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It is said that marriage is reached for newlyweds to go on the next journey together, but the traditional way of marriage also has certain problems for contemporary young people.
For example, the traditional mother-in-law relationship, the quarrel between husband and wife, and the education of children involving the elderly have brought certain troubles to newlywed families. So when problems arise, new solutions emerge – "two-headed marriage".
"Two-headed marriage" is gradually popular, and it is more comfortable to go back to each home?
Two-headed marriage refers to the fact that newlyweds still live in their respective families after marriage, and then live together when they miss each other.
For this emerging way of marriage, netizens also have their own opinions.
25-year-old newlywed woman: This way of marriage is very in line with the living habits of modern people, in favor
For contemporary young people, living with their parents from an early age, food, clothing, shelter and transportation are taken care of by their parents. The emergence of two-headed marriage can ensure that their original family environment is not changed, and they can also maintain a continuous freshness for their own small home.
Women who have been married for many years at the age of 40: Two-headed marriage is not as exaggerated as imagined
My husband and I have been married for 12 years now. Our marriage management method has always been two-headed marriage, and in the face of the understanding of two-headed marriage circulating on the Internet, it is actually largely one-sided.
After marriage, we did not live in our own homes, but took turns living in the homes of both parents, and there was no problem of separation. There may not be any obvious advantage or disadvantage for my own marriage.
However, the form that young people like is not to be recognized by their elders, and marriage in the inherent cognition is the union of two people, why is there a "two-headed marriage"?
Why is "two-headed marriage" gradually becoming popular? Young people have these careful thoughts
When the newlyweds are about to enter the halls of marriage, there are always some problems that become the last thing to test them!
In recent years, more and more young people have expressed fear of marriage, and there are not a few young couples who have flashed their knots, and the so-called "two-headed marriage" can temporarily solve the following problems for them, which is in line with their careful thinking.
There is no need to argue about who to go back to for the New Year's holiday
In the relatively traditional relationship between husband and wife, most of the New Year's holidays are returned to the man's home, and women have become accustomed to it before, and there are many "exquisite" support for women not to return to their mothers.
But with the change of people's thinking, women do not want to snub their parents after marriage, and in the "two-headed marriage" who returns to their home is not constrained, the couple can "go back to their respective homes", no arguments or shifts, to avoid unnecessary quarrels.
At the same time, because it is a form of two-headed marriage, the distance between men and women will not be too far, and the problem of "door-to-door son-in-law" and daughter marrying away is also solved, indirectly reducing the situation of "empty nest old people".
Resolved some of the bride price issues
In fact, whether it was before or now, the dowry issue has always been a "difficult point" before the bridegroom gets married, and many people who love each other finally choose not to be happy because the bride price is not negotiated.
The form of a two-headed marriage perfectly solves this problem. The man does not need to pay the bride price, the woman does not need to pay the dowry, and there is certainly no "negotiation" chip without the problem of money.
And the form of two-headed marriage is also perfect to solve the problem of the marriage room, and the little two families can choose to take turns to live in the in-laws' and mother's homes.
Solved the problem of the century - the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
From ancient times to the present, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very difficult problem in the family, and because there is no standard answer to the problem, the way to solve the problem is even more varied. The emergence of two marriages just cleverly avoids the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along.
The woman does not need to live in her husband's home for a long time after marriage, and the time spent with the mother-in-law is greatly reduced, so that the contradiction will be reduced, and there will be no friction due to problems such as diet and living habits. However, there are two sides to everything, and the advantages are often accompanied by the disadvantages.
Beware of the hidden drawbacks of "two-headed marriage", and don't blindly follow the marriage model
What kind of way to choose to operate better lies in the fit of the spiritual choices of the husband and wife, and do not delay their lives because of blindly following the trend.
First of all, the relationship between husband and wife tends to fade
It is said that couples quarrel at the head of the bed and argue at the end of the bed, but during the quarrel, the two sides live together to have the possibility of communication, and even said that the communication effect between the phone and the face-to-face communication is also different.
The form of two-headed marriage is easy to cause the possibility of "separation", once there is a contradiction, the two people go back to their respective homes and do not solve the problem, which is very unfavorable for the long-term relationship between husband and wife.
Secondly, the family atmosphere brought to children is not strong
Hiding in the arms of your parents does not have to grow up, and you still maintain this status quo after marriage. Three meals a day is responsible, making money only for their own spending, which in the long run is easy to cause the responsibility of the husband and wife to be weak. The business consciousness in the face of the family has not been formed, and the children cannot experience the warmth of a complete family.
A two-headed marriage not only reduces the pressure on both parties financially, but also weakens the sense of responsibility of both parties. Not living together very often, one member of both parties is more susceptible to outside temptations.
When a new "soulmate" is met, divorce no longer becomes heavy, and "flash marriage and divorce" is also given a new meaning.
Although the "two-headed marriage" is produced in the face of the current living conditions of young people, the couple should consider their current situation and then make a decision on how to choose the marriage business method.
Tuanzi's mother's heart:
The purpose of marriage is always to work with the person in love for a lifetime, whitehead to old age. Although the form is constantly updating, the end of happiness is the direction we are running in together!
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