There's a hard line: Don't kick, it's just going to get all over the place. ”
On the road of life, there are always some things that you can't touch, you can only walk around. If you have to fight, then you will be even more uncomfortable.
The life of a middle-aged man should be like a river, circling around, making a big circle, and finally falling into the sea.
As long as the direction is correct and the head is bowed a few times, what does it matter? Admit that it is not "instigated", and it is only by gritting your teeth that it is really instigating.
01
Laughing and admitting it, it is to see through the truth.
A girl next to me, she was beautiful when she was a child, she was a princess in everyone's eyes. There were a lot of people who liked her, but unfortunately she grew up, got married, and then became a fat person. The waist is like a bucket.
At first, she was very uncomfortable with her girlfriend, because her figure was too unsophisticated. Girlfriends are desperately spending money to maintain themselves, and some people are in debt.
In order to enter the stream, she also desperately spent money to maintain her body. When I was still getting thin, I bought a lot of clothes, hoping to lose weight and wear them.
One day, her husband said to her, "No matter what you become, I love you very much." If a woman doesn't have two hearts, no matter how beautiful she is, only one person appreciates it, right? ”
The woman suddenly understood, "The lover's eyes are out of the west." The person who really loves her will not abandon her, and the person who does not love her will be picky.
Instead of spending money on sin, keep your money bag. When people reach middle age, having money is the biggest confidence; health is the best real estate.
Confession is not because I don't change myself anymore, but because I understand how to change myself. Seeing the true state of life, you will not be blindly tossed.
There is a saying that others laugh at me for being too crazy, and I laugh at others who can't see through it. Smile, the troubles in your heart, disappear.
02
Taking the initiative to admit it is a wise choice.
Zuo Zongtang, a minister of the Qing Dynasty, did not have a good temper, and for many years in the official field, he also offended many people.
For a time, the ministers of the DPRK and the Central Committee "insulted him in groups, or compiled them into small poems with ridiculous ends, and turned them into humorous ones."
However, Zuo Zongtang was not too calculating, and he also said: "When you work with people, you must learn to suffer losses." Lifetime let the side, do not lose a paragraph. ”
He knew that no matter what contradictions the ministers had, they must focus on the overall situation, and if they rebelled, they could only let outsiders look at them and take advantage of it.
Moreover, most of the contradictions are rooted in "advocating different opinions" and need to seek common ground while reserving differences.
The hearts of the people are united, and Tarzan moves. A person in a high position, taking the initiative to bow his head, is not that he cannot subdue others, but that he has made a wise move. After all, what makes a person is not a dispute, but an achievement.
Historian Xiao Yishan once said: "The national domain wins with rigor, and Zong Tang wins with heroism." "Comparing Zeng Guofan and Zuo Zongtang, each has its own advantages, which is enough to show why Zuo Zongtang can win respect."
When people reach middle age, how to make good money and how to live a life is not their own decision, they need to compete with society, and they have always had the dilemma of "thousands of troops crossing the single wooden bridge".
Ignorant people like to lift bars, cross rivers and tear down bridges, and smart people like to help each other and build bridges in the water. Only by cooperating can we win to the end.
03
It is very provocative for a long time, and it is preparing for the momentum.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, the Yue King was defeated by the King of Wu. Trapped in the mountains, unable to retreat.
Later, Gou Jian became a waiter for King Wu. King Wu went hunting, and he took the whip and helped drive; King Wu was sick, and he treated him with sincerity as if he were serving his parents.
Until one day, King Wu thought that Gou Jian was already his slave, and let him return to China.
After years of practicing wages and trying to be bold, governing the country and strengthening the team, he finally turned defeat into victory.
Throughout the ages, there have been many big people who have long been recognized. For example, Han Xin suffered the humiliation of his crotch, and Sun Bin was imprisoned in a pig pen.
Everyone has to go through a period of time that ordinary people can't stand to be able to really be strong. If not, either they will die in silence, or they will use their arms as a car and destroy themselves.
As the saying goes: "It's not that you don't report, the time has not yet come." ”
Trees and flowers, after the cold of winter, in a spring breeze, become vibrant; fierce bears, hibernating in caves, ushered in the new year.
A person who reads, who has been studying hard for more than ten years, only to enter the university campus and become the proud son of society.
When people reach middle age, if you don't have good opportunities, then try to store energy and sharpen yourself.
04
Timely confession is to retreat into advance.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei, who was just starting out, and Xuzhou left behind a beautiful talk for thousands of years.
In fact, Liu Bei was very self-aware, and with his own strength, he could not confront Cao Cao and others, and if he took the initiative to give in, he would leave a reputation of benevolence and righteousness.
As the saying goes, "He who wins the hearts and minds of the people wins the world." ”
Being able to win people's hearts and minds with concrete actions is more effective than making a big move.
You know, no matter how sharp the knife, you must put it in the sheath of the knife to save yourself. This is the real principle of "avoiding its sharp edge".
When people reach middle age, they are people who rely on themselves everywhere, but they have no one to rely on. When you encounter a strong enemy and don't know how to back down, then you are crushed, and your family is also collapsed.
Be measured in your actions, and when you never use a sharp weapon to hurt people, others will not attack inexplicably.
"Reach out and don't hit the smiley face person", if you really touch anyone's interests, you will smile and talk about cooperation. If you're being rude, it's hurting each other.
05
Someone said: "A truly powerful person is not invincible and impeccable, but a person who is amiable, soft in heart, and can withstand repeated beatings." ”
In this life, the most worthy of letting go is oneself. However, many people are obsessed with it and make a big fuss for the sake of a momentary anger.
Everyone has a time when they can't bear it, and it is inevitable to confront people tit-for-tat and learn to admit it, not that you are incompetent, but that you have extraordinary ability.
In this life, the real opponent is only himself. You put down your face and accept that you are very intimidated, and you will live freely and be stronger inside.
When we were young, we all had a superhero dream, and when we grew up, we often needed to bend over backwards in front of outsiders and straighten our spines in front of our families.
When people reach middle age, life is too difficult and they let themselves go.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.