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On the eve of the liberation of Shanghai, many friends around Mr. Yang Di went abroad to develop. If she wants to leave the mainland, she also has three choices: one is to go to Taiwan, the second is to go to Hong Kong, and the third is to go abroad. No matter which way she goes, she can enjoy a more privileged life.
But Mr. Yang Di eventually chose to stay in China and stay at Tsinghua University as an adjunct professor. Part-time employment is actually an hourly wage, and the salary is very small. She preferred to endure poverty, devote herself to the study of literature, and eventually become a scholar.
Mr. Yang Di once said:
"Take the road of good choice, don't choose the road of good walking, you can have your true self."
This is a life advice she left for posterity, and it is also a true portrayal of her legendary life.
However, nowadays, many people often choose a good path when faced with the temptation of comfort and comfort in front of them.
Coveting temporary comfort and avoiding pressure means giving up the opportunity for self-growth, and it is always difficult to see the rainbow without going through wind and rain.
Yang Wei, a woman's top wisdom: don't take the good road.
01Only choose a good road, it will eventually become more and more difficult
In recent years, the topic of "escaping from the north" has been constantly hotly debated.
According to the latest "Blue Book of Social Mentality" study by the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, within two years of fleeing Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, many people have fled back to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou.
Some people can't adapt to the fast pace of first-tier cities, and when they return home, they find that third-tier cities are not ideal livable cities. Being in a small city cannot get rid of "996", coupled with frequent ineffective social interaction, many people are determined to return to first-tier cities to work hard.
People who are dedicated to pursuing a good path, as long as they are not happy, will choose to escape, rather than thinking about how to solve the problem.
A roommate in college just graduated and got a job in a listed company in Shenzhen, with a good salary.
But not long after, in the face of work pressure and life anxiety, he began to escape, and resolutely chose to return to his hometown to develop in a third-tier city.
In the past two years, due to sudden changes in the family, the economic pressure has risen sharply. Because of the desire for comfort, I have no savings over the years and cannot resist unforeseen risks. He regretted that he should not have chosen comfort at an age of struggle.
Wu Jun, author of "Insight", wrote in the book:
"Many people can't make it to the big climate, not because they can't do it or have enough opportunities. Rather, because he chose a comfortable life too early and stopped running. ”
At a fork in the road in life, every escape will gradually reduce the goal requirements, which is actually the biggest irresponsibility for the future.
Before choosing a road, if a person can't figure out the direction, he will often find the opposite direction.
Some people always want to lie in their comfort zone and pursue the good road of "living less money and closer to home", while ignoring their own long-term development.
A good road will make people lose their goals in life and gradually lose their fighting spirit.
Blindly pursuing a good road will only make your road more and more difficult.
02 Endure hardships and surpass yourself
There is such a story:
A little boy picked up a chrysalis in the woods.
After a few days, he found a small gap in the chrysalis. The butterfly struggled desperately inside, but it couldn't get out, as if it was stuck by something.
The boy couldn't bear the butterfly being trapped, so he cut the pupae with scissors. After the butterfly climbed out, its body was bloated, its wings were shriveled, and it could not fly.
The boy thought that in two days, the wings would be fully grown. But he was disappointed again, and the butterfly could not fly.
The butterfly was forced to choose an easy path, and without painful struggle and unremitting efforts, was doomed to spend its life crawling.
Some people say: Calm sailing cannot temper a good sailor; The flowers that grow in the greenhouse cannot withstand the wind and rain outside.
Some people only yearn for a good path and do not pay attention to the improvement of their own cultivation. When the opportunity comes, it will also be unable to provoke the beam due to insufficient ability, and finally can only watch the opportunity slip away.
Once, a wonderful video of "Duzhu Drift" amazed netizens.
Her name is Yang Willow, she is dressed in ancient costume, dancing on the water, beautiful, like a fairy.
But this road is not as easy as imagined. As the saying goes, "one minute on stage, ten years off stage", she practiced hard for 18 years to achieve her current skill.
Since she was 7 years old, she has fallen into the water thousands of times to find her balance, and she often falls all over her body. In summer, the scorching sun endures the scorching heat, and in winter it endures the freezing cold of the river. Her parents wanted her to find an easier job, and she hesitated. But her love for her career made her persevere again and again.
She said: If no one is willing to endure this suffering, the skill will be lost. Since you have chosen, you will bravely stick to it.
Yes, success depends on the ability to succeed, and only through the path of hardship can we cultivate the ability to succeed.
A person who aspires to success always knows the way forward, rather than just focusing on the good and bad of the road ahead.
03Only by believing in your heart can you go far
The TV series "The Bottom Line" has a plot in which Judge Zhou Yi'an resigned, which caused netizens to think deeply.
Usually busy with work, when his mother fell and injured but had no time to take care of it, Zhou Yi'an felt helpless; Every day after work, he had to face the stalking and provocation of Qiao Dazhuang, who was not satisfied with the verdict, and he felt extremely angry; When mediating the case of Tong Rui and his wife, because he unintentionally said a word, the court was likely to give punishment, and he felt very aggrieved.
In the face of multiple difficulties, the helplessness, anger, and grievances in his heart, coupled with the anxiety of work pressure, almost made Zhou Yian on the verge of collapse.
On the other hand, Shuanghe Law Firm invited Zhou Yi'an to join the company, and the conditions offered were three times higher than the court's salary, freedom of working hours, solving housing problems, and so on.
On the one hand, the confusion of the dilemma and the temptation of high salary, Zhou Yian also chose to take a good path - resigned from the court and decided to work at Shuanghe Law Firm.
When dealing with the last case before leaving his job, Zhou Yi'an was impressed by Qin Ling's kindness and strength. At the last moment of Qin Ling's life, he helped her preserve her property, leaving a guarantee for the elderly and children, and also made Zhou Yian feel the value of her existence.
Then, Master Fang Yuan was stabbed by the party at the door of the court. Zhou Yi'an saw the judge's selflessness and justice in the master, and found his own direction in life.
Zhou Yian chose to resign due to pressure and confusion; And because he found his own value, he decided to stick to the profession of judge. In the face of enjoying material things and pursuing value, Zhou Yian chose the latter.
Whether he resigns or stays in office, Zhou Yi'an's original intention to pursue the value of life has never changed.
However, when many people feel very confused in the face of setbacks, they use the difficulty of the road ahead as the basis for decision-making, and the results are often unsatisfactory.
Everyone will have moments of weakness and confusion, but successful people know how to stick to their inner values.
Don't be blinded by the temptation in front of you, and stick to your own path, in order to go further and further.
04 Mei Niang said
Wang Guozhen wrote in "Love of Life": I don't think about whether I can succeed, since I chose a distant place, I only care about the wind and rain.
Far away, is the path you choose.
Wind and rain are determined and persistent efforts.
No matter whether the road ahead is smooth or muddy, as long as you stick to the path you choose, despite your efforts, God has its own good intentions.
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