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The mother-in-law relationship is perhaps the most difficult relationship in the world. Two women become halfway mother and daughter because of their love for the same man, but they are secretly competing, who is more important in this man's heart.
Such an identity setting makes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law a little delicate at the beginning.
However, some women can not only handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also be looked up to by their in-laws, they are not how bad they are, but they know the wisdom of running marriage and family, and these are worth learning from every woman.
Li Kai watched her mother get up early and greedily to build the family business, and when she married her wife Xiao Shi, she warned her that she must be filial to her mother.
Li Kai always lost everything, so his documents have always been kept by his mother. Once Xiao Li used up the ID card, he habitually handed the ID card to his mother for safekeeping, which made his wife Xiao Shi very unhappy, she thought that in her husband's heart, the mother-in-law was more important than herself.
Xiao Shi also asked a classic question, I fell into the water at the same time as your mother, who do you save first? Xiao Li only said, save my mother.
Li Kai replied without hesitation, and finally hurt Xiao Shi's heart. Before getting married, every time there was unhappiness between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Xiao Li was partial to helping her mother-in-law, and Xiao Shi really began to regret getting married.
In fact, such an idea is not necessary, the first mistake Xiao Shi made here is to put himself in opposition to his mother-in-law, thinking that her husband is either good to himself or good to his mother-in-law. But in fact, you and your mother-in-law are not rivals, if you stand in the united front, your husband not only loves you, but also appreciates you.
Women should understand that if they want to be looked up to by the in-laws, they must have the wisdom of running marriage and family, and when you do the following two willing, then they will naturally respect you and admire you.
One: Be willing to be good to your mother-in-law and let men see their selflessness and virtuousness
In life, many men will have a mother-in-law complex, and the mother treasure man is born from this. Such a person is usually filial and dependent on his mother, but if he does not grasp the boundaries well, he cannot handle the contradiction between his small family and his original family.
At this time, women must learn to think from the perspective of men, and they must stand on the unified front with him.
He is good to his mother and grateful for his mother's love and dedication, so after marrying him, you will be good to his mother with him, let him know that you are not his enemy, you are a person who loves his mother with him.
With this realization, he will slowly let down his guard against you and treat you as his own family.
Many women will be lost after marriage, because they feel that men choose their mother-in-law between themselves and their mother-in-law, and they are an outsider.
There is such a thought, because they have not put themselves in the right position, filial piety to parents is what should be, as long as they do not have a vendetta with their mother-in-law and get along harmoniously, men will naturally see it.
Two: Willing to be good to her husband, let the mother-in-law know that she has no intention of decentralization, and only wants to love him better
Every mother-in-law under the heavens hopes that her son can live well, and they are worried that after their daughter-in-law marries over, they will manage their son too strictly, or they will not be good enough for their son, so they will obstruct and forcibly interfere.
At this time, if you can understand your mother-in-law's heart and face your husband better in front of your mother-in-law, she can naturally rest assured of you more.
Many mothers-in-law are hostile to their daughter-in-law, in fact, they are worried that their daughter-in-law will take away their son's love for themselves, if you can let your mother-in-law know that she has no intention of dividing powers, but only wants to have a good time with her, then she will naturally put down her hostility towards you.
At the same time, men's attitudes are particularly important.
When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not meet the mother-in-law, it will more or less disappoint the woman again and again in the marriage. Women choose marriage in order to spend their lives with people who love themselves, but in the end, it has become a pinch between the person they love and his mother, and really can't blame women for being cold.
Marriage is a life of two people, if there is always someone else to point fingers, then life will inevitably be a chicken and a dog.
Therefore, when the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law have a contradiction, the man should stand up for the first time, not directly say in front of them who is wrong and bad, but to slowly reconcile behind the scenes, say more good things about the other party, in order to make the relationship more harmonious.
Most women choose marriage or pursue stability, but if they marry into each other's families, but they have to face exclusion and targeting, it is normal for women to regret marriage.
Men cannot properly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, just like holding their wives in one hand and resisting the approach of their wives with the other. One day, no matter how strong the love will disappear, the man's confusion about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Therefore, high emotional intelligence is a compulsory course for every man.
Women should also remember that if they want to be looked up to by their in-laws, they actually have a way, know how to deal with various complex family relationships, and at the same time make themselves strong and independent, so naturally, they can gain a firm foothold in their in-laws' families.
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