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In our minds, we often think of such a scene: brothers and sisters get along, no matter who is in trouble, they can be pulled.
In the TV series "My Brothers and Sisters", the four children of Yi Bitter, Si Tian, Qi Tian, and Qi Miao had to be fostered in different families because of the unexpected death of their parents, and then completely lost contact.
When they grow up, they do everything they can to get back together. At this time, Si Tian suffered from a terminal illness; in order to help the boss collect debts, Yi Bi and Qi Miao became enemies.
Even if there are many difficulties, but the strength of family affection, to resolve all the grievances, the four brothers and sisters work together to treat Si Tian's illness, held a warm family concert...
The ancients said, "All the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit; the whole world is bustling for profit." ”
When you are short of money, go to the homes of your brothers and sisters and walk around, you will understand the "human feelings". Perhaps, the beauty of the big family is only in the space of imagination, do not have too many extravagant expectations.
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People are poor, and brotherhood is indifferent.
Someone said, "When you're poor, dogs will hate you." ”
During the Warring States period, there was a strategist named Su Qin, who when he was young, there was no sign of decapitation and appearance, and he was an ordinary person.
For the sake of ideal ambition, Su Qin sold his family wealth and went to several countries to lobby, hoping to be reused by the king. All ended in failure.
Su Qin returned home very depressed.
At this time, his mother scolded him fiercely, his wife did not look back at him in front of the loom, and the brother and sister-in-law cooked at home, but did not give him food.
Later, Su Qin studied hard and was reused in the Yan kingdom. The family looked at him with astonishment.
Man, that's the reality. When you are rich and powerful, you have a lot of relatives and friends, and your status in the family is particularly high; when you are poor, you eat at home, and you have no place.
We live in a state of ceremonies, and everyone has to be present when there are any happy events in the families of our brothers and sisters, but the poor are most likely to be left out in the cold. What is even more tragic is that because the gift money sent is too small, there is no face at all.
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When people are poor, don't open their mouths to borrow money.
In ancient times, there was a man named Fan Jin, who was bent on obtaining a meritorious name, but his family was so poor that he could not even pay for the road.
He found the old man who was a butcher and began to borrow money for the road.
The old man laughed and said, "You're delusional, aren't you?" Look at your appearance, sharp-billed monkey cheeks, not like Wenqu Xing, or spit on the urine to take a picture of yourself. ”
The money was not borrowed, but was counted down, and the other party was an "old man".
If you open your mouth to borrow money from your brothers and sisters, you will find that their attitude is comparable to that of the "old man".
Many years ago, my mother wanted to build a new house in the countryside, found my fourth uncle, and wanted to borrow twenty thousand yuan. The fourth uncle was silent for half a day, and suddenly a sentence appeared: "Money is regular, if it is lent to you, this interest matter, the loss is not small." ”
Pinch your fingers, the money of the fourth uncle's family is 200,000 single passbooks, if you do not withdraw in advance according to the contract, the interest will lose tens of thousands of yuan. In this way, the mother had to return empty-handed.
Shakespeare said, "Don't borrow money, don't ask others to borrow money, the result of borrowing money is often that people have both money." ”
Everyone is worried that their money will not be able to get it back if it goes into someone else's pocket. If you are very poor, your brothers and sisters will think that you will definitely do the "borrowed and unrequited" thing, refuse to borrow money, for good reasons and with a very harsh attitude.
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When people are poor, don't always worry about "parents' property."
There are many people who think: "Parents heartache is useless for children." ”
That being said, when the parents "favored", other brothers and sisters also had the posture of "attacking them in groups". Most rich people will not voluntarily give up the inheritance of their parents' property because their families have money.
After my grandfather passed away, my grandmother took the initiative and distributed some jewelry left by her ancestors to her children.
Grandma said that the uncle's family is the poorest, take a little more things, but also a help for everyone.
The little uncle immediately said loudly: "When my father passed away, he only paid five hundred yuan, and we all paid five thousand yuan." How does this count? We can't let everyone suffer losses every time. ”
After a while of noise, the uncle got the jewelry, at least. His poverty is his life, and it has nothing to do with others.
At the critical time, everyone stared at the things on their parents and did not give in. If the poor are counting on the benefits of the extended family, the idea is naïve.
In terms of rules, brothers and sisters should be "balanced" when distributing things; emotionally speaking, they should be "inclined to the poor". Emotional things, who did the Lord? Brothers and sisters are not yet minors, the distribution of family wealth, parents can still be the master, after adulthood, parents can only "keep their mouths shut".
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People are poor, and it is better to rely on who they are than on themselves.
Adults, after all, must understand that people who do not have an umbrella on their heads rely on themselves for everything.
When you're poor, you don't make a sound. It's a big deal to beg for food, as long as you don't die of hunger, you will still be a man in the future.
But when feelings and money intersect, they will be unclear and chilling.
When you learn to walk, you must have experienced such a thing: in front of your parents, if you fall, you will cry loudly and wait for your parents to help you; if your parents are not around, you fall, but you will not cry, but just stumble to get up and walk home.
It can be seen that relying on thought is a terrible thing, enough to make a person vulnerable.
The poorer you are, the more you have to grit your teeth and live yourself as a mountain. In this way, when brothers and sisters interact, there is no sense of difference, and the person who looks down on you, you should not look down on him.
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Conclusion.
How to understand the emotions of brothers and sisters?
As the saying goes, "A mother gives birth to nine children, and even a mother has ten likes." ”
It is not surprising that people who come out of a family have a large gap between rich and poor. You can't be jealous of your siblings' property just because you're poor. We must understand that no one's money comes from the wind, but from labor.
If your parents have left behind a million family fortunes and helped a certain person to get rich, you should not be red-eyed. After all, parents also have difficulties and will also make mistakes in judgment.
At any time, hatred is useless, love is useful. Your sincerity, like a spring breeze, blowing between your family, can always make the house warmer.
Man, but do good deeds, and have a clear conscience.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.