Someone said: "The carriages of the past were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime; now the carriages are very fast, and they can receive several couriers a day." ”
I don't know from what day, our lives began to be fast-paced mode.
Busy rushing to work; hurriedly eating a few bites of food, but also to rush to the scene; no time to accompany parents, it is rare to return to hometown; no time to go shopping, all on the mobile phone to order a little, buy something at will; love to speed, flash marriage and divorce can be accepted...
Don't you realize that if the speed is particularly fast, then you rush directly to the day of death from birth, and all the processes can be ignored.
There is a saying: "The blessed one does not have to be busy, and the blessed one runs away and breaks his intestine." ”
Really powerful people, always not in a hurry, but can grasp everything and become the final winner.
01
Walk slowly, some people walk and walk and disperse.
There was a literary friend who wrote an article mainly saying that after he got married, he had almost no friends.
Because of their age, friends in the past have been married one after another, each around the family, trying to make money for their children, and there is no effort to participate in eating and drinking parties.
Later, Wenyou left the original city and took his family to another city to make a living, and almost all of his former friends disappeared.
As the saying goes, "Friends have more roads to go." ”
But the reality is very cruel, there are so many people who can accompany you for a while and a half, and there are really very few people who fight with you. "Acquaintance is all over the world, and there is no one who knows himself", such a feeling is really suitable for you.
Life is like a bus, every stop has people come up and down, you don't mind, just walk slowly. At the terminal, you're alone.
The feast that is all over the world, you don't want to keep any friends, learn to walk alone, you really know how to rely on yourself, but will become stronger.
02
Slowly looking, some things are too lazy to buy.
One painter said: "Discounted things also cost money." ”
With the development of the times, we have a variety of goods in front of us, exactly the same things, with several prices. See the low price, quickly buy it, you decide to earn it yourself.
In fact, life really doesn't need too many things. Food, clothing, shelter, and transportation, simpler, you live better.
Really smart people often think: Wait a minute, maybe the price will be lower. Later, the price fluctuated several times, but they were not very satisfied, so they simply did not pay attention to it and did not bother to buy it.
Originally, half of the things you bought are dispensable, "order" slower, you will not want it, if you are preemptively bought, then don't look at it at all, a hundred.
03
Enjoy it slowly to truly have the scenery.
Writer Lin Qingxuan wrote in the article: "As soon as our ship starts, the scenery on both sides of the strait moves with it, and everything in the world is like this." People's life is like a boat, starting and docking, the nature of the boat is unchanged, but the shore body is changing, and the scenery experience is different. ”
I don't know, you have been to many places, have you slowly looked at the scenery? Maybe you just punched the clock once and didn't really appreciate what the scenery brought you.
Powerful people are traveling, not traveling; on the road of life, every step is a scenery.
Look at a place, and then live for a few days, not to take pictures of the scenery, but to carefully paint it, so that the beautiful feelings are engraved in the depths of life.
"Jiangnan Evening News" reported that in Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, there is a fifty-year-old sister named Zhao Weihong, who sets up a stall in the vegetable market, but amazingly, she sells vegetables while painting. Green vegetables and turnips have become beautiful pictures, which are pleasing to the eye.
The eldest sister said: "Selling vegetables is for life, painting is to enjoy life." ”
If you can also be like Sister Zhao, there will be scenery everywhere in life.
04
Slowly fall in love, the old husband and wife can also be happy.
Zhao Kaigui and Zhu Jinzhi of Suji Town, Central District, Leshan City, walked together for more than fifty Spring and Autumn Festivals. Their stories were written into the Leshan Daily Newspaper, into the Leshan TV station, and became an example for everyone to learn.
Talking about the secret of love, Uncle Zhao said: "As long as you get married, it is a lifetime, and there is no talk of breaking up halfway." ”
The hand of the son grows old with the son. Being able to hold hands for a lifetime, only to be powerful, halfway to make a few words and disperse, not bad.
Perhaps, many young people do not like to ask "are you married" when they meet, but ask "Are you gone". Divorce can also be a capital for showing off, which is really puzzling.
For such a long time, someone to spend most of your life with you, and you can also help you scrub, comb your hair, and kiss your wrinkles when you are very old.
05
Speak slowly, and the chance of offending people is less.
When he was young, Zeng Guofan spoke quickly and with a strong Hunan accent.
When he first arrived in Beijing, his colleagues were uncomfortable hearing what he said and deliberately alienated him. Later, he adjusted the speed of speech and increased the time of silence, and the relationship between colleagues and him became more harmonious.
Zeng Guofan wrote such a saying: "Do not act arbitrarily, and do not speak freely." ”
Speak slowly, give yourself more time to think, and give others a chance to speak. And some bad topics can be adjusted in time.
The ancients said, "The mouth is the door of evil, and the tongue is the sword." It can be seen that people who can speak slowly must have been practiced hard, and their daily lives are also very self-disciplined.
06
Slowly work hard, life will come to fruition.
Writer Lessing said: "The person who walks the slowest, as long as he does not lose his goal, also walks faster than the person who wanders aimlessly." ”
Su Qin, a zongheng family in the Warring States period, when he first debuted, hoped to go to the Qin State to develop.
He told the King of Qin many ways to govern the country, but the King of Qin scoffed at him and laughed at him: "How can a person with few wings become a great thing?" ”
Leaving the King of Qin, Su Qin studied hard, learned the art of vertical and horizontal, and did not stop day and night.
Later, Su Qin was appreciated by Yan Wengong and began to lobby the Six Kingdoms to boycott the Qin state.
"If you want to go fast, you can't reach it", if you go too fast, you will fall. Only by slowing down can you walk more steadily and convince others.
Since childhood, we have studied hard for more than ten years, which not only allows us to learn and achieve success, but also sharpens our willpower; when we grow up, when our career is not smooth, we actually need to taoguang and cultivate obscurity.
07
In the Book of the Later Han Dynasty, Zhu Fu's biography, it is written: "The elderly who are violent in things will die prematurely, and those who have achieved success will be destroyed." ”
But those who do not know how to respect the law and desperately pursue speed will later suffer the consequences of their own. If you can slow down, maybe the results will not be very big, but there will be no disaster.
Slower, slower, as long as the energy is enough, life will always "spontaneously combust".
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.