Dou Yifang, played by Lin Xinru in "Beauty and The Heart", is also a winner in history. She became Liu Heng's concubine at the age of 16, gave birth to a pair of children, originally lived a simple and happy life, but at the age of 29, she was blind, this blind empress, quickly lost the favor of her husband. ?????
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At the same time, losing her health and the care of her husband, this double fatal blow made Dou Yifang too late to be depressed, she quickly adjusted her combat strategy and played a good hand of cards with strength:
Excellent children are her best trump card. She attached great importance to the education of her children, cultivating her eldest son to become a prince praised by everyone, cultivating her second son into a powerful Liang king, and marrying her daughter to the grandson of the founding hero;
In the era of filial piety, the support of her mother-in-law was her most solid backing. In order to consolidate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she listened to the advice of the empress dowager, let her niece and granddaughter marry the prince, and fulfilled the empress's desire to consolidate the power of foreign relatives;
Her able relatives were the cornerstone of her consolidation of her position as empress. She always remembered the lesson of the former Lü clan's destruction, and never let her foreign relatives have too much power, preventing her own brother from serving as a high-powered prime minister.
Dou Yifang, who was blind in both eyes, was originally an unfortunate person who was choked by fate, but he relied on his own wisdom to achieve survival and gorgeous counterattack. She not only sat firmly in the position of empress, but also became the longest-lived empress of the Han Dynasty, influencing three generations of emperors, which is really a female model. With the following three points, she can also influence three generations of emperors by becoming blind in both eyes.
1. Sober self-awareness
After going blind in both eyes, she immediately realized that her position was precarious, and the road ahead would be more difficult and the world would be more uncertain. A blind queen is bound to be questioned from all sides, and if she cannot get out of the predicament, it will affect her children and family.
2. Super emotional management ability
Under the double fatal blow, she did not become depressed and decadent, giving up on herself, but quickly adjusted her emotions and returned to the "battlefield" in the best state.
3. Rational use of barbell strategy
The so-called barbell strategy refers to a reasonable allocation of time and energy, and the balance of force at both ends of the barbell.
After Dou Yifang was blind, she carefully analyzed her own situation, and made a clear and clear division of the human-machine relationship she wanted to deal with, she did not choose to make a desperate bet, only to cultivate children or only filial piety to the empress, but to balance the force.
How to get along with her husband, how to get along with her mother-in-law, how to get along with her children, how to get along with relatives, she has a clear score in her heart, and she has her own way of treating any relationship.
If you want to successfully achieve a counterattack, you must pay more than ordinary efforts. Those who have become great things in ancient and modern times must not only have supernatural talents, but also have perseverance, which is an unchangeable law.