The relationship between husband and wife is a very magical and great relationship,
It is not as strong as the blood connection of family affection,
There is no free space for friendship to get along,
But it's the most intimate of all human relationships.
At the same time, it is the most vulnerable.
In the event of a marital dispute case,
What will the court do?
Let's take a look.
Not long ago, his wife Zhenzhen confided in the staff of the Nanhai Court that her husband's behavior after marriage seriously hurt the feelings of the husband and wife, the feelings of the husband and wife had been completely broken, and the relationship between the husband and wife existed in name only, and a lawsuit for divorce dispute was filed with the South China Sea court. The case was imported into the Nanhai District Pre-litigation Settlement Center for mediation.
Mediation process
What behavior of the husband hurts the feelings of the husband and wife?
Zhenzhen told the mediator that she and her husband Sun Qiang both have good jobs and a considerable income. Because of this, his own home has become the object of others' demand. Husband Sun Qiang's parents and older brothers and sisters regard Sun Qiang as a "cash cow", and big things and small things come to the door: brother gets married and buys a marriage house, sister buys a house, children go to school... All look for Sun Qiang to give money to solve. Zhenzhen believes that her husband should honor her parents, but her husband does not refuse the unreasonable demands of her brother and sister, indulges her brother and sister with actions, and conceals her financial income from herself.
After Zhenzhen left, the mediator dialed Sun Qiang's phone. Sun Qiang did not say much due to his busy work, but made it clear to the mediator that he did not want to divorce Zhenzhen.
Start with the child's upbringing
A week later, when the mediator contacted Zhenzhen again to understand the situation, Zhenzhen cried that the contradiction between herself and her husband was even greater, and during a quarrel, Zhenzhen did not control her emotions and yelled at the child, although Zhenzhen realized the mistake at that time and immediately apologized to the child, Sun Qiang still directly sent the child back to her hometown, thinking that Zhenzhen's emotional collapse was not suitable for taking care of the child. Zhenzhen, who cannot contact the child, is very anxious and hopes that the mediator can help communicate and let her keep in touch with the child. The mediator realized that perhaps the child was the breakthrough in the conflict between the two parties.
While calming Zhenzhen's emotions, the mediator asked the couple about their concept of raising children. Zhenzhen told the mediator that in addition to not accepting her husband Sun Qiang's concealment of his money to his family, in other aspects, the two people's concepts are relatively consistent. Especially in raising children, Zhenzhen said that her and her husband's growth environment and study experience are similar, so there is resonance in the concept of raising children, and they all believe that children should grow up in the company and love of their parents, and that parents cannot be absent from the growth process of their children.
After Zhenzhen's emotions calmed down, the mediator informed her of Sun Qiang's unwillingness to divorce, and also analyzed in detail to her that the main contradiction between their husband and wife was in handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family relations, and both sides were too self-ego and strong, did not put each other's feelings first, and lacked benign communication. The mediator made a suggestion that both parties could go to the relevant departments to learn about the psychological counseling of "marriage and family therapy", and when the relationship between husband and wife was "cold", there was no shame in admitting and asking for help, and they should "seek medical treatment" in time.
After half a day, Zhenzhen offered to give each other another chance, even for the sake of the child, both sides should work harder. Subsequently, the mediator dialed Sun Qiang's phone, and Sun Qiang put forward a general solution to the "mother-in-law relationship" and "family relationship" issues that Zhenzhen was most concerned about, and promised to pick up the child as soon as possible, thinking that it was better for the child to grow up around his parents.
A week later, the mediator received Zhenzhen's application for withdrawal of the lawsuit and a thank-you pennant, and the dispute was successfully mediated.
Mediator's experience
Human relations are alive and need to be maintained, guarded, cared for and irrigated. In modern society, many people are ashamed to admit the true situation of their marital status, thinking that this is a very private thing, as everyone knows, marriage will also be "sick", when the marriage is sick, we should "treat" in time, rather than allowing its illness to worsen to the late stage, then it is really irreparable.
Links to laws
Article 1079 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China:
Where one of the spouses requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation is ineffective, a divorce shall be granted.
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