The bustle outside the window, not my exuberance.
Especially in the New Year, in the face of relatives and friends, not everyone can talk about it, some things do not want to say, some words can not be said, keep silent, in order to make themselves feel a little comfortable.
And most of these people who remain silent in the group of classmates and relatives are the following types.
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People who don't make money are embarrassed to open their mouths.
Returning home and returning home is the brilliance that everyone longs to have.
In the early years of the Warring States period, Su Qin went out to lobby the nations, was not welcomed, and returned home, his wife did not come down from the loom to greet him, his sister-in-law did not cook for him, and his parents did not talk to him.
Su Qin was indignant, he studied the soldier's book day and night, went out of the mountain again, and the proposal to unite against Qin was finally adopted and became the face of the Six Kingdoms.
When Su Qin, who had gained fame and fortune, once again passed by his hometown, his parents went to the countryside thirty miles away to greet him, and his wife did not dare to look at him head-on, but listened to him with her ears sideways. The sister-in-law crawled on the ground like a snake, kneeling down again and again to thank her sins.
The attitude of relatives towards Su Qin was completely different, completely determined by his wealth and status.
Every New Year's Festival, it is tantamount to an annual "big summary" between classmates, relatives and friends, getting together, from the outside in is a big competition of economic strength.
People who make money, wherever they go, are the focus of everyone's attention, and the topics initiated by them can always get everyone's echo, triggering heated discussions, greetings and warmth, and harvesting envy and admiration.
People who have not made money, wherever they go, consciously can't lift their heads, and after three or two sentences, they have nothing to say. First, I can't catch the words of others, and second, I can't achieve anything myself, and it will only be a joke to say it.
In particular, in the past, I have always been the leader of the group of classmates and relatives, my academic performance has always been leading, and my work income is quite OK, but I am surpassed by people who are not as good as myself, and it seems that I should respond to the phrase "feng shui turns".
Or, in the past, the self, the same is not as good as people, every time is the bottom, many years later is still the bottom, saying anything seems to be superfluous, are for others as a "foil", it is better not to say anything.
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People who look down on social interaction do not want to visit relatives and friends.
There is a passage circulating on the Internet: "Bye-year, a technical work that has not yet been learned." ”
Judging from the New Year's greeting process sorted out by netizens, everywhere is similar: early in the morning, it was woken up by the sound of firecrackers; next, it was the "fancy call of parents"; after eating breakfast in a hurry, they were urged to carry large bags of gifts, prepare a large number of red envelopes, and began to visit relatives and friends.
Every time you go to a family, it is the same topic, inseparable from work, family, children and income, when you meet elderly people, you always have to accept red envelopes, give what gifts in return, keep "pulling", that posture, do not know that the fight is difficult to solve.
Really being able to sit down and talk with your heart and ears has become an unattainable wish, opening up the surface of peace, and once you talk deeply, you will find that every family has a difficult scripture, and saying more is tears.
And classmates party, is also the same routine, the contact before the party, always let people have an inexplicable excitement and impulse, after all, many years have not seen, or a little missed; but really get together, you will find that once played well, now is still a good friend; once the relationship was flat, now is still lukewarm.
If there is a particularly rich or famous person, everyone else becomes a supporting character, and no one listens to anything.
Classmates gatherings have become another vanity fair, wasting not only meal expenses, but also rare rest time.
In the final analysis, visiting relatives and friends during the New Year's Festival, on the surface, is to contact feelings, but in fact, it is a resource exchange, and people with equal strength will talk with each other very happily and will not be exhausted.
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People who have been in the field for many years have strange feelings.
Between relatives, often walk around, feel more intimate; between classmates, often contact, so as not to be strangers.
However, life is a difficult problem for anyone. On the way to making a living, there are not as many people who can make time to maintain feelings as we think, and some people disperse as they walk.
Classmate Xiaolin, the best married of our junior high school classmates, followed her husband, who is an engineer, settled overseas for a long time and lived the life of a full-time wife. In the circle of friends, it is not a piece of "the years are quiet, the world is stable", which makes people envious.
Xiao Lin occasionally went back to her hometown for the New Year, and began to invite her old classmates to meet in the group early, but when she really arrived home, there were very few people who came to the appointment.
After all, Xiao Lin was already a mrs. Kuo who had no worries about food and clothing, and no one else, whether it was material life or spiritual pursuits, could not be on par with it.
As soon as she began to chat, the boredom that Xiao Lin identified was exactly the luxury that others had worked hard to achieve in their lifetime. The speaker has no intention, the listener intends, the huge gap is opened between the students, everyone knows that they are no longer in the same class, the distance is getting farther and farther, it is better to say goodbye.
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Sick people are in no mood to gossip.
Among the New Year's wishes, the most spoken phrase is "Good health, all the best." "Health has become the greatest wealth, whether there is money or not, having health means having the capital of happiness."
But no, the older people get, the more they will understand that everything is a small thing except life and death.
For example, you hate the nagging of your parents in your daily life, and you hate them for always ignoring advice, going to do all kinds of work, making some humble small money, and annoying you everywhere.
But in fact, if they are sick and it becomes difficult to get out of bed and walk, you will find that as long as they can take care of themselves, everything is fine.
And if your health is in crisis, don't say visit relatives and friends, that is, looking at the bustle and noise outside the window, you will feel all kinds of discomfort, and sorrow will come from it.
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Conclusion:
People, the older they get, the more they begin to be silent.
Not because there is nothing to say, but because I understand that some people can no longer talk to them, and some things are far better than saying clearly and clearly.
Perhaps, one day, when we see each other again, a simple greeting will be enough.
Because, the person who loves will always love, and the person who does not love will leave sooner or later.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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