This year's New Year's Eve is really not very easy for us living in Xi'an, suffering from a serious COVID-19 lockdown, Xi'an pressed the pause button.
At that time, I had just left my job and left the industry that I had struggled for ten years, and at that time, I also wanted to press the pause button to treat myself who had worked hard for ten years. I didn't expect an epidemic, and I was sealed at home with my children and fiancé.
On these special days, my daughter took online classes, my fiancé went to work, I was in charge of logistics, and then I did some small psychology-related surveys, hoping to combine the foundation of my previous work with my current job. Three meals a day do not fall all by yourself, at the beginning the grain is still sufficient, everything, there are noodles, there is rice, and then some staple foods have to be made by themselves.
When we wanted to eat noodles, we came up with the idea of our own noodles, remembering that when I was a child, during the summer vacation, at my grandmother's house, my grandmother taught me to make noodles.
The gentle words of grandma rang in my ears: "Harmony noodles should be three lights, pot light, hand light, and face light." "At that time I was standing next to her, looking at her, while pouring water for her, she said pour water, I will pour water little by little, and when she rubs the face, I will let me try to rub it too.
Then there is the rolling of noodles, every time the rolling of noodles, Grandma will always let me try, and then watch her "off the noodles", which is a unique practice in Shaanxi, with the rolling pin on the surface, with a knife to roll the rolled noodles a little bit, the noodles are cut into almost the same width by the knife, Grandma this hand even mother did not learn.
I took my daughter and noodles, while telling her the story of my grandmother with me, the children found a heritage in these stories, and also heard the mother's growth experience, I suddenly realized that I had not told her the story of my childhood for a long time.
A passage from "Parenting from the Inside Out" that I watched for the second time during the epidemic said: "Everyone has their own story, and telling their own story can deepen self-knowledge and better understand their relationship with others." Coherent, emotionally rich life stories can help children understand their current situation and strengthen their understanding of the world. Those experiences that touch inner psychological feelings can deepen children's self-awareness, making them more reflective and insightful. ”
Since I was a child, because my parents were soldiers and soldiers in other places, I lived with my grandmother and grandfather for 2 or 3 years, and after going to school, I spent almost every summer vacation at my grandmother's house.
At that time, I would listen to the old man tell me a lot of stories about their childhood, listen to my grandfather talk about the poor family before, how he struggled to get into college step by step, empathize with my grandfather's story, listen to my grandmother talk about how she pulled up my mother and brother when my grandfather was in college, and sighed about the hardships of my grandmother under the living conditions at that time.
Since then, I have also slowly developed a lot of empathy.
Every time I go back, I am willing to listen to them tell stories that have been told many times. Listen to the story and help grandma cut her nails, take a shower, and chat with grandpa. Grandma has been dead for more than a decade, and her eyes are still wet when she looks at her photos. This epidemic brought my daughter to make noodles, remembering the scene when I was a child. Now the pace of life is very fast, we rarely have such time to tell the story of childhood, the daughter's careful harmony, inheritance of craftsmanship, but also the transmission of family affection.
From the japanese noodles to the noodles, the middle of the few hours, again and again, again and again, wake up again and again, only through this process, you can eat the strong noodles. It was infused with my grandmother's love, and now I pass it on to my daughter.
In those days, I can always think of my grandmother's smile, when I was a child, I would often spend my winter and summer vacations at my grandmother's house, and when my mother went to pick me up, I would hold her and cry every time I didn't want to go home.
When I grew up, every time I went back to see my grandmother, my grandmother took my hand and wouldn't let me go home, at that time her legs and feet were not good, and when I left, she would always take the little pony to send me downstairs, and then sit in the courtyard doorway and watch me not go home.
In the process of making noodles, I not only taught my daughter how to make good noodles, but also detailed a lot of stories of my grandmother and me, and the transmission of love again and again made her more aware of the preciousness of family affection, and the children liked the stories we shared, and learned a lot of realism that preaching could not bring to her in the process.
In such a fast-paced society, companionship should be of high quality. Although the epidemic is closed at home, although we will worry about the progress of the epidemic every day, it also gives us more time to re-examine and observe ourselves and our families, so that we can have time to recall the good memories that those beautiful deceased relatives have brought to me.
Here is the master's and doctoral psychology, I am today's voice sharer Zhang Xin, thank you for listening, we will see you in the next issue.