Text | Summer Warm Wind Xi · Sound | Zhi Han
Miyazaki once said:
"Don't rely on a person easily, it will become your habit and make you cowardly." Whenever and wherever you are, learn to walk independently. ”
Less speech, more precipitation, sober and independent.
The world is impermanent, and nothing is eternal. The only person you can really rely on is yourself.
The more independent you are, the more advanced your life will be.
Material independence, life has confidence
There is a question on Zhihu: Why should people work hard?
The highest praise answer:
It's to make yourself more independent. When you see something you like, don't worry about your own balance, don't worry about other people's faces.
Only economic independence can be independent personality, and life independence can be independent thinking.
Material independence is a person's greatest confidence.
In the novel "Flowing Golden Years", the heroine Jiang Nansun was born in a wealthy family, ate and wore without worry, lived in a villa, and studied in a prestigious school.
The sky was unpredictable, the Jiang family went bankrupt, and Jiang Nansun's father died, leaving a pile of debts.
Jiang Nansun walked out of the greenhouse, chose to be independent, and took on all the debts.
In the work, the hardships of colleagues and the suppression of leaders, she must endure the humiliation and burden.
In life, in the face of a patriarchal family, she learned to calmly watch.
Step by step, Jiang Nansun was promoted to a higher salary, paid off debts, did not have to look at the faces of others, and walked out of the dark desperate situation.
For this process, Yishu wrote:
"Dig a hole, hide it, cultivate diligently, train troops in secret."
One day, breaking through the ground, it must be like a seventeen-year-old cicada, mixed with the fragrance of osmanthus flowers, and the sound is loud, and passers-by know it. ”
You have to stay up, stay up to the top of the earth.
You have to cultivate and practice until you don't move.
Put the time to complain and invest in hard work. The material independence of those sweats is the only long-term meal ticket.
The real big picture is on your own.
Life is a chicken feather, but you must have the real ability to make a bold move and cut through thorns on the road of life.
A person who is materially independent is the most confident person.
Spiritual independence, life has a way out
Writer Woolf said:
"Once a person has an independent personality, he is no longer muddy and wasted years. In other words, she will have a sense of fulfillment and happiness throughout her life. ”
Spiritual independence is manifested in: emotional stability, assertiveness, and no inferiority.
During the Warring States period, Su Qin traveled to various countries, but was repeatedly rejected.
All the way away, Su Qin spent all his money, wearing rags and straw shoes, carrying luggage, like a beggar on the street.
Back at home, his wife, parents, and sister-in-law all hated Su Qin.
"My wife does not regard me as her husband, my sister-in-law does not regard me as her uncle, and my parents do not regard me as a son, which is the sin of All Qin."
As an ordinary person, I have long been in pain and decadent for a lifetime.
However, Su Qin understood from this that only when a person is materially and spiritually independent can he win the respect of others.
He opened the book box, studied the sages' thoughts, worked day and night, read the classics hard, and drove away the sleepiness with "head overhanging beams and cone thorns".
A year later, Su Qin went to the State of Yan again, proposing a strategy of the Six Kingdoms to jointly resist Qin, and let Zhao Suhou pay tribute to him.
Saying goes:
"The mountain will fall, and everyone will run."
Independence is the ability to pull oneself out of the abyss.
"Cold Kiln Fu" has clouds:
"Though the clothes are torn, they always have the appearance of etiquette, and they have sorrows on their faces, and they cherish the amount of peace in their arms."
When times do not meet, it is better to be poor and keep to one's share; if the heart is not deceived, there will be a day to raise its eyebrows. ”
Everyone has times of poverty, and your mindset determines whether you can get out or not.
You can be suppressed, but you must not be defeated.
You can be slighted, but you must not deny yourself.
Standing at the head of the tide, Fang Zhilang was high and the wind was urgent; when he ascended high and looked far away, he saw that the clouds were wide and the sky was high.
Spiritual independence is the only way out in a desperate situation.
The more independent, the better the life
Remember the story of Dong Mingzhu.
She was originally in Nanjing, cared for by her husband, and taught her son.
Later, a sudden change occurred, her husband died, and Dong Mingzhu supported the whole family.
In the 1990s, she went to Zhuhai and worked in the marketing department of Gree Group.
In the first few years, Dong Mingzhu did not take annual leave, and one person's sales accounted for one-eighth of the entire company.
From a grassroots employee to today's chairman, Dong Mingzhu has forced herself into a strong woman.
The reporter asked: "Do you think you are lucky?" ”
Dong Mingzhu replied: "Good luck is because you dare to challenge and dare to bear the consequences independently." ”
The more likely a person is to lose his sovereignty if he is dependent on others.
Independence is hard, and not being independent is even harder.
There is no princess life in this world, more is the big heroine who rides the wind and waves.
They carry their lights in the darkness, turning things around in the midst of bad people.
The so-called years are quiet and good, behind which are the independent struggles of countless people.
But its hardships are courageous, but its perseverance is the only way to achieve jade.
As the old saying goes:
"There is no way out of misfortune, but man calls himself."
The strong are self-indulgent, and the weak are conceited.
For the rest of his life, polish the glass heart into a diamond and let the days ahead shine brightly.
Read this sentence:
"No one's persuasion will make you fully enlightened, and what really makes you sober is every experience." After suffering losses, regretting and hurting, you will become indestructible. ”
Material independence, life has confidence;
Spiritual independence, life will have a way out;
The more independent a person is, the better his life.
May you be strong enough not to be afraid of any wind and rain, but also lucky enough that someone understands that someone is favored.
Author: Xia Nuanfengxi
Zhang Youyi
Dong Qing, Dong Mingzhu, Tao Huabi
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