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There is a saying in "Cai Gen Tan": "Human feelings are repeated, and the road to the world is bumpy." Wherever you go, you must know the way to take a step back; where you can go, you must give three points of merit. ”
Human feelings are fickle, life is bumpy, if the road ahead is not clear, then take a step back, if life is very smooth, then let three points to others.
Being a person, daring to rush forward, will be wonderful, but if you can go down the river, you will be faster. In the midst of progress and retreat, the great wisdom of being a human being is demonstrated.
Therefore, those who are really powerful have two kinds of preparations for everything, which further reflect the height of life, and take a step back to achieve the breadth of life, each with its own advantages.
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Taking a step back is a desperate situation.
As the saying goes, "God never let a man go nowhere." ”
What can really trap you is not the cage, but your "obsession". In other words, a person is too intelligent, overestimating his own strength, but forcing himself into a dead end.
Read a story: A few friends went on a trip together and passed a mountain stream. There is a canoe bridge in the mountain stream, and only one person can pass by at a time.
The first few friends passed in turn, but the last friend could not pass, looking at the cliff, his feet trembled, he heard the sound of the wind, he was full of excitement, and then he thought about the surging river at the bottom of the valley, and his feet were weak.
He was afraid of the jokes of his fellow travelers, so he forced himself to walk up the bridge, and then stopped in the middle of the bridge, unable to retreat.
There's a saying that goes, "There's always some river that we can't cross." ”
If you can't get by, then forget it; if you can't hold on, then give up; if you can't stay up, rest... If you stay in the green mountains, why worry about no firewood?
When a person leaves a way out for himself, then the "way back" is the way to live.
Take a step back and live a "joke" in the eyes of others, but you live, and in time, you can still turn over. What is there to be a person who is more precious than life?
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To take a step back is to retreat into progress.
During the Song Dynasty, someone drew a "dragon and tiger map" and took it to the Zen temple for everyone to enjoy.
Everyone said, "It's beautifully painted, but it always feels like something's wrong." ”
Zen Master Wude said, "The world only cares about the appearance of dragons and tigers, but rarely cares about their habits." It should be understood that the head of the dragon will shrink back before moving forward, and when the tiger wants to bite, the head will be pressed down. The more bent the dragon's body, the lower the tiger's head, and the greater the attack power. ”
The crowd was enlightened.
The Zen master also said, "With your hands planting green seedlings all over the field, you will see the sky in the water when you look down; the purification of the body and mind is the way, and the retreat is originally forward." ”
We always think that concessions will make us fall behind, and we don't know that this is reflection on ourselves and a manifestation of humility. If you give in for a period of time, you can use it to learn, think, make people sleep, and wait until a certain time, you have explosive power.
The really powerful people are not always high, but when they are high, they are high, and when they are low, they are low. One high and one low, seemingly with the tide, is actually from this peak, to another peak, "a wave of high waves".
Looking at the flowing water, running all the way to the sea, getting lower and lower, but the power of the flowing water makes us fearful, and the mind of the flowing water makes us admire. This is the cleverness of taking a step back.
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To take a step back is to endure humiliation and bear the burden.
Taleb once pointed out in "Antifragility" that there are two states of life: some people, when they encounter bad things, become glass balls, and with a little force, they break into a glass slag; some people, such as rubber balls, the more you hit it, the higher it bounces.
Why should people be vulnerable? Not because I was born weak, but because I was too strong and didn't have any elasticity.
The real strong person actually has a strong heart, plus a smiling face, and the wisdom of consciously bowing his head.
For example, after the defeat of the army, the Yue king went to the state of Wu as a slave and exchanged humility for freedom; Sun Zhen was imprisoned by Pang Juan, who pretended to be crazy and stupid, and ate pig dung, blinding everyone with grievances.
There is a saying in the Art of War: "Soldiers, devious ways, so they can show that they can't, and they can't show them when they use them." ”
In layman's terms, it means that soldiers are not tired of deception.
A person, when he encounters a strong opponent, must give up his own strength and become a piece of cotton, a leather ball. Use the most humble gesture in exchange for the sympathy of others, so that your strength is not exposed in the slightest.
After repeated beatings, a person will have a chance to stand up as long as he has a breath. Taking a step back is the big picture that is not known.
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To take a step back is to retreat.
In ancient times, there were often successful people who went into hiding in time, and they later "disappeared" or "rose up". Life has many possibilities, and there are more ways to choose.
For example, after Tao Yuanming retired, he became a literary scholar; after Fan Li retired, he assumed the name Tao Zhugong, relying on his former savings, started a business and made a fortune.
The ancients said: "Where you do not take a step back from the world, such as a flying goose throwing a candle, a sheep touching the domain, how to be happy." ”
If a person does not know how to back down, then he is as foolish as a moth to a fire, like a ram's horn inserted into a fence, how can not be pulled out, become a real joke.
When people reach the top of the mountain, they will understand that the mountain is a man-made peak.
As long as you have a mountain in your heart, then everywhere you go, it is at the top. A different way of life, although much lighter, but also a lot more relaxed.
The most difficult thing for people to live in life is to be themselves. If you can do it, it's remarkable.
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I have seen such a sentence: "Honesty cannot be exchanged for cherishing, and concessions cannot be exchanged for sympathy." ”
In this cruel society, a person who is too honest and keeps giving in will be looked down upon and even lose himself.
Therefore, when making concessions, we must grasp the measure and adhere to a principle - retreat is to achieve a stronger self, not to fall into a thousand miles and stagnate.
In all things, the person who can laugh to the end is the winner; first bitter and then sweet, is really sweet.
Truly powerful people often quietly cultivate their own city government and accumulate the power of all things.
Concession is a person's ability and the resilience of people to deal with the world.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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