01 Preface
Liang Shiqiu wrote in "Life Is Just Like That": "The fun of middle age lies in knowing life quite well, knowing yourself, so as to do what you can do and enjoy the life you can enjoy." ”
People to middle age, life has gone through halfway, at this time, should stop the hurried footsteps at the right time, look up, look down and think carefully, how to go on the road ahead, everything depends on their own choices.
By middle age, marriage has gone through several spring, summer, autumn and winter, and the people who missed it when they were young are irreparable; it is not easy to do the wrong thing again.
By middle age, husband and wife have lived together for many years, and each other's passion has almost disappeared, leaving only the constant affection.
The rest of life is not much, cherish the people around you, so as not to make mistakes, so as not to regret when you lose.
The rest of your life is not much, run a good marriage, establish a positive attitude to life, in order to live happily in the second half of life.
02 The following attitudes towards life should not be allowed:
1. No emotional exchange, no conjugal life
Psychologists believe that in married life, husband and wife get along day and night, the mystery gradually disappears, and a series of social, interpersonal, mortgage, car loan and other survival problems follow, which will make the daily married life become flat and eclipsed.
In the long run, it can lead to the weakening of the feelings of the husband and wife, so that the marriage relationship faces a potential crisis, so that the love edifice carefully constructed by the husband and wife collapses in an instant.
The increase in the pressure of life has made the husband and wife neglect to manage their feelings, and the long-term estrangement has made the life of the husband and wife out of reach.
Long-term life between husband and wife, will make people in a long-term depressed state, inner desires can not be vented, people will become irritable, irritable, insomnia and dreams, husband and wife are very easy to have contradictions and quarrels, which directly leads to the deterioration of couples' feelings.
2. Housework is too lazy to do, and people become lazy
Due to institutional reasons, after middle age, people become a little lazy, coupled with the indifferent relationship between husband and wife, between husband and wife, if there is no party to take the initiative to do housework, then who will do the housework, will be a point of intensification of contradictions.
In many families, husbands are busy chasing games, ignoring children, and ignoring the elderly; in some families, wives are busy shopping and playing cards, ignoring housework, and such families will inevitably be wolf smoke.
There is another reason why no one is willing to do housework, that is, it is not convinced.
Some couples, usually less communication, for doing housework, caused a lot of contradictions, men think that housework should be done by women, men do housework is not a manifestation.
Women, on the other hand, believe that men and women are equal, so why don't men do housework?
3. Live without faith, get by and live
Many middle-aged couples think that they are middle-aged, their lives are nearly half, the time left is not much, they have to get by and over-calculate, coupled with the perennial discord between husband and wife, they feel that there is no hope for life, so they have lost the motivation to struggle.
People's loss of ideals and fighting spirit is extremely terrible, and the muddy days make people sink, their spirits collapse, the whole person is no longer in a state, there is no passion for doing anything, and they cannot experience the happiness of marriage.
On the contrary, women with good husband and wife feelings, the whole state is written on the face, there is light in the eyes, there is god on the face, and everything is full of confidence. She lives not only for herself, but also for her husband and children, as well as her parents, for the happiness of herself and her relatives, she must work hard, work hard, she believes that her efforts will be rewarded with fruitful returns.
03 Turning negative into positive, the future can be expected
1. Couples usually chat more to deepen their feelings
Zhao Youting and Gao Yuanyuan are a model couple in the entertainment industry, and in "Venus Show", Venus asks them how much they chat at home? They replied that chatting at home was binge chatting.
Good feelings must have endless words, endless days, and endless hearts. Chatting will enhance the feelings of two people, if there is negligence in communication, it is bound to affect the feelings of two people.
Liu Tong said: "The comfortable feeling is that you talk about any topic, and the other party can talk about it, not because the other party is knowledgeable, but the other party is interested." ”
Between people who love each other, you are willing to say, I am willing to listen, and interact with each other tacitly. Over time, life will be full of happiness.
2. Do housework diligently, starting with diet
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Love comes from the table and disappears from the table. ”
Food has been the innate foundation of human beings since ancient times, and people can only survive by relying on food.
In the love of food, there is a person's quality. If two people have commonalities in the food they like each other, then they must have a very good relationship and be very close.
Everyone's taste will have a certain difference, middle-aged couples have problems in marriage, may wish to start with changing eating habits: accommodate each other, do a diet that suits each other's tastes.
For the sake of the other party, sacrificing their own needs, then the other party will naturally appreciate you, in the long run, the other party will do anything for you to think, housework will naturally not wait for you to do.
Think more about each other, accompany each other to eat well, and then live a good life. Love can only bloom in the wind and snow moon only when it is rooted in chai rice oil and salt.
There is a simple truth here: to get something, you must first give, love is essentially exchange, with your heart in exchange for the other party's care and love.
If you blindly only take and blindly let the other party pay, married life will be a chicken feather and uncontrollable.
3. Build a positive mindset and confidence in life
Feng Zikai once said: "Don't be confused in your heart, don't be trapped in feelings." Don't be afraid of the future, don't think about the past. So, okay. ”
This is exactly the mentality that middle-aged people should have, even if the floating world changes, the wind and clouds change, the traffic on the street is busy, some people are red and green, some people are drunk and do not know the way home, they should also maintain their original intention and leave a positive attitude.
Middle-aged, if you have a positive attitude, do not care about their own gains and losses, do not care about their own wealth and poverty, work hard to move forward, be proactive, and move forward, then, no matter what the result is, they have already defeated ninety percent of their peers in mentality.
Calm your mind, don't care about other people's private gossip, try to move forward, step by step, so that the future can be expected.
Cherish the people around you, and take more care of your lifelong partner, middle-aged people, friends around you should not be too much, you have to walk around more.
For their partners, more tolerant, with a positive attitude to deal with the contradictions between the two sides, more empathetic thinking, more for the sake of each other, husband and wife feelings will naturally become deeper and deeper.
Strive to cultivate your own interests and not give up what you love.
After the positive mentality is cultivated, it will naturally be handy to deal with things, and the road to life will naturally become smoother and smoother.
04 Conclusion
Love is not necessarily a vigorous confession, but it must be a plain and bland stay. Listen to thunder in the silent place, and see the flowers in the colorless place. Carry one person with a white head, and guard one person to grow old.
Middle age is a very important stage in life, is a very brilliant time in life, may we cherish this time, with all enthusiasm to write a new chapter of life!
May you, in the middle age of life, find the most ideal love and the most beautiful destination in your life, and live a happy life of "talking together, eating together, and sleeping together".