Recently, the TV series "Heart Residence" has been a hit.
Taking the housing problems of Chinese as the starting point, this drama tells the daily family life of ordinary citizens in Shanghai.
There are 3 couples in the play, Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei, Ge Yue and Gu Xin, Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu.
They play ordinary and intricate marital relationships.
Ge Yue noticed that her husband Gu Xin was having an affair and called Feng Xiaoqin at the first time.
Here, Feng Xiaoqin is a derailed prophet.
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She asked Ge Yue to pay attention to Gu Xin's daily life:
Whether there are lipstick prints or perfume smells on the body, whether you have received any inexplicable gifts, whether you love to look in the mirror and pay attention to your dress.
After Ge Yue's observation, Gu Xin actually matched completely.
However, if marriage is as suspicious and blamed as the characters in the play, then the marriage loses its original meaning.
A good marriage in reality must contain these 3 looks.
01 Understand each other
Yang Dai is a famous writer and translator in the mainland, and she and Qian Zhongshu met and fell in love with each other in Tsinghua Garden in 1932.
Since their marriage, the two have lived very happily until Qian Zhongshu's death in 1998, and the two lived together for 65 years.
In the book "The Two of Us", Yang Dai recalled her past of giving birth to a child in the hospital.
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During that time, Qian Zhongshu lived alone at home, but he would come to the hospital every day to visit Yang Dai.
Every time he came to the hospital, Qian Zhongshu always said to Yang Dai with a bitter face, "I did something bad", yesterday I overturned the ink bottle and soiled my clothes, today I broke the door lock...
Yang Dai smiled every time and replied 6 words, "It doesn't matter, I will wash" and "It doesn't matter, I will repair".
They came all the way through the ups and downs, attracted each other and understood each other, and only then did they achieve this enviable marriage.
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As the Swiss psychologist Carl Jung said: "In a good marriage, there must be love and friendship, and both sides are lovers and friends." ”
In 2001, Tong Dawei, who was still a senior at the Shanghai Theater Academy, met Guan Yue, who was rehearsing a show in the same crew while filming in Beijing.
Tong Dawei fell in love with Guan Yue at first sight, and after 6 years of division and integration, they were licensed in August 2007.
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Guan Yue said she was a fickle Pisces.
Sometimes they planned to eat shabu lamb at night, but within 10 minutes, Guan Yue changed his mind.
The children have a holiday, Guan Yue also plans to travel with them, the ticket and hotel are booked, but the moment when he really wants to leave, Tong Dawei can't make the trip because of the temporary film schedule.
They always understand each other's difficulties and difficulties, understand each other's occasional willfulness and temper, in order to always respect each other and love each other for more than ten years after marriage.
02 Mutual tolerance
The TV series "Parental Love" starring Guo Tao and Mei Ting tells the story of 50 years of married life in which Naval officer Jiang Defu and capitalist Miss Anjie met, knew, loved and kept each other.
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Jiang Defu's cultural level is not high, but Anjie has a bourgeois petty mood, and they who are originally "not right at the door" have become an enviable couple.
Anjie likes to drink coffee, and although Jiang Defu says that the impact is not good, he will bring her a few packs every time he comes back from a business trip.
In order to overcome the cultural gap, Jiang Defu spent time practicing calligraphy and thinking about Anjie's family everywhere.
When Anjie heard her husband being ridiculed by her mother's family, she actually lost her temper with her mother's family and stood up to protect her husband.
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Anjie went to the island with Jiang Defu, saw the harsh environment, complained loudly, and lost her temper.
In order to make Anjie's life convenient, Jiang Defu personally built a toilet.
Anjie envied the roof of the house next door to see the tide rising and falling, cooking smoke, Jiang Defu prepared a ladder on the roof, so that she can enjoy the island scenery at any time.
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Jiang Defu, who was originally informal, gradually began to drink tea and read newspapers; Anjie, who was originally a little bourgeois, also slowly overcame habits such as cleanliness.
There is no perfect marriage in the world, there are no two people who are completely compatible, only couples who appreciate each other, know how to tolerate, and manage their lives with heart.
In this way, they "you protect me for a short time, I give you a lifetime of warmth", tolerate and humility to each other, in the face of pain and suffering, always deeply love each other, overcome the age gap and the survival dilemma of special periods, and walk through the ups and downs of decades together.
03 Accompany each other
In the movie "Only Yun Knows", the hero and heroine Sui Dongfeng and Luo Yun met in a foreign country and married under the witness of the landlord Mrs. Lin.
On the wedding day, Sui Dongfeng confessed to Luo Yun: "After I drink boiled water, you will drink; when I eat, you eat meat; when I eat meat, you eat bird's nest." ”
Later, at Mrs. Lin's suggestion, they went to another city, Clyde, bought a house, set up restaurants, and stayed for 15 years.
For 15 years, they met Melinda, a girl who works in a restaurant to earn tuition, protects wildlife and loves nature, and they have a dog named BLUE to protect the safety of their owners...
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In 15 years, they have experienced too much.
Luo Yun miscarried, Sui Dongfeng did not abandon, in order to make more money, Luo Yun worked hard with him to take care of the business of the restaurant, the guests were sometimes unreasonable to Luo Yun, Sui Dongfeng always stepped forward.
Two people living in a foreign land, a simple guardianship, a decision to support their lover, can make the two people live a very comfortable life, but also full of hope for the future.
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Until a fire destroyed their restaurant.
Later, they returned to the place where they had met.
However, Yun suffers from congenital diseases and has come to the end of his life.
That night, Yun snuggled into the arms of Dongfeng, and she said, "My greatest fortune is to meet you." If I don't wake up this time, you'll donate a bench for me, sky blue. ”
The tears of the east wind quietly fell into the corners of the mouth, like a meteor streaking across the deep night sky.
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Mu Xin said: "In the past, the sun became slow, the cars, horses, and mail were slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime." ”
Accompanying each other to old age, not abandoning, this is the most beautiful look of love.
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Writer Liu Na said: "What really makes a marriage come to an end is never a sudden disaster, but a small thing that accumulates over time. ”
Love is a belief, and marriage is a lifelong practice.
A good marriage must be two people who understand each other, tolerate each other, do not abandon each other, give each other the warmest hug and strength, and work together to go white.