Marriage is happy needs husband and wife to operate with heart, the harmony of husband and wife feelings is the result of the common maintenance of both parties, and some couples have not done this, over time, resulting in discord between the two parties, marriage problems, it will start from a certain period of time, husband and wife together appear abnormal phenomenon, if the husband and wife emotional crisis what is the performance? There are "four changes".
1. Husband and wife become reticent.
As we all know, communication is an indispensable process in human life, and for couples is even more so, especially important, because husband and wife are the closest to each other, the closest relationship, if there is no normal commonality, it is a strange thing, under normal circumstances, between husband and wife can be said to be nothing to say, nothing to talk about, even if it does not reach this level, but can do smooth communication, so as to ensure the normal relationship between husband and wife, but some couples due to the discord between the two sides, the relationship is estranged.
The heart has not accepted each other, then the desire to communicate with each other will be weakened, the need for communication will be reduced, the opportunity to communicate will be minimized, the performance of husband and wife together is not at all wanting, nor willing to talk to each other, or there is no common language, no words to say, or words are not speculative, completely unable to go together, so that the two people together think that there is no need to communicate, and they are too lazy to speak, and even get bored and refuse to communicate with each other, the most typical feature at home is "taciturn".
Maybe some people will have objections to this, saying that couples are not good at words, simple words, and good feelings are big, this kind of couples with feelings of discord are completely different, do not like to talk and communicate less of the couple, both sides have been like this, each has been clear, has accepted and adapted to this model, and accustomed to it, know that this is the character of the nature, nothing, but the feelings of the problem of the couple, is at the beginning of the two sides communication is very normal, and then suddenly there are barriers to communication, communication between each other has become very little, or even no longer communicate.
2, the husband and wife become constantly in conflict.
As the saying goes, "There is no couple in the world who do not quarrel", which means that there are very few couples who do not have conflicts together, which is very normal for couples to live together for a long time, inseparable, it is inevitable that there will be various differences and contradictions together, and it is natural and normal for the two to have friction, but in general normal families, this phenomenon is very limited, and they are within the scope that the family can understand and accept, because many times through the effective communication and exchange between the two sides, the understanding deviation of both sides is eliminated.
Tacit understanding and consistency have been achieved, a lot of contradictions have been resolved, so that the conflict is significantly reduced, or out of the love of husband and wife, when the two sides are opposed, one or both parties will make compromises and concessions, try not to let the conflict occur, so that the possibility of conflict is greatly reduced, which has a direct relationship with the relationship between husband and wife, the deeper the feelings of husband and wife, the less conflict, which is the consensus of everyone. It is not difficult to see that there is a crisis in the relationship between husband and wife, the communication between the two sides has been reduced to the lowest point, and the opportunity for communication is very small.
Then it is easy to appear cognitive bias, misunderstanding, naturally easy to appear contradictions, lead to conflict, and after the conflict, and do not communicate, so that problems and contradictions continue to accumulate, and even lead to more problems, into a strange circle that can not be walked out, conflict continues to become inevitable, and because the husband and wife lack of feelings, they rarely take into account each other's ideas, a disagreement, do not give in to each other, the two will tit-for-tat, so that conflict is inevitable, it is precisely so that the couple has an emotional crisis, Constant conflict becomes the norm.
3, husband and wife become full of blame.
In marriage, if you want to be harmonious between husband and wife, it is naturally inseparable from mutual understanding, understanding and mutual tolerance, which is an important part of maintaining the normal relationship between husband and wife, only in this way can the husband and wife recognize and accept each other, after all, everyone understands the truth of "no gold, no one is perfect", so that in a normal family, husband and wife will not blame each other, even if it appears, it is also occasional, there is no big trouble, and the usual normal communication of husband and wife, explain many things, let the other party know the reason for the matter.
The probability of blaming each other is reduced, just like everyone usually says as long as it is open, it is not a big deal, and the other is that the husband and wife will be satisfied with the other party because they like each other, and there are not many places that can be picky accordingly, which is the so-called "love house and Wu". At the same time, husband and wife also know that the other party is their most important person, will respect each other, can also fully consider each other's feelings, do not want to blame each other too much, hurt each other's self-esteem, but if the couple's feelings are in crisis.
Due to the lack of communication and communication, it is easy to misunderstand, it will not be in line with their own wishes, they will inevitably complain about each other, and there is a lack of feelings on both sides, there will be dissatisfaction with the other party, they will feel that the other party does not meet their expectations, naturally they will become picky, plus there is no feeling, they do not care about each other, how the other party is irrelevant, accusing the other party will not consider what impact it will have on the other party, and it will become a natural manifestation in life to blame the other party.
4. Husband and wife become independent.
As long as they enter marriage, husband and wife become a community, both sides are closely related and inseparable, and husband and wife are integrated, there is no difference between each other, you and me. But the crisis of husband and wife feelings is not like this, the above said that the husband and wife have no communication, then since there is nothing to say, so do not say, or words are not speculative than not to say, but also quiet, the two people in conflict together, all day long can not be peaceful, husband and wife feel troubled, it is better not to care about each other, there is no connection and intersection, the two will not argue or quarrel, each is fine.
In getting along with you, you look at me unpleasantly, I see that you are not satisfied, you are not accustomed to each other, you are disgusted by the blame, then simply who does not say who, do not criticize each other, each hides far away, just like the saying "can't afford to provoke, hide", so they are at ease, so at home everything does not care about each other, nor participates, it has nothing to do with themselves, the two sides do not interfere with each other, no one cares who, no one can manage anyone, each for their own camp, every day to live their own lives, both have become independent individuals, just partner as a companion, Even became unrelated people, love strangers.