"Dear Child" has an open-ended ending, suppressing the whole play, and finally has a better result.
The Douban of this drama has a score of 8.1 points. The majority of the five-star and four-star scores, this rating, can not be said to be not high.
All kinds of ups and downs and contradictions in life have been kneaded together by the screenwriter and stuffed in this drama.
So it's horribly real, so everyone can find resonance in it.
But it's hard to avoid suffocating—as if you've gone through another bad thing you don't want to remember.
Some female viewers said that when watching the play, they wanted to kick their husbands because they remembered the unhappiness of confinement in the past;
Some male viewers also said that they were pulled by their wives to watch, and the more they looked at it, the more they felt that they had not taken on the responsibility of their husbands.
It shows that the drama is real enough and accurately pokes at everyone's pain points.
The first 10 episodes are the marriage of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu, and the latter is the marriage of Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua. Each character has their own distinct personality color, and under the hard blow of life, they are gradually growing and getting better and better.
However, I found that in these characters, the nature of the heroine Fang Yinuo has not changed.
The chicken flying dog jump of the two marriages is not unrelated to her personality. There is a cause and effect, and it can be said that the logic of the plot is rigorous enough.
This article will dissect the personalities of the main characters in the play and the changes after growing up.
Strong Fang Yinuo
Fang Yinuo, played by Ren Suxi, the perception of this role to the audience is one word - mourning.
In my impression, in her marriage with Xiao Lu, there was rarely a smile.
Extremely rare laughs are for people other than Xiao Lu: newborns, Xie Tianhua, girlfriends, and mothers.
It's more of a never-ending complaint and a secret injury.
She is not a strong personality in the usual sense, but it is more depressing than a strong personality.
Sensitivity should be strong, want to carry things on their own, and have an unbalanced heart. The result is to get things done in a huff, and then to complain about the people around you.
For example:
When taking the child to get a vaccine, Xiao Lu took the bottle to disinfect, because the bag on his body was too large, he slipped down and accidentally knocked off the bottle. I also burned my hands.
Fang Yinuo looked at this scene, full of disgust, and immediately began to substitute "How can I be so unlucky, such a useless husband on the stall."
I saw that she grabbed the bottle without a word, and began to carefully burn the pacifier and disinfect the bottle.
Xiao Lu looked at her, wanting to stop talking, and his heart was definitely uncomfortable.
She does not care about her husband's hand being burned, nor does she teach her husband how to burn a bottle. Even if it is a scolding with a split head and a covered face, it is better than this kind of wordless disgust.
Strong people rarely find problems from themselves, and Fang Yinuo's "self-righteousness" is reflected in various details, from the selection of the sister-in-law, to the nitpicking of the mother-in-law, to the various dissatisfaction with the husband... She turns a blind eye to the efforts of others, wants everyone to do things according to her schedule, and is too self-centered.
It wasn't until her first marriage, torn apart by Zhu Zhu's turmoil, that she realized her mistake.
Therefore, in the second marriage, she became much more tolerant, took the initiative to mediate the relationship with her in-laws, and calmly gave in and reconciled in the face of the difficulties of the eldest sister.
Her marriage to Xiao Lu made her grow, but Hehe's illness made her regress.
In order to save Hehe, she actually agreed to have another child with Xiao Lu; pregnant with Xie Tianhua's child, she actually wanted to consider beating it.
The Xie family was kind to her, but she did not consider the feelings of the Xie family. Acting like crazy and doing things according to his own ideas, Xie Tianhua was heartbroken.
The matter of going to the hotel with Xiao Lu to open a room, whether it is finally done or not, is a devastating blow to the families of both sides, but even such a thing, Xie Tianhua endured, but she still wants to beat up Xie Tianhua's children and continue to challenge the moral bottom line...
Fang Yinuo has come to such a point that I have gradually changed from sympathy to disgust.
Xiao Lu who entered the role of father too late
Xiao Lu, played by Qin Hao, is not a good husband, but he is not much bad.
He originally disliked Fang Yinuo, who had just given birth to a baby, and at least did his husband's duty on the surface. Thoughtfulness is one thing, psychological endurance is another.
Just like some men are very distressed that their wives are willing to accompany the birth, but if they really see the bloody scene, they will still suffer the impact and be reluctant to touch their wives for a long time.
When Fang Yinuo and his mother-in-law had a conflict, he tried to maneuver around, and in the face of his wife's complaints, he also accepted it patiently and apologized vigorously: It was my fault, it was all my fault.
Even if his wife escaped from the conjugal life, he accepted it peacefully: in the future, we will be treated as brothers.
It seems that everything is like following the wife, but it really doesn't help much.
The episode between him and Zhu Zhu is actually Zhu Zhu's wishful thinking, and Xiao Lu did have a momentary idea of cheating in the depressed family atmosphere, but finally stopped his steps.
It was Fang Yinuo's strength and his indecisiveness that broke this first marriage.
After meeting the female reporter Dong Fan, the woman's generosity and kindness made him gradually know how to take on his responsibilities. If Hehe hadn't been sick, the two reorganized families in the play would have been very happy.
In fact, Xiao Lu is essentially a good person, he just did not take the role of father so quickly at the beginning, and then he made a mistake, and Fang Yinuo no longer gave him the opportunity to become a father.
Under the cover of Xie Tianhua, he did his best to make up for the lack of fatherly love for Hehe, which was also his salvation.
After Hehe fell ill, he resolutely jumped to a company with a higher salary, desperately earned money to prepare for the operation, and has fully grown into a responsible father.
However, it was a loss to Dong Fan.
Great injustice seed Xie Tianhua
Xie Tianhua liked Fang Yinuo when he was young, he belonged to the kind of person with a gentle personality, and he would be robbed by Xiao Lu.
Seeing that Fang Yinuo divorced and took the baby alone, it took several years to decide to launch an offensive and marry her back home.
Once Xie Tianhua decided to do something, he was determined not to be disturbed by anything. It was precisely because of his determination that Fang Yinuo had more confidence and lived well in his in-laws' family as a second marriage.
He was digging his heart out to be good to Hehe and Fang Yinuo, and with his support, the entire Xie family truly accepted Fang Yinuo and this unrelated child.
In the whole process, he did not miss anything, it was really benevolent and righteous, and in real life, it would be difficult to find a second such good stepfather.
But he was really wronged.
In order to save Hehe, he acquiesced to his wife and her ex-husband to open a house, they have already done this job, does he still need to grow?
Maybe you should have another eye and think about it for yourself.
Parents even take out their own pension savings to save Hehe, it is already a good in-law family that is difficult to find in the world, in such a situation, the husband can still tolerate his wife and ex-husband having children, and the saints cannot do it.
Fang Yinuo forced a good man into this way, forcing him to go to the doctor to report that his wife provided false information on artificial conception.
It can be seen that no matter how honest it is, there is a bottom line.
Poisonous tongue big sister
The eldest sister Xie Dan is the person who can best represent the audience's voice in the play, she is straight and fast, merciless, but every sentence is a big truth.
The family is all honest people, and it is necessary to have such a powerful sister, otherwise the Xie family will really be dragged down by Fang Yinuo.
She didn't want to see Fang Yinuo at first, and she was handing a knife in every sentence, but for the happiness of her brother, she would also help cook soup and cook to deliver rice to Hehe.
When Hehe was not sick, she never snubbed the child at home, that is, her mouth was poisonous, and her heart was still kind.
But it was such a lord who refused to suffer losses at every turn, but one day he knelt down to Fang Yinuo in order to keep his brother's own child.
Who made her become like this, it was not because of her love for her brother Xie Tianhua, and she couldn't see him hurt.
Xie Dan gradually became empathetic, and Fang Yinuo accidentally miscarried her, and she was willing to think about the benefits, and in the end, she was kind enough to make the background.
Need for a high color screen for mother-in-law
The way the high color screen appears comes with a buff that has been spat upon.
He instructed his son to take away his daughter-in-law's placenta and to look after the newborn without paying too much attention to his daughter-in-law.
In front of her own mother, she actually compared her daughter-in-law who had just given birth to a baby to an old sow.
The mouth is unobstructed, and it is more or less a loss of culture.
There was one, and even Xiao Lu Xiao Xu was looked down upon by Fang Yinuo's mother..
Gao Caiping has a smoking addiction, a mahjong addiction, a large curly hair, dressed up in the elderly is a rebellious type.
After the death of her husband, she grew up alone with her two brothers, who must have suffered a lot and was extremely doting on her younger son.
She has a small problem, but she is indeed a very honest and kind mother-in-law.
After the sister-in-law left, Gao Caiping took the initiative to take care of the chores of taking care of her daughter-in-law.
After boiling pig hand soup for several hours, the daughter-in-law did not appreciate it, she did not play a temper, and she bitterly persuaded Fang Yinuo to take a small sip and left satisfied.
He would also explain himself to the bowl: it was good to drink a little.
If this had been replaced by a mother-in-law who was a little temperamental, she might have stopped picking and choosing at that time.
Fang Yinuo is lucky to meet such a mother-in-law, at least she will not favor sons over daughters, with a baby at the same time do not lose the daughter-in-law's three meals a day, but also add meals to hope that she eat more, and all the housework mother-in-law is also all wrapped up.
Those skirmishes can be counted as something, stand in the other side's point of view and understand, anything can pass.
Don't look at The High Color Screen with a big grin, she is also a person who pays attention to the overall situation.
When Fang Yinuo divorced, she did not favor her son, but supported the divorce. Before leaving, a large bag brought the daughter-in-law's favorite pickles, and said one last goodbye to her with true feelings.
After Xiao Lu married Dong Fan, because of the matter of Hehe, he often ignored Dong Fan, and it was Gao Caiping's careful heart that sensed that Dong Fan was wrong, which Was something that Gao Caiping had not made before.
Know to put yourself in the other person's shoes for the sake of the other person... It was the eldest son's failed marriage that changed her.
Li Qinqin, the actor of Gao Caiping, made an interpretation of this role on the social platform: she is not an evil mother-in-law, but she is not a good mother-in-law.
In my eyes, Gao Caiping was not a good mother-in-law. But then she was absolutely, and was the kind of good that was the best.
Whoever has such a mother-in-law will laugh out loud in their dreams.
Everyone grew up in pain, but Fang Yinuo's self-righteousness never changed
There is no evil person in this play, only a different position.
Of course, it also includes Fang Yinuo.
In her first marriage, she was so insensitive that she neglected her husband and planted hatred for each other.
In the second marriage, because of Hehe's illness, he was once again busy and indiscriminate.
Forcing doctors to inform donors and use doctors' children by any means to impress doctors is foolish.
To have another child with her ex-husband, it is necessary to hurt two families without a bottom line.
Concealing pregnancy and wanting to make decisions on your own is selfish.
Everything can be seen that Fang Yinuo's "self-righteous" personality has never changed.
But she protected her cubs out of motherly nature and greatness, and there was no way to ignore it.
It's not about letting the audience make multiple choice questions
What happened to them, the audience can not make a judgment on who is right and who is wrong, after all, in front of a seriously ill child, everything has to be compromised.
However, the life of Hehe is fate, and the fetus in the belly is not life?
The screenwriter throws out a trolley problem, which is really difficult for the audience, no matter how it is chosen, it will cause harm. Either hurt Hehe or hurt two families.
in a dilemma...... In the end, it was fate that made arrangements for them.
If you refer to the prototype in reality, everyone may be more depressed.
The prototype chose to remarry her ex-husband because of the child's illness, gave birth to a third child (the original two), the result was not successful, the husband simply lost all three children to her, divorced.
It was a tragedy from start to finish.
Where there is so much perfection in life, how likely is the strong personality of the heroine to meet two good in-laws.
I think that shooting this kind of subject is not to let the audience do multiple choice questions, but to see more room for turning from their marriages, and couples who are not in harmony should also give opportunities to communicate and do not leave regrets.
Exposing each other will only reveal more and more hate.
Every couple who enters the marriage will almost face the embarrassment of being a parent for the first time, and it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps, and they can live with themselves and understand each other in order to avoid the dilemma of marriage.
As for the fact that the child is seriously ill, whoever gets there will be very painful, but there are lovers in the same boat who are in the same boat in the wind and rain, and they have the courage to fight against suffering.
You see, if Fang Yinuo hadn't given her unwavering love from Xie Tianhua and everyone taking turns to help take care of the children, would she have been able to persevere to this point? With her character, I am afraid that she has already collapsed.
In the affairs of the world, there are always dilemmas, and it is enough to be ashamed of the heart.