"Dear Child" has been a constant topic since its broadcast, from the People's Daily's don't sell anxiety, to the discussion of the tv series plot too true by online viewers, after watching the introduction of the film content and the endless evaluation of the upper layer of the network, once gave up chasing the drama, as netizens said, real life has been too difficult, or it is better to watch some light and pleasant TV series.
After the TV series was half played, it was still played according to the unstoppable place, perhaps because the heart was fully prepared, when officially watching the drama, it did not feel the depression and discomfort that netizens said, and more deep thinking after watching the drama.
01 Is the high color screen a bad mother-in-law?
The role of Gao Caiping is not pleasing at the beginning, clamoring, self-righteousness, disrespecting people, unreliable things, and so on.
But if you look closely, it's not that bad.
Gao Caiping has a heavy addiction to smoking, although Xiao Lu and her communicated not to smoke when taking her granddaughter, but when the neighbors advised her, she would always take the cigarette with no determination, but after the child fell, she gave up.
Xiao Xu was entrusted by Xiao Lu to find a way to let Gao Caiping go home, and when he stayed in Xiao's house, he burned a hole in the curtains because he secretly smoked in the room, and was taught by Gao Caiping to be home and everything.
After the child fell, Yinuo's mother came to the house to take care of the child together, Xiao Lu could not bear the cold eyes of his mother to persuade him to go home, and Gao Caiping did not agree for her son.
When communicating with Xiao Lu, he looked at the decisions made by his son and pointed out that what he did was wrong, that is, he was muddy.
After watching a few episodes, although Xiao Caiping has a big grin, her nature is not bad, and she is also a mother who knows the importance and has a more correct concept of education. Her conflict with Fang Yinuo is more because of different living environments and different degrees of cognition.
02 Is Yinuo's mother a good mother?
Yinuo's mother, when her daughter's thirst was ignored by everyone, thoughtfully took up the water on the side, and in the case of the sister-in-law's resignation and the daughter's mother-in-law was unreliable, she retired two years in advance to take care of her daughter and granddaughter.
But if you look closely, but not necessarily, when everyone's focus is on Xiao Lu slag, Fang Yinuozuo, the sister-in-law is not professional, and the mother-in-law is unreliable, can you think about the behavior of Yinuo's mother.
On the first day of the sister-in-law's arrival, the professionalism she showed made Yinuo, who had been anxious, sensitive and overwhelmed, relax, but Yinuo's mother told her that she could not fully trust the sister-in-law, and also counted the events such as the sister-in-law feeding the child sleeping pills.
It can be said that Fang Yinuo's distrust of Yue's sister-in-law began with his mother's words.
After the child fell, Gao Caiping regretted it and wanted to make up for the mistakes she had made, but how did Yinuo's mother do it, posed high, treated Gao Caiping as a nanny, and also worked with her daughter to let Gao Caiping touch the child.
Knowing that her daughter is sensitive, seeing the curtains that were burned by cigarette butts, and showing it to her daughter, in fact, she can confirm communication with Gao Caiping privately.
When he heard that Gao Caiping was educating Xiao Xu because of the smoking incident, he hid to the side and eavesdropped, and the conversation caused a quarrel with a gun and a stick, which fully demonstrated the attitude of being unreasonable and unforgiving.
From the play, we can see the love of Yinuo's mother for her daughter, but she is too deeply involved in her daughter's married life, and the failure of Fang Yinuo's marriage has her shadow.
03 How to play the role of a good mother and mother-in-law in real life
Seeing the behavior of Gao Caiping and Yinuo's mother in the play, I can't help but think deeply about what to do as a mother and mother-in-law in the family life of my children.
1. Do not interfere with the family life of the children, have the conditions to live separately, and give each other space;
2. When there is a family conflict in the children, do not help or listen to the partial belief, do not stir up the wind, do not intervene in the children's family conflicts, and solve their problems themselves;
3. If the child behaves inappropriately, point it out in time to guide it, and set an example by example;
4. Do not interfere in the children's family education, you can put forward opinions, but whether to adopt it is up to the children to decide;
5. When children put forward help needs, do not make a fuss when giving help;
The above is only the impression after watching the first 6 episodes, about family education, welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss.