The long-term contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law makes everyone understand that sons and daughters-in-law are not the same, but there seems to be no contradiction between mother-in-law and son-in-law, so everyone ignores that daughters and sons-in-law are also different.
The Spring Festival that has just passed is the peak period of gift-giving Chinese, and it is the fine tradition of the Chinese nation to visit relatives and friends, exchange gifts, and wish each other all the best in the new year. Therefore, this gift is also a doorway, otherwise not only does it not send blessings, but it makes the recipient feel angry.
There was such a thing at my friend's house this year! As we all know, in many northern provinces, the daughter can not return to the door without leaving the third year of junior high school, so the gift of the Chinese New Year's Eve is often sent by the son-in-law before the third day of the junior high school, and the daughter sends another one when she returns to the door in the third year of the first year, which can naturally show the difference between the two people choosing gifts.
Friend's sister-in-law just got married this year, this Spring Festival is the first Spring Festival not to live at home, the two families discussed well, the gift of the first three back to the door of the sister-in-law preparation, Chinese New Year's Eve gift son-in-law preparation, to show the son-in-law's attention to the mother-in-law.
The intention is good, the son-in-law is also worried about the mother-in-law is afraid of the cold, specially went to buy a wool coat, but the embarrassing thing is that the size is wrong, the mother-in-law can not wear it at all, this gift also makes the mother-in-law feel very uncomfortable.
Back to the door on the third day of the first year, the sister-in-law also sent a sweater, which was novel and the size was appropriate, and it seemed that the son-in-law's gift was not careful. This also reflects that daughters and sons-in-law are also different.
The reality that one-child families have to face
First of all, during the New Year's Festival, my daughter can't be with me. It is undeniable that after marriage, Chinese New Year's Eve, Mid-Autumn Festival, such festivals, daughters generally have to go with their husbands to their mother-in-law's house, and can not take care of their own mother's family, which makes the one-daughter family have to face the festival without daughters.
However, with the development of the times, families where both parties are the only sons and daughters in the family abound, in this case, many couples have come up with a series of methods, such as one year in the in-laws' house, one year in the mother's house and other methods. Despite these little clevernesses, it is undeniable that the festivals of one-child families can no longer be accompanied by daughters as they once were.
Secondly, the son-in-law is not his own family after all, and he cannot treat him wholeheartedly. Just like the friend's uncle mentioned above to buy the wrong size, it is very simple to avoid, even if this is not a mistake to make, even if you do not pay attention to the size of the mother-in-law on weekdays, you should ask your wife when you are not sure, to put it bluntly, or do not care.
This also has to be admitted, from the perspective of blood relations, the son-in-law is not his own family after all, and he cannot treat his wife's parents like his own parents.
The possibility of helping a child with a baby is extremely high
As we all know, although China has always advocated equality between men and women, widowed marriage and widowed parenting are still common, and once childbirth, the burden of running the family outside the home, taking care of the children, and taking care of the parents of both sides is likely to fall on the head of the daughter alone.
At this time, if parents do not care about their daughters traveling by themselves, not only can they not bear it, but they will also be accused by others of not helping their daughters. If you are helping your daughter, it is not an easy task for parents to take care of their children at an old age.
Cultivate filial piety early
Whether it is a son or a daughter, as long as it is an only child, parents must cultivate their children's filial piety as early as possible, so as not to be sad and no one cares.
First of all, parents should set a good example for themselves. As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for children, if parents themselves are very filial to their parents, children will naturally imitate their parents, and will be a filial piety in the future.
Second, parents can educate their children through small stories. China is an ancient country with a long history of culture, and touching filial piety stories such as lying on ice and seeking carp abound, parents can tell more such small stories to their children and imperceptibly cultivate their children's filial piety.
In short, the only female family faces a series of practical problems. But these problems can be avoided in advance!