For women, marriage is their second life, after all, everyone can not choose their own birth, can only be forced to accept the arrangement, but marriage is different, adulthood, there is an independent ability, but also their own opinions, you can freely choose the person you love, but also can control their own life events.
It's just that the world of feelings is very complicated, sometimes not to give everything to be rewarded, not to come together to spend the rest of their lives together, and therefore, many women will reserve a way out for themselves before marriage, such as having a set of their own premarital room, as Sandra Heath Neros once said: Having a house is my lifelong dream, having it, I have a space that can be called myself, and I have a place to retreat and settle down.
Xinyu is such a person, as early as when she was in college, her parents helped her buy a small house in full, their idea is also very simple, after graduation and work, their daughter can not rent a house, can have her own home, even if it is married, if the other party's family is not good enough to buy a house, take this house as a marriage house, if the marriage is unfortunate, the house is the daughter's retreat, can let her not have to send people to the fence, will not be homeless.
Therefore, Xinyu regarded this house very seriously, and later when she was ready to get married, the man's family bought a two-bedroom house as a marriage room, and the in-laws made a down payment, and the two children went to pay off the mortgage, so Xinyu stepped into the marriage.
Day by day, until she gave birth to a child, the mother-in-law volunteered to take care of the daughter-in-law confinement, help with the child, Xinyu is naturally very happy, and thought that she met a good mother-in-law, but after two days, the mother-in-law talked about the conditions and said to her: Daughter-in-law, you give me your dowry room, I serve you to confinement, this is fair.
When Xinyu heard the other party's idea of hitting his own house, he immediately became angry and said directly: So, those mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who help with their children are not going to buy a house for them?
The mother-in-law listened but replied: That's different, if the daughter-in-law doesn't have a house, the mother-in-law can't insist on it, but our family is different, you have a house, from the time you marry into my family, the house does not belong to you, and when you first got married, the down payment of your marriage room was still from our old two, I want you to have a suite is not too much.
After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Xinyu said directly: If you want to get paid, it is impossible to get my house, and the marriage room was originally prepared by the man's family, and even if your family does not prepare a marriage room, I also have my own dowry room, and I will not delay the marriage. After hearing this, the mother-in-law immediately became angry and directly shouted: You don't give me a house, and I have no obligation to serve you in confinement. After saying that, I packed up my things and went home.
After her husband returned, Xinyu wanted to tell him about this, but the mother-in-law had already added oil and vinegar in advance, and she did not expect her husband to say to her: Wife, you don't have to worry, I have already told my mother that she will not hit your idea of the house again, she just loves to worry, and feels that the house must be in her own hands to be at ease.
Hearing that her husband was on her side, Xinyu put her heart down, she had already thought about it, if the man in front of her did not have his own opinion, then it was a big deal to divorce, if he was sincere, then he would live with him for a lifetime, and the next day, the mother-in-law came back, and apologized to her daughter-in-law for yesterday's events, although there was still a gap between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, but as long as the other party no longer hit the idea of his own house, Xinyu did not want to worry about it anymore.
The poet Yu Xiuhua said: Women must be sober in their feelings, and they must not let themselves have no way to retreat. Indeed, after all, no one knows how the future will develop, people's hearts are even more unpredictable, a relationship has not come to the end, and they will not know whether their sincerity will be entrusted to non-people, so in marriage, they must leave themselves with a way out, such as money, a house or the ability to make money.
Many women after marriage, often for the sake of family harmony and grievances themselves, in the interests of damage will also try to choose to compromise, do not know the small things to give way, but the principle of the bottom line can not be backed down, otherwise there are one and two, too weak will only make people feel good bullying, in the end is often their own grievances, so in the face of unfair treatment, to dare to refuse, in order to grasp the initiative, not to let themselves too passive, will not fall into a dilemma.