The family life drama "Dear Child" has ushered in the finale, and Xiao Lu, who has experienced two marriages, is also quietly changing because of his daughter's illness. But it is clear that in his changes, not only is there the reason for being beaten by life, but the different attitudes and practices of the two women have also indirectly helped him complete his growth. In other words, Xiao Lu's transformation has also awakened all women, whether it is a mother or a wife, pressing too tightly may be counterproductive, but Dong Fan's "free-range" mode of getting along is more nostalgic.
Xiao Lu's personal growth is actually worth playing. The original family is incomplete, resulting in him always being a little confused in handling family affairs. In fact, in the first marriage, it is obvious that he is not mature, although he has been holding his breath and wants to give his lover a better life, but in fact, he is not adaptable to the married life that comes to him, neither know how to mediate the relationship between his mother and daughter-in-law, nor do he know how to do a good job as a novice father, making himself very anxious at the same time, but also making his ex-wife Fang Yinuo and his mother a little helpless.
But on the other hand, as the eldest brother and the eldest son in the family, he habitually carries the responsibility to himself, so he can't be as stingy as his younger brother Xiao Xu.
To some extent, Xiao Lu was always in a state of busyness in his first marriage. The difference in family environment makes him always shorter in front of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and Fang Yinuo, who is strong and self-reliant, seems to understand things, but in fact, it is another kind of pressure for him. With nothing to achieve in his career and a messy family life, he could not find enough self-confidence to calmly deal with various problems in life, and he was so consumed day by day.
From Fang Yinuo's point of view, her understanding and concessions have pushed her husband farther and farther away, even without the appearance of Zhu Zhu, their marriage has long been rifted. In this way, people with two personalities who are a bit rigid and not good at communication are only in vain to increase internal friction, and it is naturally not easy to last.
In contrast, Xiao Lu's second marriage, the little wife Dong Fan was ready to integrate from the beginning. As a continuation, she did a good job of accepting the relationship between her husband and daughter, and tried to mediate, even at the expense of personally sending an invitation to Fang Yinuo, hoping to ease the relationship between Xiao Lu and Hehe.
Facing Xiao Xu, who was the second biggest concern of Xiao Lu, she was also pinched to death, Xiao Xu's relationship with her was closer than that of her mother and brother, and Fang Yinuo never tried to really get close to Xiao's family. In the relationship with her mother-in-law, Dong Fan, who has a sweet mouth and eyesight, is obviously more capable of being a person, compared to the polite and hard Fang Yinuo, she actively integrates into her mother-in-law's heart, which undoubtedly adds multiple insurances to this marriage.
Looking back, the way Dong Fan and Xiao Lu get along, she is still sensible and self-reliant, but she is a little bit spoiled and dependent in this, so that even if she is always concerned about her sick daughter, Xiao Lu will be embarrassed, even if she is tired and sleepy, she will insist on picking up Dong Fan from work at the newspaper office and trying to get her understanding and support.
It should be said that Dong Fan's "bone sponge palm" successfully pulled the prodigal son Xiao Lu back, perhaps to learn the lesson of the failure of the previous marriage, his life focus will shift from work to family life, will take the initiative to arrange a honeymoon trip with his little wife, and will also consider Dong Fan's feelings more in addition to taking into account his ex-wife and daughter. In this marriage, no one forced him with responsibility, but his changes were happening subtly, showing the power of softness.
Dong Fan once admitted that the reason why he likes Xiao Lu is because he is like a "child" himself. Then from the perspective of the transformation of Xiao Lu's character, in reverse, it can actually give all women a wake-up call. As a wife, it is obvious that Fang Yinuo paid more in the marriage and also accompanied Xiao Lu's struggle era, but he had suffered hardships and gave birth to a baby with him, but he still could not end well, which is worth pondering.
At the end of the day, it's not that she's bad, it's just that the way may not be so appropriate, leaving each other in a dead loop of exhaustion. In contrast, Dong Fan's way is softer, but in disguise, it promotes the growth of this man, which shows that persecution and showing responsibility may not be the best way in marriage.
This is also the case with parenting, if Xiao Lu is compared to a child, it is obvious that Dong Fan's way of spring wind and rain is also more appropriate, and Fang Yinuo of the hard bang bang began to understand compromise and concession after meeting Lao Xie, and the recognition and acceptance gained in the new family is enough to explain the problem.