What is a big husband? Mencius said: "The rich cannot be adulterous, the poor cannot be moved, and the mighty cannot be bent." "However, how many people can really do the above three points?"
It is said in the "Chronicle of History": "The world is bustling, all for profit; the world is often for profit." "For ordinary people, it is already difficult to do it without seeking fame and fortune, and as for Mencius, very few people can do it."
However, not all people with fame and reputation can maintain this state for a long time, and not all people who look down will definitely fall down in the future.
How to judge whether a down-and-out person can become a great instrument? There is a principle: often such people will give people a feeling of calm, they are very calm inside, and they always have a cute smile on their faces. So why do they have such a strong psychological quality? This is related to their own experiences, and such people can be roughly divided into 4 categories:
1. A person who has been hurt by love
"Ask what the worldly situation is, and teach life and death to agree." Love is a wonderful thing, it can make two people who have no relationship together, when two people who love each other get married, they gradually begin to have contradictions, and even to the end of parting ways, all of which hurt the most than the person who gives the most love.
In our eyes, there are countless enviable couples living, such as Lee Seung-hyun and Qi Wei in the entertainment industry, Hawking and Jane in the scientific community, and Xue Tao and Yuan Shu in the poetry world, who are far from our lives, but they are actually very close.
Each of us may be deeply in love with each other for a while or a moment, but in the end it has reached the point where we have to separate, leaving scars on each other but cannot be repaired. Contrary to the plot in film and television dramas, when a person has suffered great emotional injuries, his heart will not only not become sensitive and fragile, but will become unusually firm and strong.
A good example is the famous Western scholar Rousseau, who met a beautiful girl when he was young, they fell in love, and finally one day he agreed with the girl on the date of marriage proposal. On the day of the proposal, Rousseau prepared a ring and flowers to propose to his beloved girlfriend.
Unexpectedly, that day, his girlfriend led a man to appear in front of him: "I think the two of us are not suitable, he is better and richer than you, so let's not be together!" Rousseau's eyes froze for a long time, and it took a long time before he came back to his senses, and when he reacted, he didn't say a word or a word, turned his head and left.
After many years, Rousseau became a famous scholar in the West, and the man and woman became depressed. At this time, Rousseau did something, he said to his assistant, "I have some money here, you give it to the couple!" Remember not to say that I gave it. Puzzled, the assistant asked Rousseau why he did this, and Rousseau replied: "That thing is like a stinky sock, it has already smoked to me, why should I throw the stinky sock back and let it smoke more people?" ”
It is difficult for ordinary people to have such a mind and realm, which is why Rousseau can become a famous wise man and scholar.
When a person is greatly emotionally injured, for a time, his heart will be undulating and difficult to calm, but often people who can achieve great things will be able to achieve great things after being emotionally injured, and the difference between him and ordinary people will also be revealed. Ordinary people will be restless and complain, and people who may become big things will indeed be able to hold their breath and even complain with virtue.
Second, people who have experienced the days of living in an uncertain place and sending people under the fence
In ancient times, some people lived a lonely and lonely life, and even lived a life under the fence in the early years. Many people around them may think that his life is like this, it will certainly be difficult to become a great instrument, but in the darkest moment of their lives, they succeeded.
Liu Bei was 28 years old and still a mat weaver and seller, and at the age of 47, he was still under the fence and drifting, and he did not have a piece of his own territory. But it was such a person, relying on his own benevolence and benevolence, to win the hearts of Zhuge Liang and many disciples, and they were also willing to throw themselves under Liu Bei's door. Then there was the saying of taking Jingzhou, Collecting Bashu, Pinghanzhong, Chengdu, and "three parts of the world".
There is no eternal happiness in life, there is no eternal suffering, as long as the suffering is overcome, it will eventually come.
Third, people who are indifferent to fame and fortune and know how to retire after success
"The world knows that the gods and immortals are good, but only the name of merit cannot be forgotten." In fact, there are many people who can obtain fame and fortune in their lifetime, but there are not many people who can finally understand the success of success and retirement.
Since ancient times, when the kings they supported took over the world, how many people were able to guard against arrogance and impetuosity, not to fight for power and profit, resign from office and go into hiding, and return to their hometowns?
Fan Li once said to Wen Zhong: "Gou Jian is a wolf-eyed disciple, after annihilating Wu Guo, you should leave him as soon as possible, otherwise your fate will be very miserable!" "Wen Zhong doesn't listen, what is the result?" Zhang Liang also advised Han Xin not to covet gongming and leave Liu Bang as soon as possible, but what was the result?
"Indifferent to mingzhi, quiet to the far." In fact, sometimes it is a good choice to sit down and drink a cup of tea, quietly think about life, and forget all the past fame and fortune. But this sentence sounds easy, it is not so easy to do, and very few people can actually do it. True masters only keep their names, not for profit, and can advance and retreat.
Fourth, those who have suffered greatly
"Heaven will send down a great task to the Scythians, and they will first suffer their hearts, strain their bones, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and confuse their deeds, so they will be tempted to endure and benefit what they cannot." If a person wants to achieve a great cause, it is indispensable to be able to endure hardships. Only by knowing how to endure hardships can we understand that happiness is not easy to come by; only by knowing how to endure hardships can we understand the meaning and value of life; only by knowing how to endure hardships can we not be afraid of suffering...
Throughout the ages, there are naturally many examples of suffering, head overhangs, cone thorn strands, chiseled walls to steal light... The list goes on and on. "If you eat bitterly, you will be a superior person." If you want to achieve a great cause, you will naturally have to eat the suffering that ordinary people can't eat, otherwise how can we talk about success?
5. Summary
Whether a person can succeed depends not only on how hard he works, but more importantly, he does not forget his original intention and never gives up after he falls!