The holidays are over, school has started for a while, and the children are gradually learning to adapt to school life.
However, due to some special reasons, some children are slowly afraid of going to school and refuse to go to school for various reasons.
Faced with this situation of their children, many parents feel very confused, not knowing why their children are afraid to go to school, let alone how to return their children to a normal learning state.
Child counseling to support you.
Xiaohua is in the second grade of elementary school this year, and when she first went to school, she was fine, and she began to be afraid of going to school in the second half of the first grade.
At first, he received the sympathy of his parents for reasons such as headaches, abdominal pain, or general weakness to temporarily stop school. Later, if her parents forced her to go to school, Xiaohua would have restlessness, paleness, cold sweat all over her body, rapid heart rate, shortness of breath, and even vomiting, abdominal pain, frequent urination, urgent stools and other manifestations. If her parents agree to her not going to school for the time being, Xiaohua's anxiety will be relieved immediately.
However, children cannot stay out of school all the time, and parents sometimes have to coax or force their children to go.
However, as soon as the child starts class, he is worried and trembling, and he does not dare to face the teacher squarely and is afraid to ask questions. If asked, they will have a red face, sweaty palms, flustered heart, or only stand and do not answer the question, or speak poorly and stutter repeatedly.
Now that the new semester has begun, Xiaohua's fear of school has become even stronger. The teacher had to ask Xiaohua's parents to take the child to psychological counseling.
School phobia is a more serious childhood psychological disease, which refers to an emotional disorder in which children are abnormally afraid of a specific school environment and strongly refuse to go to school, which is a special type of phobia.
It is more common in elementary school students aged 7-12 years.
Due to the existence of various adverse psychological factors, students are afraid of going to school, afraid of learning, and have a terrifying mentality, so it is also called "fear of learning".
Forced to attend school can cause significant anxiety and panic responses, which, if not handled promptly or inappropriately, can lead to learning disabilities and social adjustment disorders.
▓ The symptoms of the late stage of school phobia are mainly manifested in:
(1) Domestic violence, such as destroying objects, attacking parents, self-injury, etc. to achieve the purpose of not going to school.
(2) Emotional negativity and burnout, from being allowed to stay at home at the beginning, the mood immediately calms and improves, to later becoming depressed and depressed, tired and sleepy.
(3) Psychiatric symptoms, such as auditory hallucinations, and even depression.
Today, the internationally consistent narrative lists schoolophobia as a common mood disorder and suggests that there are three peaks in the age of onset:
(1) The first peak period: 5~7 years old, which may be related to separation anxiety. Separation anxiety refers to an extreme anxiety response in preschoolers when they are separated from their parents, especially from their mothers, and are associated with poor independence and excessive attachment to their mothers.
(2) The second peak period: 11~12 years old, which may be related to factors such as going to middle school, increasing homework, increasing pressure or changing schools to adapt to the new environment and interpersonal difficulties.
(3) The third peak period: about 14 years old, may be related to the development of juvenile characteristics, such as self-conscious body height, hand and foot growth, inflexibility, the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics, and emotional depression.
Schoolophobia occurs in about 1% of children.
It has been reported that schoolophobia accounts for 60% of mood disorders in outpatient children, and schoolophobia can occur in children of all IQ levels, and it is more common in women.
Therefore, when children are afraid of school and do not want to go to school, parents should first talk to them, learn as much as possible about all the situation related to their schooling, and find out the reasons why children do not want to go to school.
Pay attention to enlightenment, do not feel that the child is a "bad child", criticize and accuse the child of "laziness, withdrawal", do not use simple intimidation methods, force the child to go to school, so as not to aggravate the child's psychological trauma. It is necessary to induce positive and cultivate children's trust in school and interest in learning.
If the child's anxiety symptoms or fear are obvious, parents should not be anxious, but should ask a child psychological counselor for psychological counseling and obtain the cooperation of teachers.
Then, parents should be patient and accompany their children to eliminate or reduce their anxiety symptoms. Whenever children make progress, praise and rewards should be given in time to help children gradually adapt to school life.