The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
In fact, there are many misleading truths about marriage, one of which is that the ultimate result of the end of the couple's relationship is not necessarily the problem of both parties, after the intervention of the families of both parties, even if it is a firm and unwavering love, there will eventually be a day of dissolution.
The truth of marriage is that marriage is not simply the marriage of two people, but the process of integration of the respective families of both parties, in this process of integration, a move inadvertently by each family member will even affect the original feelings between husband and wife.
Especially when a girl gets married, the first thing to face is the headache of the mother-in-law contradiction.
If you meet a reasonable mother-in-law, perhaps your future life will be much better, but if your mother-in-law is blindly partial, then the emergence of contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is only a matter of time.
01 The favoritistic mother-in-law only cares about the daughter's family
After Fang Fang married into her in-laws' family, she gradually discovered her mother-in-law's eccentricity.
Fang Fang and her husband entered the palace of marriage through self-talk, because at that time, considering the conditions of her boyfriend's family, in the matter of discussing the bride price, Fang Fang did not ask for a bride price from her boyfriend's family, but when she got married, her parents also prepared a generous dowry for Fang Fang.
However, it was because of this incident that Fang Fang was distressed for a long time.
Fang Fang has not been valued by her mother-in-law after marriage, but after her girlfriend gets married, her mother-in-law always asks for warmth on the side, even if her girlfriend does not like it, but the feeling of being cared for by her mother-in-law is still good.
Later, by chance, Fang Fang learned that the beginning and end of all this was because she did not ask for a bride price from her in-laws when she was married, but all this was recognized by her mother-in-law as her own "upside down", for this, Fang Fang did not know how to explain.
Although FangFang does not feel the attention of her mother-in-law, she has to admit that her mother-in-law is really impeccable to her sister-in-law's family.
02 The grandson is eating fish, and the grandson is drinking porridge
Fang Fang's sister-in-law was already married when Fang Fang had not married into her in-laws, and because she was too hasty about marriage, her life after marriage has not been satisfactory. Therefore, the mother-in-law will go to her daughter every three or five times to take care of her food, clothing, shelter and transportation.
For these, Fang Fang also expressed understanding, after all, there are parents in the world who do not love their children, if it is simply because of these, it is enough, but some things that the mother-in-law sometimes does are really unacceptable.
Whenever a guest comes to the house, the guest will bring many gifts, and when the guest finishes eating, the mother-in-law will bring the gifts brought by the guest to the sister-in-law, even if FangFang is on the side, the mother-in-law will not care about her feelings. At the beginning, Fang Fang also understood that the sister-in-law's family was not easy to work, and the gift for the sister-in-law to take Fang Fang did not mention the opinion, but then every time it was like this, gradually, Fang Fang gradually had a dissatisfied mood in her heart.
Later, with the birth of the child, FangFang put all her thoughts on the child, even if the mother-in-law was biased towards herself, it didn't matter, as long as she really loved her grandchildren.
However, once, Fang Fang needed to travel for a while because of work, so she entrusted the child to her mother-in-law. In the middle, because of the change of work, Fang Fang returned home in advance. Thinking of the child, she immediately came to her mother-in-law's house and couldn't wait to see the child.
However, as soon as she pushed open the door of her mother-in-law's house, she found that the children of the sister-in-law's family were also there, and they were eating together, but the careful FangFang found that all the delicious fish in front of the children of the sister-in-law's family were drinking porridge.
Fang Fang did not say a word and silently brought the child home.
03 The eccentric mother-in-law finally regretted it after ten years
It wasn't until after this incident that Fang Fang realized that the original mother-in-law was not only partial to the sister-in-law, but even between the grandson and the grandson, who loved the house and Wuxia, cared more about the grandson.
Since then, there has been almost no affection between Fang Fang and her mother-in-law.
For this, the mother-in-law has not made changes, she still pays for her daughter's family, on the contrary, for the Fangfang family, the mother-in-law says the most is: it is okay, she does not need to take care of it.
But after all, they are all children, and in the face of such a differentiated treatment of their parents, even Fangfang's husband will inevitably feel unhappy in his heart.
Ten years later, the mother-in-law began to grow older, and she needed a person to take care of her, before that, the mother-in-law also had a good word, saying that when she was old, her daughter came back to take care of her, but the reality was that the sister-in-law also had her own mother-in-law who needed to be old-age, and she had no time to take care of her mother-in-law's family.
Sometimes, the sister-in-law would take time to go home to visit her mother-in-law, but each time she didn't stay long, because she still had one more thing to deal with at home.
In the face of her daughter's difficulties, the mother-in-law can only show understanding, but there is no one around to take care of herself.
So she called Fang fang, hoping that she would be able to go home and take care of herself for a while.
However, Fangfang, who has not felt the care of her mother-in-law for many years, how can she release the contradiction between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for many years because of her mother-in-law's three words and two words, and for the request made by her mother-in-law, Fangfang resigned on the pretext.
Until this time, the feeling of regret pervaded the mother-in-law's heart, I did not expect that my daughter, who had loved so much, had no heart for the elderly, and the daughter-in-law had a gap because of unfair treatment, and she was unwilling to take care of it, and finally ended up in a situation where she had nothing to rely on.
Conclusion: As a mother-in-law, in the face of all children, even if you can't be 100% fair and just, at least you must have a bowl of water, so that only when you are old, you can feel the warmth of your children's affection and children and grandchildren.