It is said that brothers and sisters are their own families, connected by blood, and have a constant fate.
I once saw such a news:
One woman's father was hospitalized sick and needed surgery.
After getting the news, her three uncles, an uncle, sister-in-law and uncle drove to the hospital.
The hospital did not allow so many people to enter, and the father's brothers and sisters sat by the flower beds in front of the hospital and waited for the morning until the father's surgery was over.
This scene is simply warm!
Half-life parental kindness, a lifetime of brotherhood. In this world, apart from our parents, our brothers and sisters are our dearest people.
However, not all brothers and sisters in life can get along harmoniously.
As the saying goes, a mother gives birth to nine sons, and the nine sons are different. Once the brothers and sisters have their own families, they become two real families.
How to maintain this family affection is worth learning from all of us.
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Brothers and sisters who came too close was a disaster.
After reading a sentence, going too close is an irreversible destruction for beauty, and it is for things and people.
I agree.
Especially between brothers and sisters, the closer they are, the easier it is to breed contradictions.
There is such a scene in "Parental Love":
Anjie is pregnant, but her husband is on official business, her sister-in-law is in the countryside, and no one takes care of her, Anjie thinks twice and invites her sister An Xin to come and accompany her.
But also a lady from a large family, Anjie lives an enviable life, while Anxin and her husband work on the island of Montenegro.
One day, Anjie inadvertently said something complaining about her sister, which led to an argument between the sisters.
As the saying goes: "Brothers do not share wealth, and sisters have less contact." ”
No matter how good the relationship between brothers and sisters is, there is also a difference between relatives and estrangement, inside and outside.
Just like Anjie and Anxin, because of their different situations, even if they are related by blood, the gap becomes larger and no longer simple.
In this way, exchanges become more frequent, and contradictions increase.
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The best relationship between brothers and sisters is that it doesn't matter.
Between brothers and sisters, pay attention to the comings and goings, but pay more attention to the degree of exchanges.
Fa Xiao was closer to me, often talking to me and talking about her sister, and she had said that there was no one closer than her and her sister.
However, the sisters fell out.
The brother-in-law was gambling outside and had a huge debt that could not be repaid. Fa Xiao for the sister, it can be said that he contributed money and effort, but the sister always connived with her brother-in-law.
As a sister- and knowing that her brother-in-law's behavior was a bottomless pit, she persuaded her sister to divorce her, but it was unsuccessful. Seeing that her sister could not support the wall in the mud, she simply did not lend money to her sister.
Later, the two people had a big fight and did not interact with each other.
In fact, the relationship between brothers and sisters seems to be intimate, but in fact, it is particularly easy to "break".
When I was a child, under the arms of my parents, everyone had a good feeling and could wear a pair of pants; but when I grew up and my feelings became bad, I often didn't recognize my relatives.
The writer Bi Shumin once said: "Keeping a distance close is the most appropriate way to communicate." ”
Deeply.
A dish, no matter how much you like, eat more will be tired, only once every other time, you will remember its deliciousness.
Brothers and sisters get along, too.
When the other party encounters difficulties, although you can't stand by and watch, don't be blind and enthusiastic.
Only by getting along with a sense of proportion can the feelings between brothers and sisters develop more harmoniously.
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Family affection needs to be managed with heart and built with heart.
Brotherhood is connected by blood, is the expectation left by parents, and is the embodiment of true feelings in the world.
The fate between brothers and sisters can also be said to be a rare fate in this world.
Cherish brotherhood and sisterhood, only by learning to get along correctly can we feel happier affection.
Some people say that brothers and sisters interact, further is warmth, step back is comfortable, but it is best not to be close.
I agree with that.
Between people, no matter how close the relationship is, we must maintain a certain sense of distance and boundary, if there is a lack of distance and sense of boundaries, it is easy to have problems.
It's like a bunch of hedgehogs hugging each other for warmth, hugging too tightly, the thorns on their bodies will hurt each other, and if they are too far away, they can't snuggle up for warmth.
So, they need to keep trying, and finally find a distance that neither hurts their companions nor feels cold.
Brothers and sisters are also the most comfortable way to live, is not to get too close, which is both cultivation and empathy.
Remember, interact with each other, don't cross the line, don't rely on it, don't interfere, and appreciate it from a distance is the most beautiful and long-lasting!