Many men do not understand, and even angry and dissatisfied, that is, they are dedicated to their families, but they are still looked down upon by their wives.
In fact, as long as you observe, in the marriage relationship, looking down on their other half, is a very normal phenomenon, some people define this kind of woman is to do, pampered and proud do not know how to cherish, there are also people who say that this type of woman has low IQ and emotional intelligence, and does not know how to manage feelings.
But two people from mutual appreciation and attachment to mutual disgust and hatred must have been ignored and not interpreted by each other. Behind every change in attitude, there must also be unknown incentives.
When from the moment of contempt and disdain, the direction of the new relationship between the two people has been opened, confrontation, and laissez-faire will accelerate the distance between the two people and lead to emotional rigidity.
Why does the daughter-in-law look down on her husband? Read the mind behind the woman's attitude, and the relationship will be different. But stubbornness, self-sufficiency, I am afraid that can only become torture and consumption, so it is easy to labor and swallow flying can not go to the end.
Expectations of men are too high
Just as the so-called greater the hope, the greater the disappointment, when women put too high expectations on men, and finally fail, there will be extreme gaps and dissatisfaction in the heart.
It may be due to the economy, the potential stock that the woman thinks is not fulfilling the agreement to give herself a better life, it may be getting along, that is, I can not want your wealth, but I need you to be good to me as always, but after marriage everything has changed, not only can not get a good life, but also have a self-righteous uncle.
When people choose the marriage partner, there must be trade-offs, and there must be expectations, and when the expectations are too large, they will naturally produce a loss psychology.
In fact, this kind of woman who invests too much expectation in her heart because of love recklessly, the greater the sacrifice, the more invested, the easier it is to look down on her husband in the future, because usually, it is difficult to meet expectations.
Confident, feel that the other party is climbing high
The heroine Li Baoli in the movie "Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart" is a poor woman, after her husband jumped off a building to commit suicide, she worked alone to do almost migrant labor for her son to study, but after her son grew up in college, she did not recognize this mother at all, she is a typical female image that looks down on her husband, never gives her husband a good face, and never saves face for him in front of outsiders.
Li Baoli said in the play:
"The conditions in my family are not good, the girl who sells vegetables in the vegetable market, but with my looks, there are many people who chase me, and it is his blessing that I chose him as a countryman."
Of course, people who have watched the play know that the breakdown of the husband and wife's feelings, there are reasons for the difference in the quality of the two people, there are also reasons why men cannot give the inducement that she has to use her own level to protect herself, this mentality of marrying down, when women think that the other party is high on their own from the beginning, there will be a condescending posture.
This kind of relationship is difficult to be equal, and there will be frequent conflicts because of the differences between the two sides, just like the couple in the play, even if they do not commit suicide, it is difficult to end the relationship.
Men lack responsibility
What a woman hopes to marry, she hopes that there is a person who can support and protect herself, and many families, may be due to nature, men are cowardly, introverted, ma bao, when a woman has a problem, she cannot stand up to protect her thoroughly, and even favor outsiders, then this man's behavior in addition to disappointing women, there is also a heartfelt look, because it is a female standpoint, it really does not do what makes him respect.
Home is a company, each performing its own duties, when the man can not take on the responsibilities that women want him to assume, and ignore his own shortcomings and responsibility for the lack of home, it will continue to aggravate the contempt of women.
Raw ecological family impact
The way a person's family parents get along, determines the future of a child and the appearance of their lover, a woman looks down on her husband, most likely, it may also be in her original ecological family, this is a strong woman and a weak man, so live a life, so unconsciously, but also imitate the parents to get along.
So when choosing a lover, you need to go to see each other's family, because your future relationship may be the epitome of the old couple.
In a marriage relationship, men need respect and women need love, but the key is to make a person who deserves to be respected and loved. Instead of blindly moral kidnapping, you love me and you have to make a strong change. This is not in feminism, but hope that everyone should introspect their own problems when they encounter problems, gender has nothing to do, but a shortcut to happiness.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.