A person spent thirty dollars to buy a movie ticket, and later found that the plot of the movie was terrible, and in order not to waste the movie ticket money that had been spent, the person still watched the movie.
In this way, this person not only lost thirty yuan of movie ticket money, but also wasted an hour and a half watching a boring movie, and this thirty dollars is sunk costs.
The so-called sunk cost is actually the cost that we have paid when we do something, and this cost cannot be recovered.
Whether we give up or continue to insist, the costs that have been spent are irretrievable, and giving up means loss, and people generally have a nature of loss and hatred.
Therefore, when most people face sunk costs, they usually choose to continue to increase costs, so that the cycle is repeated and it is difficult to give up.
Therefore, psychological research has shown that the best way to eat a man is to continue to increase the "sunk cost".
Guide men to increase their invisible contributions to themselves
The so-called invisible payment is actually time, emotion, etc.
At the beginning of the TV series "Beauty and The Heart", Dou Yifang did not rush to get the favor of the DaiWang like other family members who were moving forward together, she called her sick when the Daiwang came to find herself, and the next day she deliberately used the kite on the road that the Daiwang had to pass, and then "accidentally" bumped into the Daiwang's body.
Dai Wang was very angry and felt that Dou Yifang was teasing himself, but Dou Yifang said that he was afraid that this favor would be fleeting like fireworks.
She was afraid of losing, so she retreated into the future, and she could hold the heart of the daiwang, and from then on, she only accompanied Dou Yifang, and her love for her only increased.
There is a reliable standard for love, and that is the time and emotions that people give.
The so-called romance is to waste time with people you like, and the time a man pays for a woman will also make a woman a person full of security.
He Jiong once said: "Do you know what is most important in a relationship? Not appearance, not bread, not even loyalty or not, but sharing. ”
Sharing is the beginning of the fall of all relationships, it has time to pay and emotionally pay, the two are combined into one, and slowly men get used to such giving, and naturally they will care more and more about women.
Guide men to increase their tangible contributions to themselves
The so-called tangible giving is actually money.
How much a person cares about an event depends not only on how much value it will bring him, but also on how much it costs him.
For example, one mobile phone was given to you at a charge, and the other was bought after spending three months' salary, which of these two mobile phones will you care more about?
It must be the second, because it costs a lot of material costs, and once it is lost, it means that there will be a large loss, and this loss is still irreversible.
Haruki Murakami once said: "For those who are right, they must be willing to spend money, willing to give opportunities, and those who can buy it with money, it is best not to think about gains and losses, buy it, and the rest of the energy is spent on the places that cannot be bought with money." ”
In a relationship between the sexes, women should not feel embarrassed to spend men's money, nor should they feel that spending men's money will be said by others to be material worship.
In fact, as long as it is not a lion opening its mouth, then spending a man's money within a reasonable range is feasible.
This will not only allow us to take the lead in love because we occupy the cost of men, but also allow men to be met by the needs of needs, the best of both worlds.
True high emotional intelligence is never blindly sacrificing oneself and not thinking about oneself.
But while getting along with yourself and thinking about yourself, you can also reassure others, so that you can manage love well.
Guide men to continuously increase sunk costs
The little prince had a rose, he fertilized, loosened the soil, watered every day, and later, he went to the earth, only to find that his rose could not be taken out of his hands on this planet, but he did not know why, this rose just could not let other flowers replace its place in his heart.
That's because the flower poured the little prince's efforts into it, so it could easily attract his attention.
People won't remember the person who gave a lot for themselves, but they will remember the person who gave a lot for it, because people are selfish, and the same is true for love.
Therefore, if you want to dominate the relationship between the sexes, you must learn to make men pay, and you must increase the sunk cost of men.
As Zhu Yaoxie once said: "True love between men and women cannot be achieved by body or spirit, and can only be achieved in the state of mutual integration of each other's body and spirit." ”
Of course, love life has always been two people, when we ask men to pay for themselves, we can't sit back and enjoy it, but also know how to pay for men, after all, love is never the result of one-line thinking processing, so we don't have to be too selfish, but also think more about each other and pay.