Author | Jingbo Guoxue
Source | Jingbo Guoxue (ID: jingboguoxue)
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Enjoy the new sunshine
In life, many people can't hold their breath when they encounter things.
But there are also people who "Collapse In Front of Tarzan and Do Not Change Color", at the moment of crisis, use a sober mind to come up with ways to solve the current predicament.
In fact, a person's first reaction to encountering things hides the knowledge, insight, character and cultivation accumulated in the process of growing up.
How to deal with and solve problems can best see a person's temperament and open-mindedness, insight and pattern.
The Aphorisms say:
"The more lenient it is to deal with difficult things, the more generous it is to deal with people who are in difficulty, and the more it is to deal with urgent things."
The Disciple Rules also say, "Don't be busy, be busy and wrong." ”
Urgent things are always stressful and confusing.
Slowing down is to calm down the mentality first, carefully observe, clarify the train of thought, determine the plan, and give the opportunity to prepare for the subsequent action, so as to achieve the effect of doubling the results with half the effort.
When encountering urgent matters, if you are impetuous and eager to achieve results, you will often make mistakes.
Zhou Rong of the Qing Dynasty recorded one such story in his "Collection of Chun Han Tang".
One winter, Zhou Rong wanted to enter the county town from the nearby river port, and ordered the child to tie a large stack of books with a wooden plank to follow.
As it gets late, the sun is about to set, and there are still about two miles to go to the county seat.
He asked the ferryman, "Is it too late before the city gates are closed?"
The ferryman looked at the bookboy carefully and replied, "Go slowly, it's okay; hurry up, just close." ”
Zhou Rong listened and thought that the ferryman was teasing them, so he and the book boy walked quickly.
Halfway down the road, the boy fell, the rope broke, and the books scattered on the ground, and by the time the books were sorted and bundled, the city gate in front of them was tightly closed.
Zhou Rong commented on himself after the article:
"The world is in a hurry and self-defeating! Things are slow and round, and it is difficult to achieve results in a hurry. ”
Instead of making mistakes in the chaos, it is better to slow down and do a good job.
When encountering an urgent matter, slow down, give yourself a mood and environment to do things, and then, immerse yourself in it, forget about work, often can achieve the effect of doing more with less.
When the mentality and actions are stable, it will eventually be complete.
The Tao Te Ching says, "Quiet is the man of the momentum." ”
"Jing" can overcome the impatience in people.
Keeping quiet is the basis for a person to sharpen his will and cultivate his self-cultivation.
In life, we often encounter many unpredictable emergencies.
The more anxious things are, the more confused the mind will be, and the easier it will be to mess things up.
A lot of wisdom in life is often hidden in calm and calm.
Reading Mr. Yang Dai's "The Two of Us", I was deeply impressed by her sentence "It doesn't matter".
The door shaft of the house was broken and could not be closed, she said with a smile, "It doesn't matter."
Qian Zhongshu had a scabies on his head and was in an irritable mood, and she comforted her, "It doesn't matter."
Whenever her husband encountered something depressing, she would gently advise "it doesn't matter."
She had been calm and calm all her life, and no matter what happened, she never seemed to be flustered.
Behind the simple three words of "it doesn't matter" is Yang Chen's philosophy of "quietly seeking stability".
When things are about to happen, if you can be as calm as you are when you are fine, and calm down your worries, then what has already happened will naturally disappear.
Only by being calm can we make decisions, only by planning can we do things, and only when we are calm can we accomplish things.
The I Ching has a cloud: "Bend into all things and leave no stone unturned." ”
Many things in this world are often tortuous and cyclical.
In life, we will always encounter many difficult things that cannot be solved.
When encountering difficulties, if you do not change your thinking in time, it will be easy to fall into the tip of the horn and cannot extricate yourself.
"The mountain can't come to my past", when encountering difficulties, know how to be flexible, turn a corner in the thinking, and often solve the problem.
Life is like a process of digging a well.
If you can't always get water in one place, and you insist on continuing to fight, then you will only waste more time and energy, and in the end it will be in vain.
Timely flexibility, calm analysis, looking for easier places to dig wells, in order to find clear spring water.
Li Xiao of the Song Dynasty said: "The art of saving evil is not much more flexible. ”
Because the river is good at turning, it will flow to the far side;
Wise people are good at changing their thinking, with the help of external forces, to resolve the difficulty, the problem will be solved.
At critical moments, when difficulties need to change, it is precisely our thinking.
Confucius once said, "A gentleman does not exaggerate his own deeds, nor does he honor his merits." ”
Not taking yourself too seriously is a kind of cultivation and a kind of maturity in mentality.
"There will be those who come after that, and those who come before are also imitated by the ancients." Always save my body and be a superior person. ”
There are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people.
People with a large pattern, the more "proud" they are, the more introverted they are.
Actor Chen Daoming is full of poetry and books, a righteous person, Ji Xianlin praises his learning, and Qian Zhongshu has become a friend of his year.
In an environment where everyone calls themselves "teachers", Chen Daoming always considers himself a "drama", he said:
"Acting is my profession, I am a 'drama'. You can't take yourself too seriously. ”
Modest, low-key, introverted, and measured will make a person's mind broader and the pattern more ambitious.
Maintaining a humble heart at all times is the biggest card for being a person.
If the moon is profitable, it will lose, and when the water is full, it will overflow.
Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it; the deeds are higher than the people, and the multitudes will not do it.
The larger the pattern of people, the more they know how to be humble and low-key, to seek high with low, to be humble and self-sustaining, and to achieve their own achievements.
The ancients said: "The quality is in the matter, the heart is hidden in the body." ”
The real character and pattern will be reflected in the reaction and handling of things.
In life, we have to face countless things and choices, when the mind is broad enough, there are fewer difficulties, and when the vision is high enough, the heavens and the earth are small.
At the critical moment, looking far away and enlarging the pattern, our lives will reach a different realm.
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Author | Jingbo Guoxue
Source | Jingbo Guoxue (ID: jingboguoxue), the most stylish sinology micro-journal.
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