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A writer said: "The so-called pattern is actually the breadth of your vision, the depth of your thinking, the height of pursuing goals, and the calmness and generosity embodied in you." ”
Everyone wants to be a person who stands tall in the sky and make a career in society. But reality tells us that there are very few people who have truly become great instruments. Most people are very ordinary, even a lifetime of doing nothing.
The ancients said, "The mountains stand up, and the scenery stops; although they cannot reach it, their hearts yearn for it." ”
The height of a person's ideal determines his future direction; the extent to which a person can persist determines his final height.
People who really have a big pattern, most of them have the following three signs, find a balance between "high and low", and have been improving themselves all their lives.
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Bow your head and bend over, very humble.
There is a kind of realization, called "a panoramic view of the mountains and small".
When a person stands on the top of the mountain, he can see farther, and he can feel the comfort of the wind, the freedom of the clouds, and smell the fragrance of flowers and plants coming from afar.
In fact, people at the top of the mountain, everything they see, are under the "feet"; the source of the mountain is at the foot of the mountain; bowing down and bending down is the correct way to climb the mountain.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, the Dharma Zen master accepted three apprentices, all of whom were very powerful and studied very hard.
One night, the master and apprentice hurried to the Zen Temple. A fierce wind blew out the lamp in his hand. It was dark all around, but everyone was calm.
The Zen master asked, "At this moment, what truth have you realized?" ”
The first disciple felt a sense of emotion and said, "Cai Feng Dance DanXiao." ”
The second disciple thought for a moment and said, "The Iron Snake crosses the ancient road." ”
The third disciple pointed to the road and said, "Look at your feet." ”
The Zen master sighed, "The one who 'looks at my feet' has already overcome me." ”
Life is not full of poetry, nor is it desperately pursuing poetry and far away, but living in the present, solving all the problems of the moment, and walking every step with your head down is "just needed".
When the wheat bows its head, it means that he is ripe. Being a person is the same, not arguing, not showing off, and being courteous to others everywhere is the real maturity.
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Tailor-made and sure to do things.
When we were young, our teacher asked us, "What are you going to do when you grow up?" ”
We say, grow up, to become scientists, mathematicians, astronauts, rich people...
When we really grow up, we find out, where is the "home"? The biggest "home" is to be a good "parent". If you don't work hard, supporting your family will become a dilemma and make you unable to move.
There is a saying that goes: "A suitable pair of shoes can make you feel the wind under your feet; an inappropriate pair of shoes will make you miserable." ”
When many people move forward, it is not that they are not working hard enough, nor that the equipment is not good enough, but that the shoes are not suitable, or there is a grain of sand in the shoes that wears out their feet.
People who can achieve great things are not low in the eyes, but accurately position their lives according to their own abilities. I am a piece of wood, I can make wooden boats and furniture; I am a stone, I can pave roads and build houses; I am a piece of gold, and I want to become a beautiful gold vessel.
A person's pattern is very large, not necessarily he has done a grand thing, maybe he has been unknown all his life, but he has managed his own family and raised his parents and children.
In the pen of the literary scholar Tao Yuanming, there is a "Mr. Wuliu", who is not famous, but likes to drink and read and write articles.
His house was surrounded by walls, and only the five willow trees at the door were particularly conspicuous.
However, Mr. Goyanagi, dressed in coarse cloth, did not feel inferior at all, lived a very peaceful life, and was able to talk and laugh. The sneers of others at him are not taken to heart.
Tao Yuanming gave him a very high evaluation and praised him: "Do not worry about the poor and lowly, do not desire wealth." In fact, Tao Yuanming used "he" to describe himself.
Ordinary people can also have a big pattern, but also according to their own ideas to do a career, but many people, do not understand this truth, live to become "others".
True success is to make a little progress every day, surpassing yesterday's self.
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Be generous and open-minded.
There is a saying in the "Vegetable Root Tan": "Treating others with a generous point is a blessing, and benefiting people is the foundation of self-interest." ”
To be a person, we must benefit others, so as to gain the reputation of others and make ourselves a real high person.
At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Zeng Guofan and Zuo Zongtang were fellow countrymen. Moreover, Zuo Zongtang's early appointment as an official was recommended by Zeng Guofan. Together, they tried to find a way to suppress the Taiping Army.
When the main force of the Taiping Army was defeated, Zeng Guofan went to the imperial court, saying that there was no longer "worries about the future", and Hong Xiuquan's son also set himself on fire; Zuo Zongtang, without communicating with Zeng Guofan, directly reported to the imperial court, saying that Hong Xiuquan's son had mixed with the rioters, fled, and went to Guangde, and it was possible to continue to gather the remaining party and resurrect.
The two different views made Zeng Guofan seem particularly embarrassed. Since then, the contradiction between the two people has been known to passers-by.
Later, Zuo Zongtang recaptured Xinjiang, and Zeng Guofan actively supplied grain and grass; Zuo Zongtang entered Shaanxi and Gansu, and Zeng Guofan handed over his right-hand soldiers to Zuo Zongtang to command.
At the time of Zeng Guofan's death, Zuo Zongtang said: "Knowing the wisdom of people and seeking the loyalty of the country, they are ashamed that they are not as good as Yuanfu; if they are in the same heart, they are like gold, they attack the wrong stones, and they deceive each other and live a life without fail." "All grievances have since vanished.
As the saying goes: "How big the heart is, how big the stage of life is." ”
People with big patterns, big measurements, can tolerate everything about others, and can impress others with this.
We must understand that when people's hearts are wide, others can become people in their hearts, and then help you without hesitation; when they have small hearts and eyes, they squeeze others out, and naturally they will not get help from others.
Only when people's hearts are united can Taishan move, which is the charm brought by the pattern.
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I like the saying, "If things can't be changed, change yourself; if you can't convince others, try to convince yourself; if the mountain can't come, the man takes the initiative to go over." ”
A visionary person, he is not special, just see himself clearly, and then awaken himself, change himself, and achieve a better self.
A person with a big pattern, he is not on top, just do every ordinary thing well, walk the road of life more steadily, and persist longer.
To be a person, we must be good at planning and entering the situation, and we must be able to break the situation.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.