If you have emotional problems, you can always come to me and confide in you
Let me be your best listener and listen to the truest voice within you
Author: Hua Yu Chi
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Note|The original book is different from the TV series
People only understand in middle age:
How realistic is the gradual drift between An Jie and Ge Meixia.
Similar people will be happier in their peers; But people from not the world, how to get together, is in vain.
The fact that these two people were able to come together was itself an unexpected "makeover." ”
Updated desolation
"I could have endured the darkness if I had never seen the sun; Yet the sun has made my desolation a renewed desolation. ”
This is the most true portrayal of Ge Meixia's life.
And the words that the heart is higher than the sky and the fate is bad is even more vivid to explain her turbulent life.
Whether it is Ge Meixia in the original book or Ge Meixia in the play, there is this description:
If you think that Teacher Ge has not married at this age because she does not look good, then you are considered empiricist. Teacher Ge can't marry because of her bad appearance, on the contrary, because Teacher Ge's appearance is terrible, and the men on the island can't make a move on her, or because they lack courage and confidence in the face of her good appearance and don't know where to start. Like a pot of freshly uncovered steamed buns, the hottest ones are always left last. Teacher Ge has a red mole on her eyebrows, which makes her charm like a magic worker. People have different opinions about this red mole, some people say it is a blessing mole, others say it is a woe mole, the two statements are needle-to-needle and make you confuse whether it is a blessing or a curse.
Because the conditions are too good, Ge Meixia's marriage is difficult to finalize.
Men are ashamed because of her good looks, while women feel a sense of crisis because of her beauty, so she can only get stuck in this moment and passively become a sheep to be slaughtered.
Originally, Ge Meixia also wanted to go with the flow.
But the appearance of An Jie gave Ge Meixia new ideas.
If she hadn't left that island, then she might not have stayed on her marrying all the time, and would have chosen to accept her fate like ordinary people around her, and live her life like this.
But she met An Jie, the leisurely and cheerful days in the small courtyard, Jiang Defu's love for her, the rise of her status, the coffee that can be drunk at any time, the life of "drinking coffee cups, drinking water cups, drinking tea cups"...
In that small courtyard, she saw a better future, so why couldn't she wait? This is the truest thought in Ge Meixia's heart.
At the lowest ebb, Ge Meixia's thoughts were still the same.
Why can An Jie always maintain her elegance and decency under the same suppressed background, sitting in the car and enjoying her wife's identity, but she has to pick up a lot of dung and lose face in front of everyone?
In the desolate days, Ge Meixia got a renewed desolation, but in the same way, she also got a better conclusion in this renewed desolation:
Await.
This approach, while clumsy, is also more effective.
Fortunately, her wait was at least productive.
The first time I smelled coffee, I thought, what day is this? This is the day of the gods! When will I be able to live such a life!
When I was young, I had a goal, when I can live a life like Teacher An, even if it is only one day, I will live it worthwhile.
This is Ge Meixia's summary of the first half of her life.
She thought, her own conditions are here, her appearance, age, culture, and family are not bad, why should she be subordinate to others?
Ge Meixia's waiting for so many years corresponds to that sentence:
Everything waits dormant in order to move forward better.
But Anjie and Ge Meixia have never been people of the world.
After all, they are different, let alone the same kind of people.
But Ge Meixia's origin and conditions are there, but if the conditions are not a level comparison, then even if there are more comparisons, it is useless.
There are already too many facts that have been proven:
She can't be like An Jie in her life.
What Ge Meixia couldn't understand was not only the thought behind An Jie's decency and smile, but also the tone of life that had been predestined from the beginning.
A man must eat a peck of salt with his friend before he knows him
An Jie and Ge Meixia are together, but the friendship between these two people may not be long.
As the saying goes:
Lu Yao knows horsepower and sees people's hearts for a long time.
If Ge Meixia is really pure-minded, after a long time, An Jie will naturally treat her like Dehua, but Ge Meixia is inadvertently trying to "destroy" An Jie many times.
It only takes a little to move your lips, but what you will destroy is the life of others.
Jealousy gradually arises, and with it, more and more unthinkable mental entanglements.
Whether it is the painter incident on the island or when she is going to marry Wang Zhenbiao in the later stage, she does not seem to be the role that a normal good friend should have.
People will be jealous, but they will not be sarcastic when their friends are proud, "This is a flower for you," and the rumors on the island are circulating from this seemingly loyal and honest population.
The area of the island is not large, but once the rumors spread, the speed of dissemination can be described as amazing, and what will happen if a person who wants dignity and dignity is ruined by his reputation?
The results are predictable.
It's not a guy along the way, even if you get together strongly, it won't last long.
What's more, An Jie and Ge Meixia, whether from birth or in essence, have never been the same kind of people.
As the object of the same suppression in that era, An Jie was born as a capitalist, but she received a good education, tutoring, etiquette, at least in the eyes of outsiders, everything is so impeccable, and this is why after An Jie went to the island, anyone criticized her behavior, but no one attacked the ability she taught, because the ability is real, An Jie in addition to Jiang Defu's protection, there is also his own ability.
Ge Meixia, on the other hand, is different.
She is the daughter of a fisherman, and she may have a good experience at home, but she may not have received a comprehensive education and the ability to deal with others, whether it is from the pattern of her handling of things and the handling of Wang Haiyang and Jiang Yafei's marriage in the later period, we can see it.
Ge Meixia inadvertently opened An Jie's door at that time, but if it were not for An Jie's initiative, the two of them might not have become friends.
But the essence of human beings is to seek benefits and avoid harm.
And why does An Jie like to chat with the women on this island?
The reasons are:
Ge Meixia's identity at that time was an elementary school teacher, at least decent enough, and seemed to be a knowledgeable and literate person, and at that time, An Jie first arrived on the island and was not adapted to any life, but she had a good impression of Ge Meixia as a teacher, and she urgently needed Ge Meixia's existence to gain a sense of belonging.
But when the two really got along, after a long time, An Jie found that the two people were only chatting with some parents, and they talked freely about literature and art with her imagination, and the petty bourgeois life was not compatible at all.
Two people are not the same kind of people in essence.
But how? All she can do is understand.
So they can only get along and live together not far away.
Different worlds
For Ge Meixia, a good life is far more important than good love, and she only chooses a more practical life and needs.
When the needs of actual life are greater than the needs of spirit, who cares about what decent dignity and what love they think?
In her life, once she aims at something, she will seize the opportunity not to let go, and she will not give up until she achieves her goal.
Who doesn't aspire to a better life? In those days, when faced with the opportunity to have a good life, everyone would hesitate.
Even if Ge Meixia chose Lao Ding at that time, it was the same.
Lao Ding thought that in addition to the change in identity and living conditions, people also saw their own knowledge and ink, but it turned out that Ge Meixia only looked at a good life.
Lao Ding has always wanted to marry a woman with knowledge and culture, but Lao Ding this person, look at people always only look at the surface, only look at the surface phenomenon, if Ge Meixia really has knowledge and culture, will be like Wang Haiyang said at the dinner table, can she even confuse which class she taught or not?
If An Jie is the perfect wife in Lao Ding's imagination, then Ge Meixia is just a shell covered with decorations, but simply has culture on the surface, but the inside is not as comprehensive as An Jie's higher education.
But who doesn't long for a better life?
"The heart is higher than the sky, and the life is thinner than paper," has always been the true portrayal of Ge Meixia.
But after so many years, her heart has long been smoothed out, and now, she just wants to live a good life.
Even in the marriage of Wang Haiyang and Jiang Yafei, all she can do is that more is better than less.
I know that you dislike the ocean as a second marriage, and have a child, you said that in this year, divorce is still a thing, let alone this man. No matter how good the conditions of your family Yafei are, no matter how picky they are, then the age is also up, even if it is a seven fairies, she has to hurry up and hurry up to get off the ground.
As long as Yafei insists, don't say that the two of them do not agree, that is, their whole family does not agree, can it screw Jiang Yafei.
Let the ocean be a little better for Yafei, a little better, firmly tie Yafei to it. We both have to help your son, too.
And what Ge Meixia said to An Jie was not talking about her former self?
She deeply felt that everything she got now was deserved, otherwise, after all these years of waiting, why was it not a kind of self-inflicted suffering? And Wang Zhenbiao chose her, perhaps for her at that time, or perhaps another kind of luck.
Although he was the target of his serious criticism at that time, life is sometimes full of drama.
Even if An Jie is her "friend", in a family without family voice and dominance, she can only make a rimmed vase, and she can only be silent to help the father and son push the waves.
Looking back, if she had married an ordinary person in this life, step by step, she might also be happy.
What if I do it all over again?
If......
However, it is a pity that life will not be repeated, let alone if.
Author: Hua Yuchi, freelance writer, both romantic and rationalist, focusing on women's growth and emotional writing, inspiring a woman who writes hard and loves reading.
Love the beauty of words, sell words for a living, and believe that one day you can achieve a better self.