child, let Xiao Lu go home to work.
Xiao Lu did not say that his mother smoked outdoors because Xiao's mother had really promised him not to smoke again.
Xiao Lu couldn't tell what fish to buy, but he still remembered to buy fish after work late. Moreover, when the bag containing the fish broke, the way he caught the fish on the ground was really awkward and funny.
Therefore, when Xiao Lu said how he felt, when Xiao Lu collapsed and cried, people had to sigh again: This man is really not easy!
Because no one can deny it: Xiao Lu has been a serious and hard-hearted husband and father.
On the other hand, Fang Yinuo, obviously she suffered from giving birth to a child, obviously she broke her heart in the month, obviously she took notes on scientific feeding and said that everything was right, but she has been complaining, accusing her husband of not doing well, accusing her sister-in-law of not doing well, accusing her mother-in-law of not doing well...
Women who love to complain, mostly unhappy marriages.
Write at the end
I know there is a question: What is the most desperate thing in marriage?
There is a high praise answer: face a partner who keeps complaining to you.
Deeply.
Most couples can recover from brief periods of unhappiness, poor communication, and conflict, but for other couples, more complaining, more hate, more feelings of powerlessness can gradually destroy a marriage.
The famous American pastor Will Bowen once said in his book "The World That Doesn't Complain":
If you shout "pain," the hurt will appear; if you complain, you will encounter more things that you want to complain about. This is the "law of attraction" in action. When you go through these stages, when you give up complaining, when you stop paying attention to hurt and cry "pain", your life will bloom like a beautiful spring flower.
Today's topic: How do you see Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
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Author: Suzune Qinxin; every life is worthy of being cherished!