Are there any people who insist on chasing "Dear Child"? Can you still see it? This drama is more abusive than the sadistic love of Sansheng III. Because the love of that fairy drama abuses only two people, and they can all reap happiness in the end. But like "Dear Child", it is the whole family that is abused, and everyone is being involved, and it really hurts. More importantly, it's real enough, like it's happening around each of us.
However, the show also exposed some marital problems. For example, a boy like Xiao Lu, who marries him, will not be happy. Not because he is selfish, but because he has something missing in his heart.
1. The tragedy of the original family
Xiao Lu was unfortunate, and his father's death allowed him to grow up overnight and take on the heavy responsibilities of a family.
Gao Caiping is just a woman, and she has no culture, can't find any good jobs, and can only rely on various odd jobs to support her two sons. Living in this kind of family, he was prematurely eroded by poverty, so he was determined from an early age: he must get ahead and let his mother live a good life.
His father's death made him mature overnight. Also because of the lack of a father, he gradually grew up and began to become the "father" of the family. We can see that Gao Caiping has been spoiling Xiao Xu because of his guilt, so that he "nibbles on the old" at home and does not go to work.
The mature Xiao Lu is like a "father", he will discipline Xiao Xu, but more often take care of him. For example, carrying his mother to give Xiao Xu pocket money, such as helping Xiao Xu pay off debts, and then such as educating Xiao Xu. He reprimanded Xiao Xu and pampered Xiao Xu's appearance, and got rid of a "father", and because of this, Xiao Xu would be so "indisputable".
Xiao Lu's original family was thus somewhat "pathological" formed. Because he assumes the role of "father" in the family, he is also extremely lacking in maternal love. It's just that this lack is ignored by Gao Caiping and himself.
Psychology believes that many people's choice of mate is inseparable from their original family. Because of the lack of maternal love, Xiao Lu will choose a girl with special "motherhood" in the choice of mates.
2. The truth about the unfortunate marriage with Yinuo
Xiao Lu and Yi Nuo were married because they were in love. In the latest plot, when Yinuo confessed to Tianhua, she also said that she did not love him when she married him. But she married Xiao Lu because of love.
Let's take a look at how they get along. Xiao Lu has been busy with work, and the affairs at home are basically a big package. Judging from the divorce, Yinuo bookkeeping, she used the method of managing the class to manage their marriage.
For Xiao Lu, Yinuo's approach is a bit like a "strict mother", while Xiao Lu is like a "disobedient child".
Remember the incident in the play when Yinuo was pregnant and wanted to eat the noodles of the old Hu family? When I was in college, the two people had the same hobbies, they both loved to eat the noodles of the Lao Hu family, and they especially liked to put peppers. Yi Nuo was pregnant and wanted to eat noodles, but she couldn't put peppers in. Xiao Lu went to buy her noodles, but he first ate one with chili peppers, and then bought two without chili peppers.
Xiao Lu couldn't eat without chili peppers, she asked Xiao Lu, has he already eaten? Xiao Lu said no! Some people say that Xiao Lu can't "share happiness and suffering", in fact, Xiao Lu is like a "hard-mouthed" child at this time.
Xiao Lu's marriage with Yinuo was disrupted because of Hehe's birth, because after Hehe was born, Yinuo gave all the "motherhood" to Hehe. And Xiao Lu was forced to take on the responsibility of his father, and at this time the feeling of the original family appeared, so he only wanted to escape.
The truth of the tragedy of Xiao Lu and Yinuo's marriage lies in the fact that Yinuo failed to cure Xiao Lu, and Xiao Lu could not get out of the shadow of his original family. So, no matter how much they love each other, they can only end up moving towards separation.
3, not everyone can become Dong Fan
Dong Fan is the healer of Xiao Lu, but to become Dong Fan, it takes a lot to pay, and ordinary people can't do it.
Dong Fan once told Xiao Lu that the reason why he chose Xiao Lu was because Xiao Lu was like a child. She loves the feeling of being attached and needed because she is a girl full of "motherly love" brilliance.
Maybe it is related to her profession, like Dong Fan, who is engaged in the journalistic industry, she has seen too many dark sides of society, so she has some sad and compassionate nature.
Just like in the play, she was separated because Hehe and Xiao Lu had an awkward quarrel. But when she heard that Xiao Lu's life was difficult now, she immediately went home with a soft heart.
Dong Fan is different from Yinuo, although both people have maternal love, but Yinuo's love is "conditional love", while Dong Fan's love is "unconditional love".
It is this kind of unconditional love, the warm Xiao Lu, and the healed Xiao Lu, who has gradually grown. The sign of growth is the sentence he said to Yinuo: Give birth to Lao Xie's child.
Girls, falling in love with people who lack maternal love in their original families, is very painful. You see Dong Fan, again and again compromise, again and again to retreat, and again and again because of soft heart and heartache, he did not abandon Xiao Lu.
She used to cry in the middle of the night, lick her wounds alone in the movie theater, and cry because she collapsed and did something out of the ordinary... Are you sure you can really accept all this?
Marrying a man like Xiao Lu, it is really difficult to be happy.