He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Whether a family is doing well or not is not determined by the ability of one person, but by the efforts of each member of the family.
No matter how much a person makes money, if he does not have the ability to run a good family, then his family is also bad.
A person does not make much money, if the family atmosphere is good, every day is laughter, then his life is also happy.
If you want your family to live better and better, you can't do without everyone's efforts.
The older you get, the more you will understand:
Work, income, house and car, these are the "confinements" of life; You care, they exist; If you don't care, they won't affect your mood.
The most important thing is the family, the parents are alive, the children are excellent, the husband and wife have a good relationship, and the family and everything is prosperous.
What are the signs of a family getting richer?
It can be analyzed from 2 aspects:
Family relationships, family cognition.
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Family relationships are getting better and better
1. The husband and wife have a good relationship
There is a saying that goes like this:
The husband determines the height of the family, and the wife determines the width of the family.
The husband's ability often determines what level a family can be in; And the wife's attitude, emotions, determines how high the realm of the family is.
This is inseparable from the joint efforts of the husband and wife.
The relationship between husband and wife is always the first.
First of all, the husband and wife have a good relationship and can create a good family atmosphere.
Every day when I come home, it is full of laughter; Every day when I get home, I scold and curse.
Two states are completely two lives.
Secondly, the husband and wife have a good relationship and are role models for children.
If couples can manage their marriage, they are also a good example for their children.
Living in a good family of origin, children are often confident, secure and strong inside.
Finally, a good relationship between husband and wife can have more energy.
Studies have shown that:
When people are in a good mood, they are often able to play at a better level and burst out more energy.
A good relationship between husband and wife will make you full of fighting spirit and passion every day; And the husband and wife have a bad relationship, they argue every day, and you don't even have the mind to work.
2. Children are filial
The relationship between people is mutual.
In a family, if the relationship develops in a good direction, then the luck of the family will also get better and better.
With more luck, it becomes "luck".
Children are filial and parents are happy; Parents are happy and will give back more positive emotions to their children, and children will feel the love of their parents and will do their things better and better.
These are a virtuous circle.
Conversely, children are not filial and parents are depressed.
Parents are in a bad mood, so they have no intention of working, and they are even more unwilling to give their children a good temper.
Over time, the contradictions between parents and children have become deeper and deeper, home is not like home, and life is getting worse and worse.
How many of the families around you who have a bad relationship are doing well?
3. Family unity and active communication
For a family, harmony between family members is always the most important.
This point will be more obvious in living in the rural hometown.
Family members are not harmonious, siblings are not united, and they are often bullied by others.
Even if you have money, it's hard to be respected.
And the family is harmonious and united, and everything is the people of the family coming forward together; In this case, no matter what happens, no one will bully you.
What needs to be done to unite the family?
First of all, it is inseparable from active communication.
No matter what contradictions there are, we will choose to communicate at the first time, rather than allowing the contradictions to ferment.
Between husband and wife, quarrels communicate in time;
Conflicts between parents and children are resolved in a timely manner;
Disagreements between siblings, sit down and have a good chat.
Maintaining positive communication can make the relationship better.
Second, we need to have the ability to think differently from each other.
The most rare quality of a person is "empathy".
If something happens, you can consider the problem from the other party's point of view, and there will be few contradictions.
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Family awareness is getting higher
What is cognition?
It is thinking, lifestyle, behavior habits, words and deeds, and the mutual influence between parents and children.
A good family relationship is the luck of a family, which will make the family's luck better.
And high family awareness is the determining factor that determines whether the family "will become rich".
1. Be diligent and thrifty, open source and reduce costs
Diligence and thrift are always the best virtues of a family.
No matter how rich the family is, if it is always extravagant and wasteful, spends extravagantly, and does not leave a way for the children, then the speed of the family's decline will become faster and faster.
Only diligence and thrift can thin water and long flow;
Parents are diligent and thrifty and can set a good example for their children.
While being diligent and thrifty, it can achieve open source and reduce costs.
Money is not only earned, but also saved, and only by understanding this truth can the family live better and better.
Think about it:
Watching your family's savings become more and more and your balance increase every year, do you feel that life is particularly busy?
This is the first step for families to become rich.
Only by developing a good lifestyle, consumption patterns, avoiding waste, and being diligent and thrifty can the family go further.
2. Parents have vision, and children have talent
In my hometown for the New Year, I saw an example.
There is a couple, about 40 years old.
Two sons have just entered middle school.
The two of them are quite rich, and their lives are particularly critical, for the kind of "rich" that can stink with siblings for 100 yuan.
The two of them have almost no human contact, and they are focused on making money and saving money.
I thought that they saved money to give their two sons a good education and life.
I didn't expect to spend money on my son's transfer, and they were reluctant.
What do they say?
"Children go to school the same everywhere, those who have the ability can take the top few exams everywhere, and they are at the bottom of the best school if they don't have the ability."
I was surprised.
Isn't making money to make the child better and better, to give the child the best within his reach?
From the perspective of household investment:
Isn't it an investment in their children that smart parents spend a lot of money on their children's education and life?
Although this investment cycle is relatively long, isn't it a success for children to become talents in the future and live better than you?
The family is getting better and better every year, and there is hope for life.
The emotions of each family member can be stabilized, and the family can be more harmonious.
Summary: A sign that families are getting richer
1. The husband and wife have a good relationship
2. Children are filial
3. Good family relationship and family unity
4. Be diligent and thrifty, open source and reduce expenditure
5. Parents have vision, and children have talent
Today's Topic:
What do you think are the characteristics of a family that lives well?
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