Text: Xi Xihuan
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When I was resting, I went to a friend's house as a guest, because my friend had two children, both of whom were fun-loving, so I specially prepared two toys for the children before going.
There are many people around who have been parents and have also visited their homes, and most of them see messy living rooms and dining rooms that are too late to clean up, and it is not too much to describe it as "full of mess".
But when I came to my friend's house, I was stunned, the living room was not full of toys to make it impossible to teach, the two children were very well-behaved, staying in the corner of the living room surrounded by the "toy world" quietly playing with toys.
The aroma came from the kitchen, and when I walked in to help my friends, I looked around, the stove was very clean even if I was cooking, there was no thick grease accumulated over the years, the white curtain was hanging on the window, and when the wind blew in, even the mood of cooking became better.
I couldn't help but sigh to myself, whether the home was clean or not really had nothing to do with whether there were children or not, only with the people who lived there.
Some people may say that it is because my friends can not work and happen to have very well-behaved children, but this is not the case.
The friend is a famous strong woman, the sense of enterprise is very heavy, even if the original birth of this pair of dragon and phoenix fetus did not let her have the idea of resigning to take the baby at home.
How difficult it is for women to balance family and career, I believe that women in the workplace have deeply experienced that less sleep and more time and energy are spent.
When everyone is tired, so are her friends, and she has also had times when she can't hold on and feel broken, but she never wanted to give up, because she knows that life is her own, and if she gives up, it will only make her life worse and worse.
Such a clean and tidy room actually hides the blessing of a friend's life, and the children know at a young age that they must put away their own toys after playing with their own toys under her education, and when they see their mothers tired of doing housework, they will help pour water and beat their backs.
After the husband returns home, she will also take the initiative to share the housework, so as not to make her so tired, and the family often sits around reading and chatting, which is not comfortable.
I have to say that the friend has become the happiest look, the husband is distressed and considerate of her, the children are filial piety, although this is not a decisive factor brought about by a neat room, but at least because a home is neat and clean, the people in the family have a good mood, and it is easier to get along with the family with a peaceful and happy mood.
On the other hand, those whose families are a mess, there are such examples around them, cousins in their thirties, although married, but life is still difficult to say.
Since he was a child, he has been the "little bully" of the family, because of the preference for sons and daughters, the family is very accustomed to him, no matter what he wants, no matter what he wants, if he is not satisfied, his cousin will lose his temper, and even when he is seven or eight years old, he will be disrespectful to the old man.
When he grew up, his cousin did not succeed in his studies, and the money used to make up classes was not spent less, but in the end he only had a high school degree, so it was difficult to find a good job.
The family entrusted him with a relationship to find a not too hard job, but he felt that he made less money, and only worked for a few days before picking a son and leaving, completely disregarding the family's affection.
Later, after a long day of idleness, he suddenly went home and said that he wanted to get married, because his girlfriend was pregnant, and his parents had no choice but to borrow money to prepare for the wedding and buy a wedding house.
Originally thought that getting married would make my cousin settle down, after all, I had to be a father, but not long after because of a quarrel, my sister-in-law went directly to the hospital to beat up the child in anger.
The marriage of the two men became precarious, and in order to persuade him, I went to my cousin's house once, and as soon as I entered the door, I almost tripped over the garbage at the door.
Looking at the whole room, I can't help but inhale a cool breath, the cousin's parents did not want to wronged their son, so the house they bought was actually very large.
But almost every room was facing piles of clothes, the floor was full of garbage, and even the bedroom had leftover takeaway boxes, which looked like it had been a long time.
I was very surprised, asked my cousin if he usually did not clean up the house, he barely found a place to sit on the sofa full of clothes, cocked Erlang's legs and played a game, and said to me disapprovingly: "What is there to clean up, she does not clean up the house, why do you want me to clean up, or why should I marry her?" ”
Listening to my cousin's words, I couldn't help but get angry and scolded him: "Of course, you married her because you loved her and wanted to live a good life with her. ”
In fact, I have seen my sister-in-law, although I am not mature, I can see that she sincerely wants to live a good life with her cousin, otherwise my cousin's parents will not buy such a good marriage house.
But it can be imagined that the cousin's cynicism and lack of responsibility for the family have gradually lost the temperature of the family, and also made the sister-in-law more and more disappointed in him.
Hearing the news of the divorce of two people, I felt helpless in my heart, but this is an inevitable result.
For a person, if your room is messy, dirty and messy, then there is a high probability that your life will be as bad as your room, and naturally it is not blessed.
Because a person who knows how to plan his life and career will not tolerate the dirty environment he needs to live in every day.
A study at Harvard Business School that lasted for years found a very regular phenomenon: successful people with strong happiness often have a very clean and tidy home environment, while unfortunate people usually live in messy and dirty environments.
So, the conclusion is that the room you live in is a reflection of yourself, and your life is actually like your room.
It is said that home is the most relaxing place, after a busy day of work back home, you can no longer be defensive, no longer have to wear a false smile, that is a sustenance in everyone's heart.
Therefore, the home needs to be managed with heart, because it is the best feng shui in one's life.
In a clean room, hiding the owner's love for home and a beautiful yearning for life, living with such a person, even if it is hard when working hard, will feel full of motivation.
A family works hard in the same direction, the days will get better and better, and the blessings of life are accumulated little by little.
Most importantly, a clean and tidy home cannot be maintained by one person's diligent cleaning, but also needs to be cherished by the whole family, which also shows from another perspective that in this family, the family supports each other and understands each other.
On the other hand, those who have messy rooms and things are scattered often do things without planning, which is not the Buddhist attitude that life should have, but is not responsible for their own lives, so they have lost the blessing of a lifetime.
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