Before marriage, should two people who are in love talk about money?
In fact, before two people get married, no matter how they agree, no matter how they are like glue, once they start to talk about marriage, they have to face real life, and have to start discussing a series of things such as marriage room, bride price and dowry.
Although in the eyes of people who are in love, talking about money and materials is too tacky, but without talking about materials, marriage will become very empty. No one likes to talk about money, but marriage without money is difficult. Poor couples Pepsi lament, this is not just talk.
Some people say that a good marriage is a honeypot, and a bad business is a fire pit. Whether it is a honeypot or a fire pit, the key is still up to both husband and wife.
01, the pre-marriage room does not add the name of the girlfriend, the girlfriend asks for a dowry of 300,000
Shao Qiang and his girlfriend have been in love for three years, and the feelings of the two people are deep enough. Shao Qiang fell in love with his girlfriend at first sight, and later spent a lot of thought, sending flowers and gifts, and picking up and dropping off work in the morning and evening, which chased his girlfriend to hand.
After being together, Shao Qiang was even more obedient to his girlfriend, and he was eager to give everything to his girlfriend. The girlfriend was spoiled as a princess, which made everyone around her envious.
Under Shao Qiang's long-term pampering, his girlfriend finally agreed to his marriage proposal, which made him ecstatic and soon arranged for both parents to meet.
However, to Shao Qiang's surprise, as soon as his girlfriend's parents opened their mouths, they wanted to renovate the house before his marriage, plus his girlfriend's name, saying that since they were about to get married, the real estate deed should write the names of the two people.
Shao Qiang and his parents naturally refused, this marriage room, but hollowed out his parents and his own family foundation. The girlfriend's family did not have anything, and she wanted to take away half of the property, which was unacceptable to both Shao Qiang and Shao Qiang's parents.
After Shao Qiang refused, his girlfriend asked for a dowry of 300,000 yuan, which could not be less, otherwise she would not get married. Before seeing his girlfriend spoiled and willful, Shao Qiang felt that his girlfriend was cute. But now that he is married and his girlfriend is still so willful, Shao Qiang can't accept it.
02, the girlfriend asked to repay the mortgage again, and the man broke up
Shao Qiang and his girlfriend soaked soft and hard for a long time, and his girlfriend resolutely did not let go, insisting on getting a dowry of 300,000 yuan before getting married. Because he loved her and spoiled her, Shao Tough borrowed money from his parents to collect 300,000 dowries for her.
On the day of the engagement, Shao Qiang handed over the 200,000 dowry to his girlfriend, who smiled and urged Shao Qiang to hurry up and prepare for the wedding. But some people are like this, the more you treat her sincerely, she stabs you in the back.
Shao Qiang and his parents were working intensively to organize the wedding, and as a result, his girlfriend did not know a word, so she directly went to buy a house with a dowry of 300,000 yuan, and only wrote her name.
When Shao Qiang learned of this, his girlfriend had already signed the contract and paid a down payment, just waiting for the loan to come down. Shao Qiang felt very hurt, and he poured out his heart and lungs for his girlfriend, but his girlfriend silently took the 300,000 dowry he borrowed to buy a house.
What is even more excessive is that seeing that the wedding date is approaching, the girlfriend has proposed that the house she bought is 5,000 per month, but her salary is only 6,000, deducting the monthly expenses of purchasing clothes and cosmetics and socializing, and she is unable to repay the mortgage.
The girlfriend hopes that Shao Qiang can help her pay back the 5,000 yuan mortgage, and said that the reason why she bought the house is also for their future and children. If Shao Qiang's house did not add her name before marriage, she would not have taken the 300,000 dowry to buy a house, and she would not have asked Shao Qiang to bear a 5,000 mortgage.
03, was asked to repay the mortgage, the man broke up: take my 300,000 dowry to buy your own house, you are too selfish
The girlfriend's request made Shao Qiang angry. He asked his girlfriend, did you buy a house with my family's 300,000 dowry with my consent? You are cheating on marriage, taking the 300,000 dowry of the in-laws' family to buy your own house, and in the end you let me bear the mortgage, you are too selfish.
The girlfriend is not willing to show weakness, your house does not add my name, your family wants to marry me, do not need to give a bride price? Since the bride price was given to me, it was mine, and I have the right to decide how to spend it.
The girlfriend's rebuttal made Shao Qiang almost laugh. The house he bought before he got married, and he didn't even let his girlfriend half distracted by the decoration. When he first bought a house, Shao Qiang also asked his girlfriend whether he wanted to buy a house together, but his girlfriend refused, saying that buying a house was a matter for the in-laws, where was the woman who paid for the marriage house herself?
Now it is good, before marriage, the girlfriend is not willing to pay, but asks for a name. Refusing to add a name, he played a trick to ask for a dowry of 300,000 yuan to buy a house for himself. I thought that in order to marry her, I would not hesitate to let my parents owe a large debt. But now it is good, the real estate deed does not add his name, but the girlfriend actually has the face to ask him to help repay the 5,000 mortgage?
Shao Qiang felt that the willfulness of his girlfriend at this moment was not cute at all, and even a little bored. Such an ignorant and unvirtuous girlfriend, even if she marries into the door, family conflicts will not be less. Thinking of a large amount of foreign debt behind him, and then thinking of his girlfriend's selfishness, Shao Qiang was disheartened.
Shao Qiang is right to love his girlfriend, but no matter how much he loves him, he is not willing to eat dumb losses again. Shao Qiang proposed to break up with his girlfriend and asked her to return the 300,000 dowry unchanged.
The girlfriend said that it was Shao Qiang who repented of marriage first, not to mention, she and Shao Qiang lived together for two years, how to say, shao Qiang took advantage of the big advantage, this 300,000 dowry should be to compensate her, she will not return a point.
Shao Qiang did not expect that his girlfriend, who had been talking for three years, actually turned her face and did not recognize the account for the sake of money for the sake of the house. The girlfriend's sprinkling and willfulness made Shao Qiang a head two big.
His parents advised him to forget about it and just get married, so that his girlfriend would accompany the married house and leave the house for the children. If you don't get married, the 300,000 bride price will really be adrift.
But Shao Qiang really doesn't want to get married again, but if he doesn't get married, how should his 300,000 bride price come back? He didn't know how to judge who had taken advantage of the two sides when they talked about marriage and who had suffered a dumb loss.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Shao Qiang's marriage, or do you use legal means to get back the 300,000 dowry?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!