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Tao Yuanming once sighed: "Enlightenment is not in the past, and those who know the coming can be traced." The real lost is not far away, and I feel that today is not yesterday. ”
Everything that has passed cannot be repeated, but the future can be remedied, and it does not matter if a person goes astray, as long as today's choice is correct, it is right.
In a life that cannot be repeated, how many people live against their hearts, only know how to move forward, but never consider the way back. As everyone knows, the big husband can bend and stretch, and the true gentleman retreats to advance.
If the direction is not right, stopping is moving forward; if it goes astray, retreating is hope.
Since ancient times, there are stronger players in the strong, no matter how strong you are, you can't fight against all the people in the world. Learn to bow your head, stay in the green mountains, and don't worry about firewood.
Therefore, those who have great wisdom, who know how to "retreat", will always be themselves back at some point and complete themselves.
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When mixing up in the official field, "retirement" is a meritorious name.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Fan Li and Wen Zhong were the conspirators of the Yue King.
When Gou Jian was defeated by Wu Guo's Fu Cha, Wen Zhong helped take care of the affairs of the imperial court, and Fan Li accompanied Gou Jian to Wu as a slave.
After years of trying to be bold, he tried his best to govern, and then defeated the State of Wu and became the overlord. At this time, Fan Li said to Wen Zhong: "Rabbits and dead dogs cooking, birds hiding with bows are also common, we can suffer with the king, but we can't enjoy it together." Better to go home. ”
"Companion is like a companion tiger", if you are not careful, you will hurt yourself. Fan Li left the official field and became a businessman, leaving behind the "heroic name of Tao Zhugong".
The ancients said, "The heights are cold; I am afraid of the heavenly people." ”
If a person's position is very high, then the cold current he encounters will be more fierce, and his words will alarm people of higher status than himself, and it is easy to become the target of everyone.
Understand that dragons have scales and will be angry when they touch them. It is the desire of people to go to a high place, and it is also the fighting spirit of being a person. But at a certain height, it is time to give way. Otherwise, touching the scales of the dragon, you will definitely be scarred.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying of "taking the initiative to let the sages". Giving up important positions and becoming the guide of others reflects their own generosity and benevolence and shows their attitude.
No one is going to attack someone who is not a threat to themselves. This is where the wisdom of giving way lies.
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When there is no end to disputes, "retirement" is generosity.
Wang Anshi, a celebrity of the Song Dynasty, had many ups and downs in the official arena.
He advocated the introduction of the new law, but was met with resistance from conservatives. In the seventh year of Xi Ning, he was dismissed, and the next year, he was once again activated, and after a year in office, he was once again dismissed and lived in seclusion in the Jiangning area.
Once, Wang Anshi accompanied Song Shenzong to watch a play at the Xiangguo Temple. He wrote a poem: "In the theater of all the best, one is rich and one is low." ”
Life is like a drama, everyone is an actor. When on the stage, you can pretend to be rich or poor; in life, the rich can also fall overnight, and the poor can also turn over overnight.
In this society, everyone wants to compete for power, status, money, and beauty. What you want is exactly what others want. If you don't budge, then others will hate you and then find a way to hurt you.
There is a saying that cleverness is mistaken by cleverness, and it is better to be confused.
The most difficult thing about being a person is not to be shrewd, but to turn from shrewd to confused. The man who pretends to be confused, even if he loses everything, has no fear, because he has already predicted the ups and downs of things.
Giving away what you have to others is a "spiritual retreat", but it reflects the happiness of "contentment".
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When life is hindered, "retreat" is the beginning.
I have seen a saying like this: "The subordinate is like a spring, you can squash him, but he will also push you, you just have to pull him, he will go back." ”
People interact with each other like squeezing springs. As long as a person has their own elasticity, they can be at ease; if they use the elasticity of others, their own pressure will be reduced.
Many people live in the cracks of society - there are superiors at the top and subordinates at the bottom; they are less than the top, and there are more than the bottom.
During the Jin Dynasty, Tao Yuanming had always worked hard for the people and wanted to blend into a high place, but when he was the county commander, he suddenly understood that all this was not what he wanted, and he could not change the world by himself. So he made the decision to retire.
As the saying goes: "The East is not bright and the West is bright." ”
Tao Yuanming lived a life of hard work, but he had more time to read and write, and finally became a famous literary artist.
Taking a step back, taking another step back, is actually letting people be born to the lowest point and then begin to rise. After all, the successful routines of others are someone else's, and they are not necessarily suitable for themselves.
Everyone has to find their own way and play to their strengths. Retreating is actually to build on strengths and avoid weaknesses, turn advantages into strengths, and push yourself from another direction to excel.
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When the world is in chaos, "retreat" is peace.
Master Hongyi said, "Learn one point to give in, and ask for a point to be cheap." Add one share, subtract one point of blessing. ”
The really powerful person is not necessarily a big man, and you haven't even heard his name. But he lived well and enjoyed a quiet life. His state of life makes others especially yearn.
In the Book of Peach Blossom Origin, it is written: "The exchange of works, men and women dressed, like outsiders." Yellow hair hanging down and enjoying himself. "This is the ancients who escaped the scourge of war, forming a natural village, so that future generations have always longed for it."
In everyone's heart, there is a dream of a peach blossom garden, but many people do not understand that as long as you are willing to live the life of ordinary people, there is a "taoyuan wonderland" everywhere.
Retreat from the lively places and live a simple life; quit your desires and calm your heart; give up what you are destined to get, and give your own things to others... In this way, the days will pass more and more steadily.
When people reach a certain age, they need to "land safely", don't always hang. Just like taking a plane, no matter how beautiful the sky is, only the moment the plane lands, you can understand that what belongs to you is the ground under your feet, not the clouds.
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There's a saying that goes, "Don't ask how much money you have, ask how many more years you can live." ”
One life, one autumn of grass and trees. The first half of life moves forward, the second half of life retreats. Wealth is a wish, the fairy world is an expectation, and three meals a day is life.
People who can take the initiative to give in are actually using another way to achieve a better self.
Let one let go, is determination, but also awakening.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.