A retired woman described her husband this way: "A retired husband is like a bulky garbage in the house, or a kind of unwieldy garbage that is alive." "It may be a joke, but it all exposes the problem of getting along with husband and wife after retirement."
Looking forward to the day after retirement, the two people can accompany each other day and night, but often at this time, the elderly couple suddenly feel uncomfortable. Some elderly people suddenly retire from work, and there will be some abnormal performances, giving their partners a bad feeling of "he has changed", "he is too annoyed", "he is too lazy" and so on. Even some couples, who are old and old, have also caused divorce.
Sometimes, the saddest thing about people in their old age is not widowhood, but the inability to adapt to their partners, and there are various contradictions in old age, and little by little, the feelings accumulated over the years are slowly consumed, and eventually they become people who hate each other. So, in the later years, couples are difficult to get along, what is the problem?
In fact, this is the so-called "retirement couples get along syndrome".
Before retirement, husband and wife have their own jobs, every day early out and late home, although intimate, but also there will be distance, each other will maintain a good feeling because of this distance, in life, work when there are difficulties, the other party is still their own inner spiritual pillar.
Therefore, after retirement, the elderly need a certain role change adaptation period, each other need to lower their posture, even if they have been leaders in the workplace, when they return home with their wives, they also need to be respectful and courteous and tolerant of each other. The real couple is not who conquers whom, but who accommodates whom, especially for elderly couples.
How do couples get along harmoniously in their later years? Do the following points, I believe you can successfully overcome the "retirement couples get along syndrome".
1. Be humble and re-run
Many elderly couples have been living together for a lifetime, and they know each other too well, so they speak very casually and are never polite, so there will be a lot of contradictions and grievances. In fact, for couples, no matter what time, they need to maintain a humble attitude. For the elderly who retire in their later years, it is especially necessary to have love for each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, re-run in, adapt to each other, and work together to have a happy and beautiful old age.
2. Cultivate hobbies and increase mutual goodwill
In life, many couples who retire in their later years, because they are not adapted to each other, every day men go out to play chess with others, and women meet with old sisters to dance square dance. Although they live under the same roof every day, there is a lack of communication and communication, and there is almost no spiritual intersection between them except for the daily three meals a day. Some people cling to the old and make up their minds, stumbling every day and barely holding on.
In fact, it is very simple to change this state. In their later years, the husband and wife cultivate a common hobby, do things of interest together, exchange experiences and feelings with each other, and gradually become as sweet as love.
3. Know humor and be willing to pay
In addition, if you want the couple to get along well in their later years, it is necessary to adjust the atmosphere and enhance the sense of humor of the feelings. If it will not be resolved, then the small contradiction will evolve into a big problem; at this time, if one party uses humor to resolve it, not only can the contradiction be successfully resolved, but the husband and wife's feelings can be sublimated.
4. Be humble to each other and communicate actively
In the old age, there are some contradictions between husband and wife, who is right and who is wrong is no longer important, the important thing is to manage this relationship well, so that each other have a companion in their later years, and happiness goes hand in hand. If the husband and wife encounter problems, then make concessions to each other and negotiate and communicate to achieve a win-win situation.
5. Go out of the house and open your mind
Many people in their old age, for various reasons, like to stay at home when there is nothing to do, and the couple looks at each other all day, and the friction and contradiction will naturally appear more. With the wife, go out for a walk, two people take a walk together, look at the scenery, breathe fresh air, the mood will naturally be comfortable, the trivial things in life will not care, and the relationship between them will be better.
The so-called "ten years of repair to the same boat, a hundred years to repair the sleep together", accompanied by most of their lives, the old to each other to become the most important people, so, the older you get, the more you must cherish and accompany each other. No matter what happens, we must try our best to maintain the feelings of the husband and wife, and do not destroy each other's mood and hurt this rather precious couple relationship because of their temporary bad emotions.