For women, there is their own understanding, views and views on men, there are also standards and conditions for choosing the other half in their hearts, and they all have some common characteristics, but some men can't do these, and often mistakenly think that their own practices women will accept, some performances will like, or the purpose is to make up for their own deficiencies and deficiencies through these practices, don't you know that such women not only do not recognize, but even resent, women are tired of what performance of men? It is "May Day".
1. Gentleness that has nothing to do.
Since ancient times, when women choose a partner, they all hope that men can have a successful career, make a difference, can bring more life resources, let the family live happily, people will be "Lang Cai female appearance" is the ideal choice, think that "talented and beautiful" is the perfect marriage matching model, which shows this, the so-called "talent", is the man's talent, and career success or failure is closely related.
Every woman hopes that the man she marries, who performs well on the outside, and women are very fond of men with successful careers, but some men ignore this, do not have a little self-motivation, do not think of enterprising, do nothing, spend time all day, get by, perhaps out of a balance and compensation, show respect for their wives, extremely gentle, in front of each other is subservient, only promises.
At home and the wife there is a misalignment of the relationship, role swapping, although it is unbearable outside, but at home the performance is very good, is completely the image of a good man, always think that this can make the wife satisfied, do not know that the wife is often not appreciative, and even disgusted, no one will like to be called "housewife and man" By the people, their minds will only think that you are incompetent, not out of the ordinary, will only be despised, or even ignored, that's all.
2. The sincerity of having nothing.
People's lives are inseparable from material and spiritual needs, if the lack of one aspect, is not real happiness, the same woman in the choice of partners, the greatest desire is to have these two aspects. Some men are not like this, they have nothing, can not let women meet the needs of life, but they will continue to show their hearts to women, with sweet words to prove their deep affection for women.
Don't you know that this is a big mistake, to know that material and spiritual needs are complementary, material determines the spirit, the spirit reacts to the material, if there is no material guarantee, how to come from the spiritual life, to know that "the skin does not exist, the hair will be attached", also because you love women, with this strong spiritual will, you will try to change, work hard, meet the needs of women's lives, will not be poor and happy, will prove their love with practical actions, when you can not give women anything.
Relying on rhetoric alone, making cheap confessions, what can be explained, neither can prove your love, nor can it make women believe in this love, feel unsteady and uneasy about this, insecure at all, and even think that you are cheating feelings, in her view you are incompetent and nest, if the woman is superior, you will think that your motives are not pure, or that you are a man who relies on women to eat soft food, which makes people look down.
3. A trickle of whitewashing.
In the family, men must have two basic qualities of responsibility and sense of responsibility, to be able to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family, to shield the family from the wind and rain, to solve problems, with any difficulties and setbacks, to stand up, to dare to face and deal with the solution, dare to act, and become a strong reliance on the family, which is the duty and obligation of men. But some men can't do that at all.
At home, there is no sense of responsibility and sense of responsibility, always like to shirk responsibility, avoid problems when encountered, retreat when there are difficulties, but when encountering problems, they are helpless and helpless, which has become the norm for men, but they never face their own shortcomings, look for their own problems, and are unwilling to admit their timidity and cowardice, always like to find seemingly normal and reasonable excuses, say some grandiose reasons.
Or always complain, complain, emphasize the influence of objective reasons and external conditions, and then try to justify and excuse themselves, try to whitewash their own behavior, to cover up their inaction, to find ways to maintain their own image, and consistently, this kind of man makes women feel angry and hateful, but also makes people feel particularly helpless and disappointed.
4. Obstinate boasting
As we all know, the relationship between husband and wife is equal, both parties should respect each other, in the family the status of husband and wife is equal, to care for each other, to think about each other, to consider the feelings of the other party, to communicate and negotiate with each other when encountering problems, to deal with and solve them together, family affairs should be shared together, the two are an inseparable whole, but some men do not have this awareness at all.
Full of machismo thoughts, at home always think of themselves as important, at home solipsism, in a strong dominant position, so that the wife is in a weak subordinate position, the relationship between husband and wife is seriously unbalanced, men at home can fully reflect their own wishes, meet personal needs, never care about the wife's thoughts, everything is self-determined, do not let the wife participate, everything is acting according to their own wishes.
Always self-righteous, obstinate, and never disdain to help his wife deal with and share the housework, and then flaunt himself as a manly person, show off his position in the family, show off himself like a grandfather, brag everywhere, is not ashamed, but proud, for this kind of man and woman will only feel superficial, ridiculous and childish, making people feel angry and hateful.
5 Motionless Promises
As the saying goes, "a gentleman's word, the horse is difficult to chase", indicating that after the promise, it means that it is said to be done, and men are even more so, in their concept is a manly husband, to speak counts, in the words of the common people to describe that men are "a mouthful of spit and a nail", which shows that men must keep their promises, words and deeds are consistent, which seems to become a code of conduct for men.
However, some men in the family, especially like to give women promises, to their wives constantly draw cakes, describe false results and illusory futures, say that it is crazy, seem to dare to promise anything but often just say it, always say that it can't be done, often just talk about big words, over-the-top, is to please women, while showing their ability.
But never put their own commitment into action, always words and deeds, and finally it is "the handle of the flyover, just talk and don't practice", after the commitment, forget it, after the immobility, never do it according to their own promises, as a woman rarely sees the results of his promises, this kind of man makes women have no sense of trust, but also feel completely unreliable, think that this is a completely unreliable man, will only feel that this kind of man is disgusting and annoying.