Children always break toys at home, tear books off, destroy stationery, lump pictures into paper balls, take apart alarm clocks...
If these destructive behaviors of children are just an inquiry and understanding of things, proper guidance will help children develop better;
If the child destroys something again and again, Guangzhou children's psychological counseling reminds that parents should pay attention to what is the reason for the child's behavior and provide guidance and help in time.
Zhenzhen is an introverted little girl in the third grade of elementary school. Recently, my mother was very distressed and helpless, because her daughter simply became a "killer" of stationery, and the brand new stationery arrived in her hands, and she was tortured and bruised in less than half a day.
When Zhenzhen is in a bad mood, she will always take the stationery to throw gas, either poke the brand new eraser into a hole, or drop the pencil from a high place, or throw the book into the ground, or scribble on the beautiful exercise book...
For this reason, her parents have criticized Zhenzhen many times, but she just doesn't care and doesn't change her teaching.
To this end, Zhenzhen's mother is very anxious, thinking that her daughter has a problem, but the child can't say what is wrong with her, and the mother can't understand how the child is, so she takes Zhenzhen to the psychological counseling center for help.
The psychological counselor learned that Zhenzhen in the kindergarten is a lively and talkative child, and after entering the primary school, the teacher also likes her, and the child's grades are good.
After the third grade, the grade dropped slightly, but the mother felt that there were more students in the class, and the child's grades were still middle and upper class, and there were no more requirements.
Since Zhenzhen went to school, her parents have put more attention to work, and Zhenzhen is mainly picked up and dropped off by her grandmother to supervise learning.
The mother did not understand what was wrong with the child.
Zhenzhen herself didn't know why she did that, and sometimes she just couldn't help it.
Guided by the counselor's patience, Zhenzhen remembered that she would do this many times when she was in a bad mood, and not other times.
It turned out that although mom and dad didn't put pressure on their own learning, Grandma had always taught Zhenzhen to study well, so that when she grew up, she would have a good time, and her parents would like it.
Zhenzhen hopes that she can study well, the results are great, and I hope that every time it is a hundred points.
The first and second grades may be OK, but when they are in the third grade, such expectations are often frustrated, Zhenzhen is sad, and she feels that because of the bad grades, the teacher does not like herself, the classmates do not like herself, and her parents do not care about themselves.
I broke the thing in my hand just thinking about it, and I thought it would be better.
Although Zhenzhen is a small child, she has her own feelings, her own thoughts, her own expectations and internalizes some of the external requirements of her parents and parents.
In the counseling room, the counselor guides Zhenzhen to vent her inner emotions in the right way that is easy for children to operate, and helps Zhenzhen establish a more flexible and suitable judgment standard.
Because the child is in the stage of psychological development, it needs the cooperation and guidance of parents and parents.
In view of Zhenzhen's situation, Zhenzhen's parents are willing to cooperate with the counselor, observe the child's emotional changes after returning home, spend more time with the child, and patiently listen and talk; Learn more about the child's performance in school, appropriate requirements for the child's learning situation, pay more attention to the child's inner development, and help the child build a good self.
Listen and speak about it Psychological Counseling Reminder:
Children are frustrated in interpersonal communication and academics, and are prone to inferiority, anger, and nervous emotions, and then vent and retaliate through destructive behaviors in order to achieve a temporary psychological balance, which can easily lead to more serious problems in the long run.
As a parent, if the parents are busy with work, have no time to take care of the children or have a rough attitude towards the children, the children lack playmates at home, lack recreational activities, idle energy, loneliness, and boredom, they will attract the attention of the parents through destructive behavior, and gain the understanding and love of the parents.
At this time, the child's destructive behavior is a signal of the danger of the parent-child relationship, and parents should keep abreast of the child's emotional changes and give comfort.
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