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If you want to cross the person first, you will cross yourself first, and if you want to cross yourself first, you will cross your heart first.
In this life, people need to "cross themselves" after all. At what stage you can go to, you can have as many blessings as you want. Sometimes we need to rely on fate, and more often, we need to rely on ourselves.
Life is a mountain, we are all climbers, step by step, step by step, slowly climbing up, slowly going up, just to be able to reach the other side of the heart.
However, there are too many obstacles to make us stop moving forward, and there are too many misfortunes that make us helpless. Whether we can pass these levels will determine whether we will live a stable life in the second half of our lives and whether we will be blessed with hardships.
We must firmly believe that the sky does not cross people, but only self-ferry.
Many of the things we encounter are actually here to "cross" us.
02
Hit by the "trough", it is to cross you.
Everyone's life will encounter more or less blows. Especially when people are at a low ebb, they are basically physically and mentally exhausted and do not know where the road is. This is a "test".
Some people are full of negativity and complaints, so no matter what they do, they can only wander in the trough period, and they cannot break through the bottleneck and usher in a new life.
Some people are full of enthusiasm, as long as there is a little hope, they desperately climb up, then they will eventually come to run the day. This is the gift of fate to their courage.
Just imagine, if Gou Jian chose to commit suicide after the defeat of Huijishan, without the patience of lying down and tasting courage, would he be able to successfully restore the country?
Just think, if Liu Bang succumbed to Xiang Yu after the defeat of Pengcheng's army and did not dare to compete with him for the world, would he still be able to create the Unprecedented Han Empire?
All the grinding is the test of fate on you. After passing the level, then you are the darling of fate. And if you can't pass the customs, then you can only live a bad life and be sad.
This is life.
03
Encounter an evenly matched "opponent", that is to cross you.
Everyone will encounter different opponents in their lifetime.
Powerful, in fact, we rarely pay attention to it, because the target we want to overcome is not them. Weak, we will not pay attention to it, because defeating the weak is normal operation. Only equal opponents make us feel a headache.
Just like in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Cao Cao always regarded Liu Bei as an opponent, and Liu Bei always regarded Cao Cao as an enemy. In this way, these two people have been fighting all their lives, and neither of them can destroy the other.
Fate deliberately arranged for this opponent to come to you, not to destroy you, but to make you grow.
Without Cao Cao's coercion, Liu Bei would not have been extremely eager to open up territory. Without Cao Cao's blows, Liu Bei would not have worked hard and struggled endlessly all his life. Everything is "mutually accomplished".
Respect the opponent who is about the same ability as us, respect the enemy who is evenly matched. Old enemies exist only to fulfill you, to cross you, and to stimulate your potential.
04
If something happens against your wishes, it's coming to cross you.
In this life, more things backfire and less is satisfactory. Everything that backfires, on the surface, is endless suffering, but in fact, it is the right arrangement of our destiny by Heaven.
Just like a job seeker, he wants to go to work in the Internet big factory, so work hard, head overhang, cone thorn stock. However, he failed and went to work for a small and medium-sized enterprise.
What does this mean? His fate is not to be an Internet giant, but to other small and medium-sized enterprises. There, he can meet everything that belongs to him and seize the opportunities that belong to him.
Just think, he didn't belong there, but he kept struggling with that place, does that really make sense? Not only is it meaningless, but it will also bury your precious time.
Life, in just a few short decades, was wasted on things that do not belong to oneself, which is simply equivalent to a waste of life.
Therefore, Heaven lets us encounter obstacles, and encounter things that backfire, in essence, it is to help us and let us smoothly get on the right track.
05
When you meet noble people and opportunities to appreciate you, it is to cross you.
Everyone's life, more or less will encounter some "noble people" and "opportunities".
Just like your Bole, when others come to your side, they actually appreciate you, and then promote you up, so that your life will be more flowery and less ups and downs.
Just like the business opportunities you encounter, you can grasp them and even make money immediately, achieving a leap in wealth. Isn't this a gift from Heaven to you?
Zeng Guofan said that man seeks to live in half, and Providence lives in half.
Human conspiracy is our own conspiracy. Providence, on the other hand, is whether Heaven arranges noble people and opportunities to come to us. Only when the two are combined can we achieve a great cause.
To say that everyone's nobles and opportunities are, in fact, no one knows, we can only slowly explore, will we clear the fog and see the future.
06
Write to the end
Everything we encounter and see is fate, and it is also accidental and inevitable. Whether it is good or bad, we cannot escape, we can only accept silently.
To accept everything that happens in life, to accept all the people and things that appear in life, is to accept our destiny and let life gradually get on the right track.
We must firmly believe that all encounters are valuable and meaningful. They all came to cross us. That's all.
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