Original Duan Yan MulanHui 2022-04-27
Women are like flowers, one flower and one world, a few days ago, the "Hundred Flowers Blooming and 2022 Hubei 100 Wisdom New Women's Stories" initiated by Mulanhui, the urban women's spiritual growth and wisdom cultivation platform, was officially launched, and the activity will record female role models from all walks of life in the province, helping more women to take care of each other, enlighten wisdom, and enlighten growth.
In the first interview with the protagonist of the story, we will take you into the well-known cultural catering brand "Huixin Ya Society" in Wuhan, Ms. Lei Liping and her world, and listen to how she has gone from being a full-time wife of the family to encountering family changes and carrying the weight forward, living out her legendary life of becoming an excellent entrepreneur.
From high school teachers to full-time wives, marriages are lit up red when they are richest
Lei Liping is a post-70s, born and raised in the countryside of Xinzhou, Hubei Province, her life starting point, body appearance, and many ordinary peers, there is nothing special, when she was a child, her parents did fish ball business, rubbing fish balls every winter, her hands were cold to the bone, she vowed to study well, and resolutely did not follow the old path of her parents.
She was the first female college student in the village, and after graduating from college, she worked as a Chinese teacher at a high school in her hometown, and then despite her family's opposition, fell in love with a poor boy from the same village, married, and had children.
Mr. smart can bear hardships, do business in Wuhan, the family quickly bought a house, had a car, when the material conditions are getting better and better, she suddenly found that communication with Mr. is getting less and less, there is nothing to say, in order to save the marriage, she took her young son, came to Wuhan, became a housewife.
She said that the richest time in the family was when she was most unhappy, no friends, no circles, and every day," that is, sending her husband to work in the morning, sending her children to school, picking them up at night, and wiping the floor cleaner than her own face. Later, after giving birth to the second child, the focus is on the child, Mr. is also tired in the entrepreneurial period, under the same roof, the two can not find a common topic, the heart goes farther and farther.
From the traditional little woman to the workplace manager, helpless to say goodbye to everything in the past
When she was lost and confused, Lei Liping went out to class, learned tea, and went to the hotel invested by Mr. Lei to learn business management.
In four years, she went from a traditional woman who only wanted to live a small life in her bones to a workplace manager who could stand alone.
Despite this, she still has to face various problems in her husband's career and emotions, and in 2018, she had to say goodbye to her past life once and for all.
A person with two children, carrying a huge debt owed by her ex-husband, and her mother suddenly fell ill, she described the situation at that time: "Life has fallen to the bottom, you want to die and you are not qualified to die, the people you want to love do not love you, but there are people you want to protect, you must protect them, Nirvana is reborn." ”
From the bottom of life to carry the weight forward to build the Huixin Ya Society Deep in the mud but all the way through the thorns to bloom self
In the most difficult days, many friends around her reached out to Lei Liping, of course, this is due to the good character and good reputation she accumulated in the past few years. In June 2018, her newly created "Huixin Yashe", born in the East Lake, was on fire as soon as it opened, she explained that Huixin, that is, wisdom to be a person, work hard, focus on 24 solar terms of catering and health; Yashe, is positioned in a group of like-minded people community and platform, to promote the spread of Ya culture, not only a place to eat and drink, but also to provide tea rooms, moxibustion halls, healthy lifestyles and other business services.
In the summer, Heaven gave a pond of bihe, Lei Liping, a language teacher, regarded the Lotus culture as the "soul of the wise heart", created her own lotus fragrance, lotus wine, lotus tea, attracting countless fans to come to experience, summer lotus feast, winter full lotus feast, this lotus pond, let her realize that the fate of people, in fact, can be like a lotus, their own mastery, "God gives you a rotten mud pond, you can merge with the flow to become rotten mud, you can also blossom, out of the mud without staining, mao qing lian without demon." ”
We admire her poetic feelings, but it is difficult to empathize with how she experienced her ordeal.
In 2020, the outbreak of the epidemic, Wuhan lockdown, Huixin Yashe closed for nearly half a year; in 2021, the East Lake dredging project, spring to summer, Huixin Yashe originally the most beautiful season, was spent in the dry lotus pond and the roar of the excavator, autumn and winter due to repeated epidemics, the passenger flow fell sharply; stay up to this year, the market is still shrouded by the epidemic, fortunately, people are more and more aware of the importance of health, Huixin Yashe close to the natural environment, the selection of high-quality ingredients and health products, to meet the needs of the audience, everything is developing well, The new store "Huixin Villa", which is under subdivision and upgrading, is incubating and preparing.
Lei Liping said that from 2018 to now, it is the time when her material is the poorest, but it is the stage when the whole person feels the most blooming, and her heart is becoming more and more determined and confident.
Listening to Teacher Lei optimistically, I also felt that she was charming in front of me.
During the interview, she has never complained, talked about rational self-examination, mentioned the ex-husband who made her life change dramatically, she said that the marriage failed, there must be problems with both husband and wife, when she was only so big in the world, she would not think differently, Mr. was working hard outside, the two points of concern were different angles, they did not understand each other, and there would naturally be contradictions. After the divorce, she can completely avoid the debts caused by her ex-husband's responsibilities, but those debts were borrowed from their mutual friends as a guarantor, and the ex-husband had no ability to repay them, she could not lose her faith, and she would rather suffer herself than harm her friends, otherwise her conscience would not be able to live.
No matter how big the difficulty, from her mouth out of her mouth, the tone is calm and open-minded, I think, it is this kind of ordinary people's rare courage to bear the hidden and tenacious character, let her live into the legendary "legendary woman", she laughed, she may have inherited the personality genes of her grandmother and mother, when she was a child, her grandmother had the greatest influence on her, her grandfather died very early, and her grandmother raised her mother and uncle alone with a total of 4 children, and the grandmother who was born in Xiang mendi was self-reliant, self-reliant, full of positive energy, and to the mother's generation, although she did not have any education, But he is very assertive, industrious and simple, and is a person in the village who can speak. When she experiences great ups and downs, think of the elders in the family, but also grit her teeth and insist, take it, and put it down.
"Living yourself as a light" is the greatest filial piety to elderly parents, and it is also the best teaching for young children to lead by example, Lei Liping said.
One flower and one world dialogue with Lei Liping
Lei Liping spreads tea culture for children in class
Q: Just now you said that when you are richest in material things, it is when you are most unhappy, when you are poorest, but when you are the most blooming, if you give the happiness index at different stages of life a score of 10 points, how many points do you give them?
A (Lei Liping): When I was a high school teacher when I was young, I felt the happiest time, students liked, parents recognized, had a sense of value, people are also very simple, live very willfully, The happiness index can be scored 8.5 points; when the full-time wife, there is a son and a daughter, happiness comes from the time with the children, pay but are not appreciated by the other half, the happiness index scores 6 points; in 2018, divorce and rebirth, life is only left to make money to pay debts, there is no happiness to speak of; the current state, through the most difficult stage, the future can be expected, the happiness index can be scored 8 points.
Q: What do you think is most important in your life right now?
A (Lei Liping): Good health is the most important. I often say that people who buy a car will maintain the car, the human body, is the most precious mansion, more should be maintained, with a healthy body, there is more energy to take care of the family, give back to the society.
Q: As a mother, who do you want your child to be?
A (Lei Liping): They are still young, one is in middle school, one is in elementary school, they are all innocent and kind, I respect their nature, and I do not ask them to live as I am or I want them to be.
Q: How do you maintain a good attitude in the face of change?
A (Lei Liping): Learning and growing up is very important, over the years I have been learning traditional Chinese culture, benefiting a lot, Confucianism is positive, Reaching is both good for the world, poor is good at being alone; Shakyamuni Buddha, talking about cause and effect, planting good causes and good results, pursuing win-win results, no enemies; Taoist, quiet, inaction, comfortable. Confucianism and Buddhism have taught me the wisdom of being a human being.
Q: What is your ideal state of life like?
A (Lei Liping): As a woman, live for yourself, do what you like, live out of yourself, know how to enjoy the nourishment that study and work bring to the soul, of course, if there is still someone to love, it is the most beautiful. (End)