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Marriage, in many cases, is not a matter of one person, but the efforts of two husband and wife.
We often say that a woman has two reincarnations, the first time is birth and the second time is to marry.
I strongly agree with that.
A good marriage is not only the wife's intention to maintain, but also the active cooperation of the husband.
There is a saying: "Marriage without love is an immoral marriage, and marriage with only love is an unrealistic marriage." ”
I deeply agree with this, although love and marriage are two different things, but marriage is inseparable from love, and the ultimate attribution of love is also marriage.
1, marriage is good or not, look at the husband's attitude to know
Li Shi said in "Strange Story": "I think marriage is a shell, marriage should protect us, not we protect marriage. ”
That's true.
All our lives, we have searched for the true meaning of marriage, but in the end, we have made marriage the last thing we want to accept.
Recently, after watching the drama "Dear Child", the marriage of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu in the play was lamentable.
The two have been married for many years and have given birth to children, and they thought that the small family would be full of vitality because of the arrival of new life.
But he did not think that Fang Yinuo was busy taking care of the children, but Xiao Lu was drunk and drunk because of the various socializations of the work, and even did not return home.
A husband who longs for his own help, a man who betrays the family in order to escape the responsibilities of the family.
People who used to be full of mouths to be good to you all their lives suddenly become strangers, I think, this is a kind of marriage tragedy.
Whether a woman is happy in her marriage depends largely on your attitude towards men, and if a man is very perfunctory to you, then don't feel that he is just in a bad mood, but that he has no love for you anymore.
Therefore, women, sometimes have to believe in their sixth sense, if they do not feel love in marriage, there are two ways to break the deadlock, one is even if it is saved, and the other is to turn away.
Either way, it's all about pursuing happiness.
So, for women in marriage, staying sober is most important.
2, the pattern of men, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more harmonious
Men with large patterns will also have a more harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage.
Some people say that behind a discordant mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there must be an unreasonable son and a husband who cannot communicate.
I strongly agree with that.
Many times, the way a man handles family relations largely determines the harmony of the family.
There is a saying: "The so-called pattern is the height and pattern that is naturally formed after all things happen." ”
Deeply believed, men with large patterns will never let their behavior affect the harmony of a family.
In the play "Heart Residence", Shi Yuan can be said to be a very responsible man.
However, after he got married, he could not reconcile the dual identities of a good son and a good husband.
Because, when his mother disliked Gu Qingyu as an "upstart", he could only let his wife endure, and his behavior towards his mother would always stay in the mouth of "blocking", and would not stand in Gu Qingyu's point of view and think about her.
Therefore, in the end, the marriage broke up unhappily and ended in divorce.
Everyone says that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been the most difficult to deal with.
However, it is still a man who links the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
Therefore, in marriage, the relationship between the wife and the mother-in-law, the husband plays a big role.
The pattern of men determines the quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3. Marriage requires the joint operation of a family
There is a saying: "Marriage is not buying and selling, marriage has its own true feelings." ”
That's true.
Marriage is indeed not a buy-sell relationship, but a partnership relationship.
Only when a family works together can we have a happy family.
In "Dear Child", the marriage of Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu, in addition to the problems of the marriage itself, in fact, the intervention of the parents of both sides also led to the divorce of the two.
First of all, Xiao Lu's mother, after the birth of her granddaughter, let Xiao Lu take away the placenta, and then look at Fang Yinuo's mother, it is even stronger.
After Gao Caiping accidentally knocked Hehe down, he retired two years early and moved into his daughter's home, watching his children all day and not letting Gao Caiping approach Hehe.
In the end, Gao Caiping and Fang Yinuo's mother quarreled and were bumped into by Xiao Lu, who was returning home.
The family confronted each other in person, and the situation was particularly embarrassing, and it was full of gunpowder.
When the marriage of children is interfered with too much by their parents, it is doomed to be flawed.
After all, marriage is a matter of two families, not just the love of two people.
When you understand how to run a home, you really understand the meaning of marriage.
Xiaoyuan's message: A good marriage, the pattern of the husband is very important.
After all, a home always needs a bridge to build a harmonious relationship.
A man's responsibility and responsibility for the home largely determines the happiness of a home.
If you feel that you are very depressed at the moment, then you may wish to talk to your husband, effective communication, can solve eighty percent of the contradictions in the marriage.
In this way, the odds of achieving happiness will also increase a lot.
For the rest of your life, may you have some love and some expectations.
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