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Now many people like to use money to measure how deep a person's love is, and if the other party is not willing to spend money for themselves, it is a manifestation of non-love.
Money is not everything, and love is not only expressed by money. Blindly taking, relying on money to increase their sense of security, sometimes will make the other party stay away.
Xiao Li (pseudonym) happened to this kind of thing around her, and the original happy event eventually became unhappy and dispersed.
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Xiao Li is an ordinary employee of the company, under the introduction of colleagues to know Xiao Liu (pseudonym), the two people first met on the each other's good feelings, Xiao Liu also often asked Xiao Li to eat and watch movies, the two people who came and went confirmed the love relationship, experienced a three-year long run in love, both of them met with both parents, the parents of the two families are quite satisfied with the future daughter-in-law, son-in-law, and set the child's marriage.
Xiao Li privately said to Xiao Liu that she always grinned at things, afraid of having conflicts with her future mother-in-law in the future, making trouble unpleasant, and avoiding embarrassment in her future life, so she did not want to live with Xiao Liu's parents after marriage. Xiao Liu also agreed, and after going home to explain the matter to his parents, his parents also expressed understanding, and said that the young couples in the society now live by themselves and do not live with their parents.
In the face of the understanding of Xiao Liu's parents, Xiao Li and Xiao Liu were very happy, saying that they wanted to take out a loan to buy a house, and the two slowly repaid the mortgage after marriage. Xiao Liu's parents do not want their children to live under too much pressure after marriage with a mortgage, and the family conditions are also very good, so they want to buy a house for their son and get married in full.
Suddenly, the pressure after the marriage of the two children was reduced a lot, and both sides were very happy, but on the day of buying the house and signing the contract, a dramatic scene occurred.
Xiao Liu had promised Xiao Li that the two people would marry and buy a house, and the real estate certificate should write the names of the two people, but because this time it was Xiao Liu's parents who funded it, and it was a full payment to buy a house, so the man's family did not agree to add Xiao Li's name, and also said that in addition to the house, other things will definitely not be treated badly to Xiao Li, such as the wedding bride price, three gold, etc., the same will not be less.
This sudden situation disappointed Xiaoli, who was full of enthusiasm to buy a house. Xiao Liu also agreed with his parents, he felt that if the two people took out a loan to buy a house and repaid the loan together after marriage, then the real estate certificate must add Xiaoli's name, which is beyond doubt; but now it is his parents who have fully funded the purchase of the house, in this case, it is a little inappropriate to add Xiaoli's name. The implication of this is that Xiaoli did not pay for it, so she got a house so white, a bit of a free deal.
As soon as this remark came out, Xiao Li jumped like a thunderbolt, blaming Xiao Liu for not believing it, and obviously agreed to her own things, but in the end she couldn't do it. Obviously, both of them are going to get married, and they will be a family in the future, but now they refuse to add their names to the real estate deeds, which makes Xiao Li think that Xiao Liu has reservations about herself, and feels that since she is going to get married, there is no need to spend more money for herself, and the insecurity arises spontaneously. Speaking of the matter of buying a house with full payment, it was his parents who proposed it, and it was not his own request, if he had to ask Xiao Liu's parents to buy a house in full and still have to fill in his own name, it was inappropriate, but now it is Xiao Liu who promised to add his own name first, and his parents proposed to buy a house in full, so he should add his own name and keep Xiao Liu's promise to himself.
The two sides argued, each holding their own opinion, Xiao Li was in a hurry, and said that if her name was not added to the real estate deed, she would not marry the marriage. Xiao Li used this to blackmail Xiao Liu, which made Xiao Liu and her parents completely angry, originally thought that Xiao Li was just a straight temper, blame Xiao Liu did not discuss this matter with her in advance, but Xiao Li's series of ideas and actions made the family see Xiao Li completely.
In the years of Xiao Liu and Xiao Li's interaction, Xiao Liu's parents have also heard about it, whenever Xiao Li has a temper tantrum, Xiao Liu is carrying gifts to ask Xiao Li for forgiveness, over time, Xiao Li has also intensified, things are cheap and not OK, in Xiao Li's original words, gifts represent Xiao Liu's heart and attitude, the more expensive gifts, the more can show Xiao Liu's attention to herself, this is her so-called sense of security.
Thinking of this, Xiao Liu's parents firmly disagreed with the idea of this family affair, pulled their son and left the sales office, leaving Xiao Li herself at a loss.
Back at home, Xiao Liu's parents said to their son that such a girl, not marrying or not, weighing the weight with money everywhere, and using money to enhance her so-called sense of security, such a girl is very materialistic and selfish. Now the two are not married, so they are calculating to want a house, and if the two of them are married in the future, she does not have to calculate what she will look like in life.
Xiao Liu listened to her parents' words, thinking back to the past, and suddenly felt that Xiao Li was more and more excessive, always blindly demanding, everything was measured by money, if not satisfied, it would say that Xiao Liu did not pay attention to her, did not love her, made her insecure, to tell the truth, such a life pressure Xiao Liu is somewhat breathless.
In this way, Xiao Liu no longer carried expensive gifts to Xiao Li to reconcile, and the wedding of the two was canceled.
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The happy event that was originally happy, just like this, because the house was unhappy and scattered. Now in society, girls like Xiaoli can be said to be innumerable, these girls should be sober, after reading Xiaoli's story, we should understand the following two truths:
One: Marriage is to meet the needs of both parties.
In today's society, everyone wants to be treated fairly, between ordinary friends or colleagues, and between their other half, married, that is, both families are united, if you want to only meet your own needs, regardless of the feelings of others, then this marriage will certainly not last.
First of all, whether a person loves you or not cannot be measured by money alone, and it is not how much money he spends for you, which can show how much he loves you, and the so-called sense of security is not reflected by money. There are many manifestations of loving a person, and love that is proved by money is often unreliable.
Secondly, long-term unilateral love will not last long. In a happy married life, the two parties should tolerate and care for each other, rather than just blindly demanding each other and not paying for themselves.
Like Xiao Li, every time xiao liu is asked to take a gift to coax himself, and even must be a valuable gift, the other party will leave one day because he can't stand it and is too depressed. Although it is said that women just have to let men spoil, it does not mean that women can make unrestricted unreasonable trouble, want a marriage sweet and long-lasting, women should also try to pay, only the needs of both sides are met, will think of paying more for each other.
Second: Husband and wife are in the same heart, which is the foundation of a good life.
Marriage is maintained by two people together, as the saying goes, brothers are in the same heart, their profits are broken, husband and wife are the same, couples work together to live a good life.
Two husband and wife life, if one party is too selfish, everything is only concerned about themselves, always ask for love from each other, and they do not consider each other at all, do not pay for each other, over time, the other party's heart will be cold, and will not pay as before.
And once the selfish party does not get what he wants, he begins to blame the other party for not loving himself enough, not caring enough about himself, but he will never think about it, love is mutual, and if the love given by the other party does not get a response for a long time, then will he love again? One side is not satisfied, the other side is not receiving a loving response, and such a life is only left with complaining and quarreling.
A marriage without passion and love will certainly not last long. Business to operate will become more and more profitable, marriage is also to rely on management to cross the more prosperous, sweet and beautiful married life, not only to food and clothing this material satisfaction, but also the need for the spiritual satisfaction of love in the heart.
Husband and wife, in the married life to understand each other, tolerate each other, love each other and take care of each other, these need to rely on the two people to work together to do together, such a living environment, husband and wife will only love each other more and more, in a loving life, the days will become more and more prosperous.
It is said that husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, and the great difficulty comes to fly separately, but I think it is not the case. In a person's life, his other half may be the person who has been with him for the longest time, most of his life will be spent with his other half, during this time the two people will experience the wind and waves together, grow together, spend many difficulties in life, there must be bitterness and sweetness, there is sweetness and heartache, but if we all learn to pay, every love will respond from the heart, then our marriage journey will be smooth, and the last moment of life to accompany their own people , will also be the person you chose in the first place.
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