Author: Insight Onetong
Endure a thousand days of annoyance, harvest a clear heart.
Mr. Lu Xun once joked, "If you touch more walls, your nose will collapse." ”
Young and ignorant and fearless, we are full of spirit and live a free and elegant life.
After middle age, after being tempered and washed, it became more and more mature, and in the years, it cultivated three realms.
01
Hold your breath
There is a line in "Desperate Housewives": "The more bad luck you are, the more you must calm down and quietly cheer up and quietly survive." ”
Man is like a tree in the desert, only by rooting deeply into the ground can he follow up and pull out long branches.
In 1952, Yang Dai was transferred to the Foreign Languages Group of the Institute of Literature (hereinafter referred to as the Institute of Literature).
Unexpectedly, when she was not confused, she encountered a workplace crisis, and in the twenty-five years since she entered the Institute of Literature and Research, she was not reused from beginning to end.
There were several groups in the foreign language group, and none of them was willing to accept Yang Chen.
In September 1953, at the Second National Literary Congress, the researchers of the Institute of Literature and Research were all delegates to the congress, except for Yang Dai.
The foreign language group collectively wrote the "History of Western Literature", and there was no participant, only Yang Dai.
In the face of all kinds of unfair situations, ordinary people may be indignant: "Why am I a full researcher, ignoring me and turning a blind eye?" ”
But Yang Dai did not argue or grab, and worked hard and complained.
She joined the modern group, carefully read the new book, carefully made each annotation, and even read the obscure encyclopedia of Ancient Medicine for the sake of detail.
Her 470,000-word translation of "Gil Blass" was praised by editor-in-chief Chen Bingyi at the year-end conference.
Don Quixote, which she spent 20 years translating, is currently the best version.
Writer Liu Tong wrote in "One Person is One Person":
If you must compare with people, than the achievements, than the status quo are temporary, than than who can sink more calmly, more able to sink in a certain thing. ”
A good pot of porridge, only slowly boiled, in order to boil out the most intense taste.
I once saw the story of a cuckoo.
Someone had a beautiful cuckoo, but instead of crying, he asked the three big men what they could do.
The first man said, forcing it to cry; the second man said, tempting him to cry; the third man said, waiting for it to cry.
Life is not a 100-meter sprint, but a marathon without an end.
If you want to be fast, you can't reach it, and you can only become a big instrument if you can hold your breath.
02
Put down your body
The host Ni Ping once wrote about one of her own experiences in the book.
When she first entered the TV station, in order to compete for the opportunity to perform, she agreed to host several episodes of the program that were not well received.
Unexpectedly, when she went to the host of the original program to ask for the script, the other party deliberately threw the script on the ground.
The hot-tempered Ni Ping wanted to leave, but in order to seize this opportunity, she swallowed the humiliation and silently picked up the script.
As a result, it was this "picked up job" that allowed her to be appreciated by the leadership and enter the "Variety Show" and become famous in one fell swoop.
In favor of the same sentence: "The dignity of a man is not in what he does, but in what he knows how to do." ”
Holding a shelf will not make people look up, know how to bow their heads, in order to live more decently.
In the early days, Zeng Guofan had a very high self-esteem, and when he became an official, he often insisted on a word of disagreement, or directly wrote impeachment and made small reports.
So that later, the entire official field in Hunan was incompatible with it, and he was constrained everywhere, the government decrees were not understood, and finally he withdrew from the scene.
After returning to his hometown, he constantly reflected, and Fang realized: Great softness is not soft, and great rigidity is not rigid.
You can't be too tough, learn to bend over, and many things have room to turn.
After his comeback, he urgently needed Zuo Zongtang's assistance, but before the two of them had formed a big beam because of their political disagreements, he even let go of the cruel words of "never speaking".
However, thinking that Zuo Zongtang was a rare general in ancient and modern times, for the sake of a farther future, he finally chose to bow his head and walk to Zuo Zongtang's mansion.
In the face of Zuo Zongtang's difficulty of only opening a small door, he did not care, he first whispered an apology, admitted that he did not do things well, and even compared Zuo Zongtang to a male, he was willing to be a female, and expressed his willingness to assist him.
This sincerity impressed Zuo Zongtang, and the two reconciled, and only then did they have the success of eliminating the traitors later.
The ancients said: "Big husband, can flex and stretch." ”
Only by putting down the lower body can we raise the high value.
When they were young, everyone was noble and stingy, and disdained to bend their waists for five buckets of rice.
But as I got older, I was willing to bend over and compromise.
Shoe cleaner salesman shines the owner's shoes in the traffic jam;
Once a decent software engineer, he lost his job and delivered takeaways;
After the failure of the boss company worth tens of millions, he ran Didi to make money...
It's not because life has smoothed out the edges and corners, but it's become softer over time.
The maturity of middle-aged people begins with letting go of the senseless face.
03
Endure loneliness
Hu Shi once said: "The most powerful person in history is the most isolated person." ”
In silence, one can be more awake and powerful, thus navigating through those confusions and uncertainties.
The writer Shen Congwen was called "the laurel figure of Independent Chinese thought" by The New York Times.
Behind the amazing achievements is decades of perseverance.
He once wrote in his autobiography: "I am far less convenient in this work than you think." ”
When he was young, Shen Congwen was forced to make a living and chose to write with a pen.
But writing was not an easy task, and the articles he threw out were dismissed one after another, and they were publicly ridiculed by the editors of the Morning Post Supplement at the time.
Although he was defeated many times, he still lost many battles.
I don't know how many times he was rejected, but he finally published an essay" "A Letter That Has Not Been Paid".
After that, he devoted all his energy to writing, seeking progress in constant temptation.
In five years, Shen Congwencai entered the literary world.
I thought I would finally wait for the flowers to bloom, but life often has a dark tide.
Shen Congwen's prolific and self-contained style not only did not receive praise, but was criticized by everyone:
"He was a thoughtless writer who contained only a little shallow, low-level interest in his work."
Wang Zengqi once said that Mr. Shen can withstand the kung fu of loneliness, which is beyond the reach of ordinary people.
He continued to move in the direction he identified, his life lonely, but he left many heirloom works.
Zeng Guofan once said: "Endure a thousand days of annoyance, and receive a clear heart." ”
Only by enduring loneliness can we keep prosperity.
When people live in the world, they will meet people who don't understand you, and they will also meet people who question you.
But the world is its own and has nothing to do with others.
Why care about the comments of others, stick to your heart, and be yourself.
In the second half of life, you don't have to cling to the evaluation of the outside world.
Focus on the ideal, go all the way down, and finally come to the place where the flowers bloom.
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Lin Yutang once said:
"No matter what stage of life we go to, we should enjoy that period of time and complete the duties that should be done at that stage."
In middle age, softness is not instigated, silence is not stupid, quiet is not inaction, these are the personality maturity precipitated after passing through the years.