At night reading 丨 When the trough is low, the three keys to life are broken

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Life goes up and down, everyone will experience an unusually difficult time, the embarrassment of life, the frustration of work, the pressure of school, the trepidation of love can not last forever...

In the face of the trough, some people will give up on themselves and wait for the turnaround, but some people can bravely break through the puzzle.

Oniguzi said, "An Xu is quiet, humbly and calmly waiting for the damage." "When there are problems in life, learn to adjust your mentality in time and calm your heart in order to turn the tide."

And the best way for people to cope with the trough is to find these three keys to make people break the game.

See yourself clearly, you will introspect yourself

There are two baggages on the human body, one in the front and one in the back. The front is the shortcomings of others, and the back is the shortcomings of oneself. We can easily find other people's problems, but few people can look back at their own shortcomings.

The biggest problem in life is not the inability to recognize others and the world, but the difficulty of recognizing oneself.

Many times, only self-examination can be self-evident.

Zeng Guofan's younger brother Zeng Guohua was extremely talented, and Zeng Guofan focused on cultivating him. However, Zeng Guohua is lazy in temperament, does not like to read, is not diligent enough and complains too much. As a result, in the examination hall, it has repeatedly failed.

Once called talented, but now in a low ebb, Zeng Guohua is extremely disappointed, complaining all day long, and even blaming his wife for not restraining herself from studying at ease.

After zeng guofan learned of such a ridiculous move, he was greatly angered and wrote a reply: "Who is to blame for his bad deeds, not reading books and not studying diligently, and giving up on himself?" ”

Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise. People are not afraid of not having experienced thousands of mountains and rivers, they are afraid of understanding too late. Only when a person learns to bend over and introspect, dare to admit his mistakes, not indulge in pride, and not stop at adversity, can he find the key to the problem, can he truly understand himself, recognize himself, and thus improve himself.

Lao Tzu said, "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise." The winner is strong, and the self-victor is strong. "Only those who have self-knowledge and can see themselves clearly will become strong in life."

Knowing others is called wisdom, and knowing oneself is the real wisdom.

Accept yourself, don't indignify

Sanmao said: "There is a kind of power called accepting oneself, accepting and seeing one's shortcomings. Accept your own ordinariness, but also accept your imperfect self. ”

Zhuangzi once told such a story in "The Great Master": Zi Qi and Zi You are good friends. Once, Zi Yu had a strange illness and became a hunchback, and Zi Qi was very surprised when he saw it.

The good friend who had been a gentleman before suddenly hunched over, and Zi Qi found it difficult to accept, but Zi Yu himself did not seem to care at all.

Zi Qi asked, "Don't you feel sad for yourself?" Ziyu said, "No, why should I grieve?" If my left hand becomes a chicken, I use it to report, and if my right hand becomes a bow, I use it to beat the birds and roast it. If my spine becomes a wheel and my spirit becomes a horse, I can drive it around the world. When we can't change anything, the best way is to accept ourselves. ”

Instead of giving up on himself, Ziyu did not humble himself and did not consume internally, calmly accepted his current self, spent all his time on learning, and eventually became a famous scholar.

Barkin said: "For every setback in life, every ups and downs, every failure, every bump, we must learn to face up to, adapt, absorb and use." ”

People's life cannot always be smooth, and ups and downs are the norm in life. In the face of unsatisfactory life, people at a low level will only be overstretched and complain about others; while people at a high level are good at adjusting their mentality in time, finding ways to live thoroughly and calmly.

Only by accepting the imperfect self will you make yourself more perfect.

Motivate yourself and start again

Mao Dun said: "People's ambitions are usually proportional to their abilities. "As big as your ambitions are, your achievements are as high as they are. Constantly motivating yourself will become a winner in life.

During the Warring States period, there was a young man named Su Qin, who studied under Oniguzi to learn the knowledge of governing the country and the state. After completing his studies, Su Qin confidently went to the Qin State to apply, but was ruthlessly rejected by the King of Qin.

The battered Su Qin was not discouraged, and he began to study more assiduously, studying the soldier's book and battle book day and night. Sleepy at night, in order to drive away drowsiness, he often stabbed himself in the thigh with an awl.

After several years of hard reading, Su Qin finally developed the strategy of "combining and indulging", which was favored by the Six Kingdoms. He was also invited to become the prime minister of the Six Kingdoms, and his fame was very important.

Su Shi famously said: "Those who have achieved great things in the past will not only have supernatural talents, but also have the will to persevere." "If you want to succeed, you must continue to forge ahead with perseverance at the low point of life."

If you languish and lose confidence, you will never be able to get ahead. On the contrary, if you refuse to bow to fate, keep motivating yourself, and persevere in your struggle, you will one day stand out.

When people are at a low point, they must be good at turning disadvantages into advantages. Only by constantly adjusting yourself and turning stumbling blocks into stepping stones will you be able to take your life to a higher level.

Attitude is everything. When there is a problem in life, the most important thing is to solve it, not to "lie flat". It is better to rely on heaven and earth than on yourself. Disturb others, it is better to catch up with yourself.

For the rest of your life, may you step on the mud and turn your heart to the light.