The hit drama "Dear Child" has aroused heated discussion among the audience, only because the sense of substitution is too strong. Some people say that this drama is selling anxiety, so that more and more young people are too scared to get married.
In particular, the intervention of the third party Zhu Zhu showed the unbearable side of the marriage. The marriage of the two of them revealed 3 truths in the marriage, and after watching it, I felt really good.
1. Unbalanced conjugal relationship after having a child
I always hear some women say how good the relationship between two people is and how happy it is to marry this man. This way of sprinkling dog food is indeed enviable, but the original tone of praise after the birth of the child has become complaining.
Just like Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo in the play, the feelings of the little couple before giving birth to children are not as good, and after having their daughter Hehe, the marriage has become a cage trapping the two, and it is too depressing.
Fang Yinuo was not at ease with the sister-in-law taking care of the child during the month, and after Xiao Lu said that there was a problem with the feeding method of the sister-in-law, Xiao Lu did not pay attention to it, but thought that his wife was too sensitive. Fang Yinuo looked at her husband who was sleeping at night and couldn't help but cry.
Xiao Lu is indeed very capable at work, but is not a qualified husband. Lack of patience for his postpartum wife, in the face of various complaints in Fang Yinuo's life, he has not solved practical problems, and every time he is perfunctory.
In a stable family, the relationship between husband and wife must first be put in the first place, so as to lay a good foundation for the big ship of the family. Once out of balance, it becomes stormy and cannot withstand the wind and rain of life.
2. Irreconcilable mother-in-law contradictions
For Fang Yinuo, her husband Xiao Lu is unreliable, and her mother-in-law Gao Caiping is not a worry-free person. Fang Yinuo's delivery room should have needed the care of his family, but her husband and mother-in-law were not around, what were they doing at the moment?
It was really angry to say it, and Xiao Lu took the placenta and gave the high color screen that had been waiting for a long time. Gao Caiping did not have the slightest joy of being a grandmother, and left without looking at her granddaughter.
When taking children, Gao Caiping has a great addiction to smoking, and I have not changed this habit when I take my granddaughter, not to mention the hygiene habits in life.
The parenting concepts of the two generations collided, and the contradictions naturally broke out continuously.
What's more, Gao Caiping also loves to play cards, and once when he took Hehe to a walk, because he was watching others playing cards, he was excited to see it and accidentally released the stroller, causing Hehe to fall out of the stroller. This scene is really watching the blood pressure soar, and this mother-in-law is also too unreliable.
3. There is nowhere to relieve the stress of life
The relationship between husband and wife, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the internal cause of marriage breakdown, then the pressure in life and work is an external factor.
Xiao Lu's boss, Su Jingwei, is a typical workaholic, and in his eyes there is nothing more important than career, and families and children must all make way for careers. Xiao Lu was very stressed every day when he came home and just wanted to sleep upside down, and he lacked due care for his wife and children.
The same is an office worker, Fang Yinuo work and family must be taken into account, but Xiao Lu's heart only has a career. The child's crying and various family chores make Xiao Lu miserable, and he just wants to escape from this home.
Examples such as Xiao Lu abound in life, they forget their role as fathers, they forget the responsibilities of the family. The appearance of the partner Zhu Zhu only exacerbated this emotion, and Xiao Lu cheated after drinking with Zhu Zhu.
One is the wife who is broken in the family, one is a young and beautiful and capable girl, one refuses to be intimate between husband and wife, and one constantly releases ambiguous signals, I believe that no man can resist such a temptation.
Xiao Lu still loves Fang Yinuo, but the marriage between the two people has no temperature. A cold home has lost its meaning of home, and it is not willing to want to go home.
A family never ends for no reason, which one is not a contradiction accumulated over the years. Only when each family member is soberly aware of their responsibilities and fights for the small family together, can marriage have the meaning of struggle.