Yan Rujing once said in "Strange Story" that forbearance in marriage is limited in time, and forbearance is called calming the wind and waves for a while, and forbearance for a lifetime, all relying on fate.
Between husband and wife, it is not by who tolerates to complete a marriage, but by mutual understanding and mutual support to maintain a marriage and family. It's just that not everyone understands this truth.
Especially when the contradiction between husband and wife involves the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the contradiction of family affection, no matter how good the couple, no matter how much affection, it will be consumed until it falls apart.
In a family, the position of the wife in the in-laws' family depends on the husband's attitude towards the wife. If the husband defends his wife, then the in-laws will not be easily pinched and bullied. If the husband does not defend his wife, then the in-laws will only pick soft persimmons to pinch.
01, the father-in-law is 60 years old, and the mother-in-law has formulated 12 dishes for 9 people
Tan Mei may not have thought of anything, just because her mother's home conditions are not particularly good, and in order to please her mother-in-law, she took the initiative to cook when she first visited her in-laws, and from then on, every time she returned to her in-laws' house for dinner, she became a free nanny for her in-laws. A person cooks busy most of the day, waiting for a family.
At the beginning, if it wasn't for her husband's strong persuasion to see her in-laws for the first time, she should behave more diligently, and Tan Mei said that she would not easily cook. This is good, because she is too proactive, she has become a well-deserved chef in the in-laws.
Every New Year's Festival, as well as the mother-in-law's birthday, the in-laws' family dinner, others are sitting on the sofa chatting and watching TV, but she can only work diligently in the kitchen, stir-fry and cook rice, busy to fly.
This time the father-in-law's 60th birthday is no exception. A week in advance, the mother-in-law called and instructed Tan Mei to prepare according to the menu she had drawn up. Looking at the long list of menus listed by her mother-in-law, Tan Mei was not well.
Two in-laws, plus the little uncle's family of four, their family of three, a total of 9 people. But the mother-in-law listed 12 dishes, and these dishes are basically determined according to the taste of the two sons of the little uncle, what is expensive to eat, but the mother-in-law is stunned not to propose a penny of money.
02, the mother-in-law and the little uncle's family sat and waited
The mother-in-law's attitude of using her as a free nanny made Tan Mei a little angry. Even before the birthday feast, the mother-in-law called Tan Mei three times and twice to tell Tan Mei not to forget, but Tan Mei still did not make preparations.
On the day of the big birthday, the mother-in-law called early in the morning to urge. Originally, Tan Mei planned that if she arrived at the in-laws' house, the in-laws and the little uncle's family had a better attitude, and the family was lively and lively to help, she might as well be a free nanny again and serve the family.
But who knows, when she and her husband arrived at her in-laws' house, the mother-in-law and the little uncle's family had already sat and waited for them to come. Seeing that Tan Mei was empty-handed and didn't buy anything, her mother-in-law put her face in the shade.
When her husband saw the situation, he quickly picked up his mobile phone and pulled Tan Mei to the vegetable market to buy vegetables. But when Tan Mei came back from buying vegetables, her mother-in-law was still nagging there, saying that they were too slow, everyone was hungry and waiting, so that Tan Mei could hurry to cook, don't let everyone wait for a long time.
Looking at the mother-in-law and the little uncle's family, sitting and waiting for her to serve alone, even the sister-in-law was holding the mobile phone and playing there happily, Tan Mei was angry. She put the dish in the kitchen, then took out her mobile phone, ordered a takeaway for herself and the child, and then sat at the table waiting for the takeaway to be delivered to the door.
03, daughter-in-law: has ordered takeaway, who loves to serve who waits
When the mother-in-law saw that she had not moved to the kitchen to cook, she was immediately anxious. The two grandchildren were already hungry and screaming, crying and making trouble, no one could coax it well, but the mother-in-law was heartbroken.
Tan Mei was still indifferent, and her mother-in-law was angry. She blamed Tan Mei for deliberately leaving the family hungry. Tan Mei said without anger, I have ordered takeaway, who loves to serve who waits, anyway, today I do not cook.
As soon as Tan Mei's words came out, the atmosphere of the in-laws became particularly awkward. As soon as the takeaway was delivered to the door, Tan Mei couldn't care less about eating with her children, so she directly carried the takeaway back to her home.
The husband chased him out, accusing Tan Mei of being unkind, selfish, and only caring about himself, but he left him a large family aside. The husband also asked Tan Mei to go back to cooking immediately, the family was hungry, and asked her to apologize to her mother-in-law and admit her mistake.
Listening to her husband and the mud, the little hope in Tan Mei's heart was completely shattered. She did not continue to argue, and took the child and turned back to her mother's house.
She didn't marry before, didn't the in-laws have to eat? Now as soon as she marries, she becomes a free nanny for her in-laws' family, serving a large family. Anyway, who loves to serve who serves, she is not used to this group of ancestors.
Today's Topic:
Will you repeatedly compromise and give in to your mother-in-law for the sake of your family and marriage?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!