In "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu are a young couple, after experiencing a series of chickens and dogs jumping contradictions caused by childbirth and child-rearing, Fang Yinuo is trying to gradually adapt to the transformation of the role, at this time, the emergence of the third party Zhu Zhu completely broke the balance of their marriage.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu were lovers from college, and after graduation, she ignored her parents' objections and married Xiao Lu, who had no car and no house.
Xiao Lu is a person with a strong sense of enterprise, work very hard, and soon saved enough for a down payment and bought his own house.
Soon, Fang Yinuo became pregnant, and she did not expect that this news that initially surprised everyone would later evolve into a severe test.
Fang Yinuo's husband was repeatedly absent when he gave birth to a child
Fang Yinuo looked at himself in the mirror, the huge bulge in his abdomen that did not match his entire body, and the pieces of pregnancy spots on his face grew at an unknown time.
She almost didn't know herself, and the little life in her belly was growing rapidly, and at the same time, it was also consuming her mother's youth.
With a big belly, it is not easy to find a comfortable sitting position, but she is still strong and goes to school with her stomach up. Unexpectedly, in front of everyone in the classroom, the amniotic fluid broke.
She calmly told her classmates, you go to self-study, I will go and have a child first.
Xiao Lu, who was dancing a lion, hurried to take his wife to the hospital. But the stomach suddenly stopped moving, Xiao Lu received a call from work, Fang Yinuo pretended to be generous and let Xiao Lu go to work first, Xiao Lu pretended to push it, and then really left.
When he left, he was absent from the birth of his daughter, and when Fang Yinuo entered the delivery room, Xiao Lu was not present, and when Fang Yinuo left the delivery room, Xiao Lu was not present.
When Xiao Lu finished his work and turned on the TV on his couch and drank beer, he seemed to have completely forgotten that he had a wife waiting to give birth in the hospital.
Seeing this, I can't help but feel that something is wrong, this husband, neither the tension and heartache of the wife who is about to give birth with a big belly, nor the expectation of the baby that is about to be born.
He seemed to be happy to flee the scene, stealing half a day's leisure, at this critical juncture, completely relaxed drinking beer and watching the ball game, and later even more relaxed to sleep.
It wasn't until the next morning, when he was woken up by his mother-in-law's phone call, that he rushed to the hospital. Outside the delivery room, he got his daughter's placenta and carried it to his mother Gao Caiping for the first time, perfectly missing his wife's delivery room.
Fang Yinuo was lying on the hospital bed, and in his confusion, he heard the nurse present say that the husband was unreliable again, and the wife and children were not there.
Fang Yinuo, who was weak after childbirth, had vaguely noticed that Xiao Lu did not seem to pay much attention to herself and the child, and then she quickly saw Xiao Lu's disgusted expression towards her postpartum incontinence.
The birth of a child and the safety of mother and child are the beginning of the real test. Parenting, for a new parent, is such a hectic and chaotic thing.
Absent dad during parenting
Xiao Lu said "there is me", but he was always busy with work, so he specially invited a sister-in-law to take care of Fang Yinuo's mother and daughter.
The new sister-in-law looks warm, considerate, caring, and experienced in caring for newborns.
When Fang Yinuo was milking the child, he called the husband next to him to help pour a cup of water, and the husband slept like a dead pig, and he couldn't count on it at all. Instead, Sister-in-law Yue thoughtfully handed over a cup of warm water, and at that moment, Fang Yinuo was full of gratitude.
Just when Fang Yinuo thought that he could breathe a sigh of relief, Sister-in-law Yue showed her unreliable side. At night, the sister-in-law sent the child over to feed, saying that she would pick up the child after an hour, but she fell asleep and slept until dawn.
The next day, Sister-in-law Yue apologized profusely, promising that this kind of thing would never happen again, and Fang Yinuo did not bother with her.
However, Fang Yinuo soon found that Yue's sister-in-law was flushing the bottle in the kitchen, because Fang Yinuo was exclusively breastfeeding, so he basically did not need the bottle.
The suspicious behavior of the sister-in-law made Fang Yinuo suspect that she secretly flushed milk powder for the baby to drink in order to sleep more, which made Fang Yinuo full of anxiety.
When he told Xiao Lu about this, Xiao Lu did not believe Fang Yinuo, saying that she was too nervous after giving birth, and she was a bit grassy.
This Xiao Lu not only couldn't help her, but at this time, he actually sympathized with yue's sister-in-law, and in turn blamed his wife for being too nervous.
The child's jaundice did not retreat, Fang Yinuo felt that something was wrong, and said to take the child to the hospital to see it, but the sister-in-law said confidently, this is very normal, some children retreat quickly, some retreat slowly, as long as they can eat and sleep, there is no problem.
Later, Fang Yinuo found that the child was getting yellower and yellower, and hurriedly took the child to the hospital for examination, and sure enough, the child was jaundice and was admitted to the hospital for isolation and treatment.
This accident made Fang Yinuo feel more and more that this month's sister-in-law said that she was experienced, this experience was not reliable, and finally had to rely on her mother's intuition.
Sister-in-law Yue consciously reasoned, the child she cared for was admitted to the hospital again, Fang Yinuo said a few words to her, she greeted and did not hit one and slipped away.
Sister-in-law yue left, temporarily did not find a new, even if found is more than ten days before the post. At this time, Xiao Lu did not consult with Fang Yinuo and asked his mother Gao Caiping to come to the house to take care of the children.
Who knows that Gao Caiping is also an unreliable, love to smoke, play mahjong, a big grinning style, sneaky smoking when taking children, not to say, but also when taking children out for a walk, they played a mahjong by themselves, and the stroller thrown there slid down the slope and dropped the baby. This made Fang Yinuo feel bad.
The unreliable mother-in-law also gave Fang Yinuo a headache, and finally had to, Fang Yinuo's mother applied for early retirement to help take care of the children.
Once, the child had a fever, it was night again, it was raining outside, xiaolu could not be contacted, the phone was not answered, and the information was not returned.
When she couldn't get a car outside, Fang Yinuo's mother slipped and fell under her feet, and Fang Yinuo, who was holding the child in one hand, couldn't help her mother.
In the end, Fang Yinuo's friend Xie Tianhua rushed over and helped send them to the hospital.
From the birth of the child to the raising of the child, Fang Yinuo often found himself alone, although her husband Xiao Lukou said "there is me", but when she especially needed him to take the handle, he was absent.
Even if he was within easy reach of her, under the pretext that he was tired from work, and fell asleep as soon as he turned over, even if it was a small matter such as pouring a cup of hot water, she could not count on him.
The mother-in-law Gao Caiping sent a turtle, he said to make turtle soup for her to drink, but the turtle was still in the pot, and the others disappeared.
In the triviality and complexity of life day after day, Fang Yinuo's confidence in this man was also consumed by these small and inconspicuous disappointments accumulated.
Fortunately, she also trusted his character and trusted him to be working hard for the family.
It was just that she did not expect that later, even this last trust was broken very thoroughly.
At the 100-day feast of children, a third party who came to provoke
Fang Yinuo's mother held a 100-day feast for her children with great fanfare and invited a group of relatives and friends to come and celebrate together.
Xiao Lu was pushed to the stage and hugged his wife Fang Yinuo. Fang Yinuo found that Xiao Lu suddenly became a little nervous, and the hug with her was also perfunctory.
Sure enough, after Xiao Lu got off the stage, he went straight to the back row and walked towards the young girl. She was Zhu Zhu, who had just called and claimed to be Xiao Lu's friend.
Zhu Zhu forced Xiao Lu to admit their relationship in front of everyone, and directly showed The photo and voice to Fang Yinuo.
Fang Yinuo understood that there could be other explanations for her husband's busyness at work, the inability to find anyone when the child was sick, and the lack of a home at night.
In fact, Fang Yinuo once wanted to believe her husband's explanation and repentance, and wanted to give him a chance, but when she found out, Xiao Lu returned to the park to meet Zhu Zhu after sending her home. At that moment, she decided, divorce.
Divorce is not a trivial matter, especially for a woman with children, and even Fang Yinuo's mother advised her to reconsider.
Fang Yinuo wanted to understand, she couldn't get over this hurdle in her heart. Now that he has a good attitude, you forgive him, what about later? Continue to make mistakes, ask for forgiveness, how can this day be better?
Fang Yinuo has a stubborn personality, and once he decides to divorce, ten cows cannot be pulled back. After going to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a divorce certificate, Xiao Lu hugged her for the last time.
When we meet again, we will divide the family property. The house, the car, Fang Yinuo did not want it. The down payment of the house was paid by Xiao Lu, and Fang Yinuo helped pay off some mortgages, and she took the initiative to say that these were all counted.
Only they left the deposit, one person half. Fang Yinuo is high, so it is generous enough to divide the family property. Nevertheless, when she mentioned the money borrowed by Xiao Lu's brother, a fierce quarrel broke out between the two.
Fang Yinuo did not want the garage, and did not even mention the child support fee of his daughter Hehe, which was almost equivalent to leaving the house.
Do you think that Fang Yinuo does not hate Xiao Lu?
Not. Then Fang Yinuo did one thing, made her position clear, and did not give Xiao Lu a little face at all.
After the divorce, she invited her friends who shared Xiao Lu to a divorce banquet and invited Zhu Zhu to come.
In front of her friends, she said decent words, but in fact, she humiliated Xiao Lu fiercely. The first is to let friends witness that the reason why they came to the step of divorce is because of Xiao Lu's derailment. She did a great job and invited Xiao San to come.
Second, in front of everyone, she said to Xiao Lu word by word, don't want to see her daughter in the future.
When Fang Yinuo divorced and divided the property, why didn't he even mention the matter of child support? The answer is here, she actually hates Xiao Lu to the bone, and wants to completely eliminate this person from her life. Not allowing Xiao Lu to see the child was her fiercest revenge against Xiao Lu.